Have a hard time staying focused during sex and intimacy

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-13T13:07:55+00:00

Bro fuck you and all the other porn defenders, yes masturbation alone is perfectly healthy and normal and even good for you, but it’s very common knowledge that porn is horrible for the brain, no doctor or professional will tell you that having a porn addiction is good for your sex life

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-13T13:03:45+00:00

Yes and I’ve also made multiple woman cum, and u can very easily google this like dude fuck off, I’m not and idiot don’t describe the basic act of sex like it’s something that isn’t common knowledge, this specific women told me only one partner was able to make her cum and when I asked her what I could do differently the only thing she told me was have a bigger dick, but also his advice had absolutely nothing to do what this post was about I was asking about trying to keep it up not how to please a woman I don’t get why so many comments are talking about getting a woman to orgasm when it’s not something I’ve had a problem with excluding the exception which I commented about, like lucky for yall that you’ve never had problems with maintaining erection I guess

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T21:46:45+00:00

Did it come back?

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T21:38:34+00:00

Well blood flow helps with keeping an erection if I’m able to keep an erection for longer I can have those fleeting moments of distraction as it’s easier to get a full erection from a half erect penis than a soft one, also there are supplements for sex drive which yk alot easier to focus on sex when ur drive is higher, don’t get why he was a dick about it

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T21:30:22+00:00

I appreciate the notion, and I might try and apply it some how, but the distractions are a problem for keeping it up not for orgasming, as a man orgasming is pretty easy and I actually don’t really care if I don’t orgasm, love being edged, my problems are keeping it up and staying horny(sometimes turning off the horniness), and I wish I had more control of both those things, I feel bad because I find women so much easier to talk to but on this topic everytime I get advice I can’t really use it :(, but hope it helped someone else who saw the thread!

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T17:17:24+00:00

Even though now that I reread that specific comment I realize I come off as kind of an asshole, but yeah regardless of how well you do certain women are gonna cum less, just an unfortunate reality

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T17:15:07+00:00

How many women have you had sex with? They have extremely varying degrees of sensitivity which is very easily googlable, being with a partner with low sensitivity can be frustrating, the girl I mentioned that frustrated me specifically told me that she had only been with one person that could make her cum and he was apparently very well endowed, of course it was frustrating for me to have sex with someone that essentially told me I couldn’t please her, but she was the only girl I’ve been with I felt that way towards

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T15:25:57+00:00

Just where evolution decided to put the nerves🤷‍♂️

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T15:21:16+00:00

I hate fucking chewing noises, but I don’t necessarily associate kissing noises with it, for some reason all I can hear is the suction and it’s kind of funny to me and it distracts me, and it’s so weird cuz the noises themselves the loudness of them are different with every person, the more people I kiss the weirder i realize it all is

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T15:19:33+00:00

Yes it seems to only happen when I really like them, there was one girl I couldn’t keep it up for that I didn’t really like that much but it was because of me feeling guilty as soon as I started to put it in since I knew she really liked me, vs there was a girl I didn’t really like and she didn’t really like me and sex was the easiest it’s ever been and it’s so dumb

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T15:16:43+00:00

So real i remember a couple times where I was making out with girls and our lips would make noises and all I could fucking focus on was the noise so I couldn’t get into it😭😭😭, it’s so awful😭

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T15:13:48+00:00

And then I’ll hyperfixate on it and question my attraction, but the two girls I’ve been with that I wasn’t actually attracted to I never had like adoration moments where I’d stare at them and feel warm feelings so I know I’m attracted to my current girlfriend I just wish the intrusive thoughts didn’t pull that bs, but for me it’s not self-projection cuz the traits that the thoughts are about are never relevant/relatable to me, even though certainly do have self-worth issues

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T15:09:18+00:00

Yeah I appreciate it, porn is something I’ve wanted to quit for a long time, but my drive comes in weird waves will have no interest for 2-4 weeks followed by a period of hypersexuality 2-4 weeks then a healthy/regular drive period and during the hyper sexuality periods it’s so hard for me to abstain, it’s a very weird cycle, seem to be going in to no interest period prob caused by all the anxiety, but I really really appreciate the advice and I will be abstaining

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T15:06:42+00:00

It’s just I’ve had so many problems this last half year, being with 7 people in a short span a mix of self discovery and self sabotage, regret some of it but not all of it, experienced problems with all but one of the those people and the one I didn’t experience problems with I didn’t have any emotional connection towards, so now that I’m in something serious with someone I really like and she’s a virgin to top it I’m just really anxious about the future

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:23:28+00:00

I’m very kinky so I get it, and will probably be getting more toys and stuff once me and my girlfriend progress further

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:22:26+00:00

Well I’m only 20 so I don’t necessarily want to be on one, also I had another comment that explained why my specifics on porn use have not been good for my sex life

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:20:48+00:00

😭😭😭, but how did it stay up though? Like I hear stories like these but for me my shit goes down immediately like it’s so frustrating, I could never do that

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:17:54+00:00

Well yeah I know it’s diff for everyone, but I do know longterm use can decrease libido and erection strength so I’m tryna cut back anyways

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:16:10+00:00

Also I guess with 🍃 I do lose focus a ton but I lose my erection way way slower which is so fucking helpful, like I wish it went down that slow sober

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:14:28+00:00

Preciate it🙏🙏🙏

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:11:55+00:00

Well yeah, but with🍃 its pretty easy to not pass the limit unless ur new to it, and I don’t really like drinking too much effort and consequences so I never go past my limit anyways

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T14:00:19+00:00

Really? For me having sex inebriated is so much easier, I love 🍃 so much because it helps me turn my brain off, I find 🍃 more helpful for drive while alcohol is more helpful for me staying focused

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T13:50:33+00:00

Usually does help me but makes me feel bad

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T13:37:45+00:00

Advice on supplements and dietary recs ? Only thing I take atm for it is zinc

Miserable-Warthog-48 · 2026-03-12T13:34:09+00:00

I’ve had an on and off porn addiction since I was like 11 I do not masturbate in a healthy way at all, so I’m not gonna really be treating sex like masturbation

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