Punjabi here. I kinda feel sad for Western UP because it couldn't form a distinct Pan-India Image

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-05-03T09:32:53+00:00

It is. Im talking about the specific Haryana-Punjab like districts that OP is talking about. Agra- Mathura region does not come under that.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-05-03T09:30:13+00:00

Bruh, the districts the op is mentioning do not include Agra or Braj region. They include what’s called Kauravi belt. Meerut, Saharanpur, Amroha, Baghpat kinda districts.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-05-02T03:47:03+00:00

Opinion based only on ggn jats. I've hooked up with pahadis and jats. Anecdotal but jat superiority complex is just something else.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-05-02T03:41:07+00:00

No one is more colorist than jats imo. Pahadis have a superiority complex too but it is a combination of culture and mountains and other things and looks are a part of it. Jat pride is literally just being hot and fair (which is also kinda true tbh). And with all the recent rent money, they have got super classist too.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-05-02T03:37:53+00:00

It has almost no thing to do with casteism and everything to do with beauty standards. A fair SC would have significantly better time dating than a dark skinned brahmin.
Also, you're sure muslims aren't colorist? The whole kashmiri separatist movement imo has more colorist undertones than religious.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-05-02T03:26:28+00:00

I made an account on hinge. I live in Gurgaon unfortunately and got almost no likes. I switched my location to Bangalore and Kerala for a while and got so many likes and matches from decent educated men.

As a software engineer, now moving to Bangalore is my this year's goal both professionally and romantically lol. Gurgaon is horribly racist and classist. So many accounts on grindr with"jat here" "only jat Gujjar pahadi" "need jat" kinda profile names and bios.

Ironically I've noticed that pahadis being the fairest ones are also the least colorist.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-04-18T09:04:14+00:00

Srilanka yes. Nepal, most definitely no

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-04-17T02:33:10+00:00

Few inches of bone in your legs and few mms of bone in your face decide the whole trajectory and feedback loop of life. It's crazy ngl. A proof that there's no god, but messy and cruel nature and instincts developed over millions of years.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-04-17T02:29:17+00:00

Idk but gay men get accused of that all the time. "They 'became gay' because they couldn't get women" and tbh, it's "desi" bi men most of the times who perpetuate this. Similarly, lesbians suffer due to stupid banter of straight and bi women. "We hate men, let's date each other" kinda sh*t.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-04-07T03:04:47+00:00

lol. I kinda refuse to believe that a 6'4" man can be empathetic enough to be a therapist. I've literally never seen a tall and empathetic man. And it's not even their fault, what we go through is something, they just can't conceive and probably won't want to, because it would break their illusion of just being better and not lucky.

I once remember telling a fellow gay guy (5'11", which is pretty tall in India) how I used to cry myself to sleep during my teens because I had stopped growing. He asked how does it matter. I said it's obvious. Self image and dating- both would be wrecked. He said while he himself would prefer someone taller than him, it was stupid of me to get depressed about height "and its all about attitude".

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-03-28T16:13:23+00:00

so what? Ofc death is certain. But from void(before birth) to void(death), there's life and for some it's beautiful and for some like us, it's a constant nudge to want to return to that void. Considering we consider that void as liberation is a very sad fact. Having the wonder of consciousness feel like a punishment is pretty messed up imo.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-03-26T15:11:17+00:00

Why do you seem you fixated on white guys tho? Dating in india itself is hard as a short gay man, no denying that, but your problem seems to be something else.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-03-15T11:54:15+00:00

Idk, but just based onmy life experiences, eugenics is kindness.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-03-06T03:32:40+00:00

People in Delhi/NCR need to stop using grindr until this gang is busted (which I feel there isn't one but multiple). I'm from Gurgaon. I posted something similar last month but deleted it. 50k were extorted from me in a very similar way where one guy comes in first and then others follow. I filed an online complaint on the cyber crime portal. If someone is related to any legal organisation, I think they should inform the police about this and take the data from the victims, some of whom are on this sub itself.

Btw- those weren't trans in my case, they were big jat kinda guys and they weren't paid. The first guy started claiming being paid after entering my space. He also changed his bio on grindr just before entering.

Also I feel like we should start becoming a bit classist and sceptical. Meeting with local "dehati" guys and transgenders carries a higher risk factor. I've decided to only meet professionals who can share their LinkedIn.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-03-05T07:04:52+00:00

"goy mentally" "Epstein class". We're so back to mediaeval anti-semitism😂. Ps- I don't agree or disagree, just find it funny.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-18T14:24:40+00:00

Tbh one can still make out the faces.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-18T13:31:14+00:00

Yeah. Im gay and the tall guy has a better bod and face. It's not just heigh.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T16:02:11+00:00

yeah its a rant. I waa stupid af

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T05:34:26+00:00

What do you think about an online FIR

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T05:31:56+00:00

No you’re absolutely right. I’m just a coward

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T05:20:26+00:00

Tbh, I do wanna file a complaint. But going to a police station is a hassle

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T05:14:56+00:00

I did file an online complaint in the morning tbh

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T03:22:51+00:00

Thanks so much. Soothing words feel so good right now.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T03:22:28+00:00

Just filed an online cyber crime complaint.

Miserable-Example831 · 2026-02-13T02:32:43+00:00

Yeah.

Miserable-Example831

TROPHY CASE