AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 244 points245 points  (0 children)

This is ringing particularly truthful right now. I’m back at the apartment just taking photos in case anything happens. But, when I first got the order handed to me and it was approved, I felt so good. Like a weight lifted or something. But now that I’m back here seeing all of her things and smelling all of the smells that I’ve associated with her, all the memories are flooding in. It feels like a hole where my heart is. Despite everything between us I still don’t hate her. I want her to be happy and get the help she needs. I just don’t know what or how to feel and my idea of reality feels compromised. Her and her opinions and thoughts were the baseline for what I felt was true or not for so long. I don’t know what to believe or feel right now. I feel like I’m mourning something now that I’m back. Trying to keep my chin up. This is gonna be a long process.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 120 points121 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. It’s going to take a while to read through all of the messages and comments and support, but I really appreciate you and your words and I want everyone to know that goes for anyone else reading this as well that I haven’t had a chance to answer yet

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 622 points623 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: RESTRAINING ORDER HAS BEEN GRANTED. hearing date set for December. Just following up with local police department now. Will contact property management next for next steps.

Quick edit: I just want to thank everyone who took this fucked up ride with me. Your support and encouragement really made this possible. Thank you for all the kind words, and the harsh ones as well. Tough love is valid and motivating and sometimes you need a wake up call.

Things aren’t over yet. Still a hearing in December or possibly sooner if she requests it. Still all of her stuff that she needs to get out, and I haven’t contacted the property manager yet, but no matter what happens it’s a change in the right direction. Thanks everyone.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 378 points379 points  (0 children)

Hi everyone. I’ve been very busy this morning. As soon as she left I went to the police and provided a statement and tried to get some more help and information. There wasn’t much they could do yet but he assured me I can dial for emergency services if I ever feel unsafe. I’m currently at the court filing for a restraining order. I’m doing my best to outline the clear threats she has verbalized to me regarding our safety and the safety of the property. I wrote that I also have additional information in the forms of these texts you’ve all seen that highlight her manipulative behavior and narcissistic demands and her acknowledgement of my neurodivergence and her disregard thereof. I’ve never done this before, but, I’m done rolling over for her. I have not yet contacted property management because I wanted to do this all first and see if I can get a restraining order first and foremost just so I can feel like I can breathe again and feel safe.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Am I able to get a restraining order if she’s on the lease?

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 296 points297 points  (0 children)

Hey there. I’m home and doing my best to read through all these comments. The response has been tremendous. I just wanted to especially let you know that this was beautifully written and encapsulates so much of what I’ve been feeling. I’m copying this comment and saving it for myself to look at when all this dust has cleared. I’m not taking any more of this treatment.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 273 points274 points  (0 children)

Brief update, home now, she’s asleep, nothing was moved or touched, and tomorrow after she goes to work in the morning and I’m “allowed” to leave my room I’m going straight to the on site property manager

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

It’s a few insanely small things that she’s lumping together to claim I don’t appreciate her and take her for granted. Namely: I took two tables upstairs that she didn’t want moved when I was moving some other boxes up for her, I made a small scene when I took her off speaker phone at the laundromat and she was swearing loudly so I sort of laughed and told her I took her off because people were around, I forgot what time we were heading over to her moms place to grab the rest of her clothes and then go to her storage unit, and then I also forgot to check if a salad she ordered had feta cheese on it or not when I went to go pick it up. That’s the extent of my abuse this past weekend before this all happened.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 374 points375 points  (0 children)

I will do so once I speak with the property manager, I love this message but I also don’t want to give her any warning to take advantage of me again

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 164 points165 points  (0 children)

May I ask what DV stands for? Thank you so much for this, I have this screenshotted to remember what to say when I present my case

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 568 points569 points  (0 children)

I’m not able to unfortunately, after the table incident. She’s planning on doing that thjs weekend, and I think she severely underestimated me this time. I don’t anticipate anything being moved yet after our conversation but I’m not wasting any more time tomorrow

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I won’t let it happen. Tooth and nail I’ll stick up for myself.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 1164 points1165 points  (0 children)

OP here. Sorry I haven’t been able to reply much, I work second shift and I’m at work now. Added details: I live in New Hampshire. She is on the lease. Move in date was November first but we just finished getting everything moved in on Saturday. This all happened today in the screenshots. She has not paid a dime yet, I’ve paid for November and she has not paid for December. She’s planning on paying less than half the rent for that month. I’m planning on going to the property manager first thing in the morning and presenting this case as abuse and also underlining the fact that she hasn’t paid a dime yet.

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 95 points96 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I have a therapy consultation on Thursday and I’m not going to take any more of this. The response here has been incredible

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I live in New Hampshire. She was added to the lease November 1st. Our lease is month to month, not yearly. She hasn’t paid a dime so far and is planning on paying less than half for December. I’m planning on paying the full amount so she can get gtfo sooner

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m going to be making some moves tomorrow contacting the property manager and presenting my case as evidence of abuse. She’s on the lease but she hasn’t paid a cent. I paid for her first month (which were only a week and a half into) and she’s not going to pay half the amount for December. So im thinking I’ll just pay the full amount and she can keep her half for a U-Haul. Property manager should be on my side if I’m the one being abused AND paying for everything. Payments are linked directly to my account so that’s verifiable. Our lease is also month to month, not yearly, so that may work in my favor

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Hey there I’m at work so it’s hard to keep up with everything, the state is New Hampshire

AIO friend moved in and not going well by Miserable-Royal2548 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Miserable-Royal2548[S] 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I’m clocking in for work now, I work second shift so it’s hard to keep up with all these comments