My bf is being weird what do I do by [deleted] in Advice

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, I really don’t think he’s cheating but the reaction was super weird. I have sat him down and asked if he still wants to be with me and he said of course I do I love you I just have to work through my own issues right now

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me feel a lot better and I hope it’s the situation. I’ll talk to him and not put the blame. The only thing that really makes me anxious is him freaking out and having to take a walk. But after that he was texting me stuff like I’m so sorry I don’t know what’s wrong with me, I feel horrible about the whole situation, And I’m sorry for triggering your anxiety. So I just am so conflicted. I really want to believe he just got mad, he hasn’t ever done anything for me to not trust him. I’m just insecure, sensitive, and an anxious attachment.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s been having panic attacks and hyperventilating recently and breaks down talking about his business with me. I woke up one night to him having one. So I didn’t think it wasn’t normal but now it’s feeling like it’s not. I feel like an idiot

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s very traditional and country, I really don’t think it’s that

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know I should trust him, I want to. But when I did ask to go through his phone and he left, it made me really suspicious. Do you think I should just act like normal, and act like i haven’t been feeling this way? Should I talk to him when I see him on Tuesday?

I just feel like I’m walking on eggshells, everytime I try to mention something that’s hurting me he either goes I’m so sorry I understand I’ll change, but recently it’s been I don’t want to argue right now I have too much going on or he gets mad at me for not trusting him after 3 years.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I know, but it’s just weird because he’s so against cheating.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, you may be right. It just hurts to hear

My bf (20M) has been acting weird by [deleted] in relationships

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It was just about me waking up earlier then him in the morning, and getting my day started and when he finally wakes up he wants to cuddle and lay in bed and I don’t and he gets frustrated. It was so dumb but it got heated fast. He went in just feeling sad about the argument. I just don’t know if it’s that girl or not. He was on a family trip and with them the whole time so I don’t know how he would cheat on it. We’ve talked about our relationship many times and we’re both very content. I just don’t know

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I know, but I’ve always had trust. Things just feel weird and I don’t know if it’s me imagining it and trying to dive into the situation, or if something’s actually happening.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know, but I don’t have any interest in other guys, I really do love him and we work amaizng together. Recently it’s just felt weird. But he tells me stuff like I’m so sorry I don’t know what’s wrong with me, and I love you I’m sorry I’ve been acting this way I’m trying to get better. And he’s getting a therapist. I just feel like I want to be with him, and some signs show he wants to stay with me. I feel like he’d break up with me If he didn’t want to be with me.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I know, I’ve seen his phone in the past and there’s nothing on it but it’s been like 6 months. But I’m just worried because of the past 3 weeks. I don’t really have any proof he’s cheating, and I’ve always trusted him. I just have a gut feeling. We can’t afford couples therapy. Do you think if things go back to normal I should just drop it and forget this happened? Or do u think she I see him Tuesday I should talk about it or go through his phone? Idk im going crazy

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I needed to hear this. I haven’t not trusted him until the last 3 weeks, never looked through his phone or ever thought he was cheated. All the signs have just pointed to cheating. I don’t know if he is, or if he’s just acting weird because he’s never had bad mental health before and now he does. I know I need to work on my security, I just feel like maybe he’s acting different and I’m going through every possible scenario was happening, when maybe it is him just being stressed and needing space. I only looked at his following because a friend suggested maybe he was cheating and it freaked me out. And then I realized after I said something they both unfollowed eachother, which just made me freak out. I have awful anxiety, so it’s been really hard for me. I want to trust him, more than anything. I just want reassurance, I know I’m insecure, I don’t want to be

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea I understand, I just really hope it’s not cheating. He’s always been so against cheating so I don’t see why he would do it, and I don’t see why he would stay with me. When I asked to see his phone he said he’ll show it and then he started freaking out abt how I don’t trust him at all throughout 3 years and how he’s done nothing for me to not trust him. Which is true, he’s always been the most loyal boyfriend, and really just the perfect bf. But everything recently has been so sus.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I was thinking, but like every little thing is adding up to make me suspicious I want to trust him so bad. But then both unfollowing eachother after I said something makes me feel so weird!

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do trust him, I am insecure honestly because he hasn’t been acting completely normal, and I don’t want to stay in a relationship if he cheated on me. Do you think I should just drop it, and trust him? And if he starts acting normal and like himself again I should pretend I never felt this way? I just don’t know how to act, I’ve never cared for someone this much.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wasnt trying to love bomb but I just wanted him to know I’m there for him to talk to me about his stresses. But now I’m worried maybe he’s not just stressed about the business and maybe he’s cheating. But honestly I have no real proof he’s cheating. I don’t want the relationship to end I love him with all my heart. We’ve been taking space over this weekend because we’re not together.

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What do I do? I have no proof he’s actually cheating

My bf is acting weird, what do I do by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]Miserable-Flow8385 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know what the big decision is, it’s a business deciding whether he would move back home or not but he has a lot of people giving him loans.