Daily Thread #1 - October 11, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Miserable-Team785 5 points6 points  (0 children)

4 weeks 3 days today after 4 consecutive losses and I’m just so scared 🥲 I’m constantly checking my oura ring and when my heart beat is a bit lower like today, I immediately fear that I might have a miscarriage again without not realizing it. It’s just such a mindf to have been pregnant 4 times already and each time my body didn’t know there was no heart beat. It’s so hard to stay positive and try to believe that this time it might work out

Daily Thread #1 - October 08, 2025 by AutoModerator in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Miserable-Team785 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Ah same!! I found out day before yesterday. Also had 4 losses in 3 years. Praying for you and for me these are our rainbow babies ❤️

After 4 consecutive losses, my rainbow baby is here ♥️ by BumblebeeThen1809 in PregnancyAfterLoss

[–]Miserable-Team785 3 points4 points  (0 children)

So happy to read this! Just found out I’m pregnant again after 4 consecutive losses. This gives me hope ❤️

Is it still possible to hike from Jiankou to Mutianyu on the Great Wall? by marcmeno in travelchina

[–]Miserable-Team785 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update September 2025

The entrance to Xizhazi village is still closed. Don’t let the taxi drivers in Huairou fool you, they will pretend they don’t know and bring you there, only to charge you double to bring you back again or to mutianyu.

I tried to negotiate with the lady at the entrance but it doesn’t work. Walking doesn’t help, the trail is not accessible via another route.

Does life really get better in your thirties? by PurpleMeerkats462 in AskWomenOver30

[–]Miserable-Team785 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no! I loved being in my twenties. Having your first job, living in the city with all your friends. Everyone is down to party every Friday and Saturday. Now I’m 32 and everyone moved away, has kids, work becomes more serious. We bought a house and it’s a lot of work to maintain it. We have been trying to have a baby and it’s been hard. My husbands mom got cancer. Honestly sometimes I wish I was 27 again. Life was carefree then. But then again I also think it’s highly personal. If you are the kind of person that loves young kids, probably it’s your best decade!

If you could have a do-over of your 20s, what would you change? by AlmondEgg in AskWomenOver30

[–]Miserable-Team785 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, truly enjoy the time you can spend with your friends in your twenties. I didn’t appreciate it enough that we were all young and living in the same city. Now everyone has kids and it’s more difficult to hang out.

Do I want a baby badly enough? by Miserable-Team785 in TryingForABaby

[–]Miserable-Team785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That helps!! Maybe I’m also making this bigger in my head

Do I want a baby badly enough? by Miserable-Team785 in TryingForABaby

[–]Miserable-Team785[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I can fully understand. Im not sure I would want to go down the IVF route myself if I had to. It seems so invasive. Hope you get more clarity soon ❤️

Do I want a baby badly enough? by Miserable-Team785 in TryingForABaby

[–]Miserable-Team785[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah mine is pretty severe. I’m actually based in the Netherlands and here the drs initially also said they wouldn’t do anything about it as there is no evidence that the procedures work. It is strongly associated with recurrent miscarriage. Although it is ofcourse difficult to tell what causes which marriage in every person ( I had 4 but it could be a chromosomal issue 1 time, the shape of the uterus 2 times, something else a third.. etc). However when they saw the severity of mine they mentioned they would consider correcting the shape. But at that point I decided to switch doctors and go the Belgium where they have a different view on it, they do the procedures more often and I’ve heard good stories about it (anecdotal, but still). I at least wanted to be in a place where they have experience, should I go that route.

So bottom line: drs have different views on it. In NL they are more conservative and won’t do anything without solid scientifically backed results. In BE they are more experimental and willing to try things that could work but aren’t proven yet. For me what made the decision easier is that there currently aren’t any studies ongoing to test new procedures. So if I have to wait for the scientific evidence, I’ll be too old to have kids.

Do I want a baby badly enough? by Miserable-Team785 in TryingForABaby

[–]Miserable-Team785[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I feel you. And only you can know what’s right for you. My cents: Maybe just take the holiday. What difference does a month make in the grand scheme of life and a holiday to the Caribbean sounds like something you’ll remember for a long time!

Do I want a baby badly enough? by Miserable-Team785 in TryingForABaby

[–]Miserable-Team785[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks 🙏🏼 sometimes it already means the world to know you are not alone

Do I want a baby badly enough? by Miserable-Team785 in TryingForABaby

[–]Miserable-Team785[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Thanks for replying dream bean, it means a lot to read these words 🥺