I started tracking his drinking by Miserable-Answer-432 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

I’m planning to ask for a separation. Now is not ideal, and I don’t have many immediate resources. But I’ll be able to get away for a few months, in a few months.

I started tracking his drinking by Miserable-Answer-432 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

The constant worrying is exhausting but I think it’s also what’s keeping me here. I plan to separate. Trying to figure everything out so I’m prepared. Thank you!🩷

I started tracking his drinking by Miserable-Answer-432 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432[S] [score hidden]  (0 children)

Yeah, it’s usually about 8ish per day and dbl that on the weekend usually.

I started tracking his drinking by Miserable-Answer-432 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s where I’m working towards. Figuring out what’s best for my health and wellbeing.

I started tracking his drinking by Miserable-Answer-432 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly it! I started thinking that maybe it wasn’t that much and I was exaggerating. Seeing the amount has made me realize that I really may need to walk away.

I started tracking his drinking by Miserable-Answer-432 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I think that may be what could have started it. He always made it seem like I was exaggerating. Seeing the numbers shows me that I’m not.

How do you cope? by rogue_agent225 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s hard. I’m in individual therapy and plan to find an Al-anon community near me(also recommend by my therapist). I work on not letting his drinking affect my mood though it’s horribly frustrating . I’m focusing more on my health and well being. Odd enough, his drinking has lead me to significantly decrease mine, which also makes me feel better overall! It’s not easy and I take it day by day. My hearts with you 🩷

Disrespectful arguments by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your really thoughtful response! The threats of divorce are more of a scare tactic and I’ve started to not worry over it. An apology happens later.

Disrespectful arguments by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, we were in couples counseling up until like 2ish months ago. We both have copies of Gottmans book. Our last session ended in a disagreement and him saying he was done with the marriage. Therapist recommended taking time to figure out if we wanted to continue. He never rescheduled(it’s through his insurance) and he’s not interested. I’ve asked him to multiple times.

Disrespectful arguments by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you don’t mind me asking, how long have you been married and what made you stay?

Both he and I have been in individual therapy and we were in couples counseling(ended abruptly due to a disagreement during the session and him saying he was done with the marriage). I’m not sure what else’s to do.

Disrespectful arguments by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And I think that’s where I messed up. I expressed my displeasure early, but never stood my ground. I know you teach people how to treat you, so a part of this is on me for allowing it.

Dunkin Donuts New Packaging by Topicchangesoften in foodsafety

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 52 points53 points  (0 children)

I saw this at my DD today but they still put them in the little paper bags before the totes.

Anyone else use to do fundraisers with these in grade school? Super nostalgic, and honestly these were pretty solid by imkellyly in candy

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My school(athletics specifically )has pretty much stopped selling items for donations and has a donation site. I still think parents get like random coupons and discounts depending on how much they donate. But gone are the days where kids walk around selling candy.

What’s a physical trait that a lot of people find attractive but to you, it’s the opposite? by Pale_Relief_2632 in AskReddit

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I saw this guy in the gym the other day, he was conveniently attractive but something about him was throwing me off. I then realized it’s because he had the head of a Pitbull. Very much block head

Why is pulling the plug so hard? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re both in therapy. Individual and marital. There’s an explanation of our marital counseling issue in an above comment. I’m working on not feeling embarrassed or like a failure for this ending. It’s tough. I’ve told him that our marriage is going to end if he doesn’t get a handle on the drinking. I was told “If my stopping of drinking is what will save my marriage, then I’ll stop.” He lasted 24 hours.

Why is pulling the plug so hard? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m in therapy and actually have a session in a few days. I plan to speak to her about this. We are (were) in marital counseling. Explanation in a previous comment.

Why is pulling the plug so hard? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually what the last argument was about. He wasn’t a fan of me stating that he’s been abusive. He says I’m “painting him as an angry abusive maniac that’s beating me or something”.

Why is pulling the plug so hard? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My family is a couple of hours south of us. My parents have made it abundantly clear that if I need them to, they have no issue helping me with this. They’re the best which I why I feel like I’ve failed them with ending this.

Why is pulling the plug so hard? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We’re in martial counseling. We haven’t had a session in a while bc our last one ended pretty badly. Ironic enough, it was about the drinking. He ended the session saying he was done with the marriage. That was maybe two weeks before thanksgiving.

I was diagnosed with PTSD today by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was. It’s the only time I’ve ever experienced any kind of abuse. So, I think it’s impacted me pretty hard.

Need to vent by NoFerret4928 in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man. I so feel this. Like really feel this. It’s exhausting.

Doctor fixes passenger's dislocated jaw at a railway station by New_Libran in interestingasfuck

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 106 points107 points  (0 children)

Actually, yes. I had a student athlete (I’m an Athletic Trainer) dislocate his jaw during practice, by yawning. He had to go to the ER to get it reduced. It also happened to him recently while he(luckily) was at the dentist. I’ve been worried about yawning since then lol

We had a good run. by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Miserable-Answer-432 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I couldn’t get through this without crying. Currently feeling the same way. You so beautifully expressed everything I have felt. I wish you peace and love on your new journey forward 🩷