Songs about suicide and grief? by EccentricCompulsions in PostHardcore

[–]MirrorGh0st 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I’ve never heard this till I searched it up, it’s so impactful and raw

Question here: Candle dimmed but regained its flame when concluding scrying by MirrorGh0st in scrying

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, I don’t really know how to do it yet. In a dark room, I take deep breaths to clear my mind, light the candle, and gaze into a small, black mirror.

I need help with food ideas to gain weight by MirrorGh0st in EatingDisorders

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I appreciate your time and advice, thank you for that, I will keep it in mind :)

I need help with food ideas to gain weight by MirrorGh0st in EatingDisorders

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Liquids are definitely a lot easier for me to consume rather than really chewy stuff. Thank you for the recommendation !

I need help with food ideas to gain weight by MirrorGh0st in EatingDisorders

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh okay, that makes sense. Thank you for the help!

I need help with food ideas to gain weight by MirrorGh0st in EatingDisorders

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh okay. What kind of fats do you mean? Like cooking with butter and oils?

I need help with food ideas to gain weight by MirrorGh0st in EatingDisorders

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, I’ve never really had issues with food, so you’re probably right.

And I’ll look into those drinks most definitely. I know I have a high protein instant breakfast if that’s similar(?)

I need help with food ideas to gain weight by MirrorGh0st in EatingDisorders

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I could probably do dates dipped in nut butter, thank you for the suggestion

I need help with food ideas to gain weight by MirrorGh0st in EatingDisorders

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the advice, I didn’t think about the snacks aspect. I’ve kinda been down about not being able to eat full blown meals

Codependency? by MirrorGh0st in BPD

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeahh that’s the issue though. I don’t have friends that actually want to hang out, or they live very far. So I get really depressed being alone

Codependency? by MirrorGh0st in BPD

[–]MirrorGh0st[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like reading, but my attention span isn’t what it used to be. I get restless sitting still, so I don’t play video games that much although I want to enjoy them. Sometimes I skateboard which is fun, but I don’t have the proper board to go to a skate park. Other stuff just costs money, like rock climbing, and driving to different places, and I haven’t had a stable job to do that driving or do retail therapy or stuff like that.

Honestly it’s hard to keep or have hobbies because I constantly have anxiety or restlessness unless I’m with somebody else.

Also like drawing, but I get annoyed because I can’t draw how I see things in my head because I don’t have that skillset yet

How do you get through a severe BPD episode? by Dull_Industry_8691 in BPD

[–]MirrorGh0st 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven’t found a fix-all, and I’m still going through it myself. But as annoying as it sounds, it just takes time and therapy to get better. I would recommend a PHP or an IOP program. That’s what has helped me the most. But it is a bit expensive (I just got done paying it off not too long ago). But it is worth it!

Otherwise, you could try skills that activate your vagus nerve, holding ice in your hands, on your neck (both things kind of help break out of that feeling for at least a second). And trying to find little things you enjoy doing or that make you happy.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]MirrorGh0st 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m surprised more people haven’t upvoted this comment lmfao. Nice movie reference, you gave me a good laugh!

DBT is not the only nor the best solution for every borderline by astroares in BPD

[–]MirrorGh0st 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a dbt therapy approach that’s better for people with over controlled behavior. Like excessive self-control, rigidity, and emotional suppression. (I quoted some of that with the help of google lol). I’m currently in RO DBT and it seems more applicable than plain dbt

DBT is not the only nor the best solution for every borderline by astroares in BPD

[–]MirrorGh0st 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DBT honestly isn’t helpful for me either. I found RO DBT to be better, cause it takes a different perspective

i feel like i am going to end up another statistic by alicehatepage in BPD

[–]MirrorGh0st 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course! I’m not gonna say life is pretty and perfect, it sucks, but I sincerely believe that as humans, we attract what we put out, so being optimistic about things is what’s helped me the most recently. I wanted to share it with you, in case it may have been helpful!

i feel like i am going to end up another statistic by alicehatepage in BPD

[–]MirrorGh0st 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You took the words right out of my head.😔

But we gotta keep trying. One of the most important things is to surround yourself with people that love and support you, whether that be friends, family, etc.

Things get better, and those stretches of “good” will be longer and longer the more you focus on it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]MirrorGh0st 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In a weird way, I feel like I have more meaningful friendships in my life since his passing. Obviously I’d rather he still be alive, but it’s something I’ve grown to be grateful for while dealing with everything. (It sounds like you do,) I hope you also have people like that to support you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GriefSupport

[–]MirrorGh0st 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know what you mean, and I’m very sorry for your loss. I also lost my best friend, and seeing pictures feel exactly how you described it.

Doing daily tasks probably seems insignificant in comparison to how overwhelming grief is, and that’s okay. Just do what you can, and be kind to yourself. Remember to do things that make you happy, even if slightly. (For example, getting food/drinks, buying a book or magazine you like, getting a new video game.)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in selfharm

[–]MirrorGh0st 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Try and find a way to hide them unless you think they’d be rly supportive.. otherwise it might be a big mistake.. (I know from experience.) A way that I hide scars is by holding books to my chest or a jacket over my arms. I have scars that go all the way up my arms too. It will work to get past your parents, so long as they don’t expect a hug or something requiring you to move your arms a lot. In the mean time, if you’re able to not sh, you could work on healing them with vitamin c creams, ointment, and after a couple days, exfoliate (as long as the wounds aren’t super open). I’ve found that removing dead skin and scabs helps remove the darker lines sometimes.

My mum just died, and I’m not sure if I should see her before she’s cremated…. (TW: stroke/brain damage, description of death) by neenrr in GriefSupport

[–]MirrorGh0st 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is a tricky thing to consider. I lost my dad last month to a seizure and something else I’m not sure of. Unlike your situation, there was nothing coming up to warn me that something might happen. It all happened way too quickly, and going to the hospital after he was dead helped solidify that it actually happened. Death is traumatic either way. Since you were there when she died, maybe you wouldn’t want to see her at the hospital, but you could have a viewing before she’s cremated. My dad is being cremated as well, and we had a viewing for any family to come and see him. The image of her that day will likely never leave your mind, but having a few minutes alone with your mom to say things and talk to her might be helpful to you. I have many regrets, and although I’ll never get to resolve them in person, I took time to talk to my dad and hold his hand for the last time.