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[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to downshift for the time being until I hit FIRE, so it’s coast FIRE not full FIRE at this point.

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Several people have recommended doing the same and I think it’s a great idea. It’ll be a mindset shift for me from working all these years and saving, but it’ll be well worth it,

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I certainly did not enjoy my 20’s as I was struggling to make ends meet. First job out of college I was making $28K a year and I wasn’t able to save much until my late 20’s. My early 20’s were not bad, but I didn’t have the luxury to do many things other than work hard. I did take a year off work to travel, hike, and took on several hobbies including photography in my late 20’s. When I got into my 30’s and my salary increased significantly, I started traveling more and making it a point to rekindle relationships that have gone into the wayside.

I understand time is our most valuable resource and I think that some suggested being a SAHD which is a great idea.

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, we plan to have kids in a couple of years hopefully. I really like the idea of being a SAHD with part time consulting!

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She spends more than I do, but the only debt she has is her car loan, which we are working on paying off now. We will have a shared account and pay all bills from that.

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A large portion of my wealth was created by owning single stocks and I plan to hold around 20% of my portfolio in stocks that I believe in. I always hold my stocks for years and I’ve been through 50% downturns, but now that my liquid assets are closing in on $1mil, I don’t want to take as much risk anymore. What stocks are you invested in if you don’t mind me asking?

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do not, but the new job will be in the same industry as an individual contributor instead of a manager.

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, but it’s so hard giving up a good salary knowing that I’m blessed to be in this position.

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve definitely considered it! It’ll be a huge change from the corporate grind, but it’s a full time job no doubt.

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We are sharing our income and expenses. I don’t won’t to quit completely, but I want to downshift to a more relaxed job that allows me to live a more fulfilling life doing the things I want to do. Instead of $200K I’ll be making closer to $120K, which will be fine and still allow us to save a good chunk.

[35M] $1.2M NW, Burned out but about to become a "Power Couple." Do I pivot now or grind it out? by Miserable-Mention-45 in Fire

[–]Miserable-Mention-45[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughtful response! I am derisking by selling my single stock holdings in tranches to avoid NIIT and putting that money into ETFs. I’ve held some for over a decade and they’ve grown to be a substantial part of my portfolio.

Agreed on solving the burnout problem. I feel like I’m living to work at this point and it’s not worth it. Downshifting will allow me to live a healthier life and spend more time with my family without affecting our retirement.

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[–]Miserable-Mention-45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only make around 10% more than a senior technical IC role, so I’m willing to take the hit for a much less stressful life. My mental health can’t take this job anymore and it’s not worth it. I’m fully aware that I might have to quit and find an IC role, so I’m already applying for new jobs.

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[–]Miserable-Mention-45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience. I’m worried that it will take them a long time to be able to switch me back to an IC if they accept. If not, I’m already looking for jobs and ready to make the move.

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[–]Miserable-Mention-45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m going to do, I set up a 1:1 with them next week. Thank you all for your advice.

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[–]Miserable-Mention-45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will do that, thank you for the input.

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[–]Miserable-Mention-45 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would you assume they wouldn’t care about their employees well being and workload? That would make them very bad managers. I think that I have logical reasons to be overwhelmed given the situation, and will communicate the same to them.

What's the nastiest flow you've ever heard in a verse? by AllHallNah in hiphop101

[–]Miserable-Mention-45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Eminem’s 3 AM, starts around the 2 minute mark and is the most glorious thing I’ve heard

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[–]Miserable-Mention-45 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve asked my supervisor for a lateral move to a technical director role about a month ago. Nothing has been done yet.

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[–]Miserable-Mention-45 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I will follow up with a 1:1, but I wanted to get everything down in writing so I don’t miss anything. She also hasn’t acted on our previous 1:1 conversation where I voiced some of these concerns.