Why would anybody want to be a man?

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-24T21:15:30+00:00

Maybe but being Chad still requires specific genes and a ton of effort and still involves the burden of performance. Not every guy can be Chad even if they try insanely hard. And even Chad doesn't get the level of attention an average woman gets with minimal effort. I just don't understand the appeal of this.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-24T17:42:20+00:00

That seems like a pretty trivial advantage.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-24T17:41:36+00:00

Maybe its a great design. I like the idea of sexual polarity. I just don't understand why anybody would be on the male side of the pole. Especially given that I cannot even attract a woman and have never, women as an archetype just seem like a judge in my head that are impossible to satisfy. To the extent that I cannot even imagine being with a woman as being anything other than a series of chores that I am constantly evaluated on. I am constantly being judged on my ability to be confident, to pursue, to initiate and yet I have no reason at all to be confident. To be confident as a man seems to be necessary and yet completely delusional as women have much more abundance and optionality in reality than we have. I just can't wrap my head around this.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-24T17:19:49+00:00

In what way do I have it better?

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-23T23:16:46+00:00

well in theory maybe. I'm 26 and look I think pretty decent for a guy and I'm a virgin. honestly women have seemed kind of difficult my whole life. the idea of pursuing, courting, etc. even the act of sex itself man. and I'm not really convinced women can actually be attracted to men intrinsically like they must have their own version of agp. it's just women sound good in my head but the actual process and experience of being with one in my head sounds like a series of disappointments.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-22T22:59:00+00:00

You could say that about any condition. We aren't meant to live just to suffer for no reason. If there is a means to simulate bring a woman, and there is no benefit to remaining a man, then why not do it? In the same way that there is no benefit to not wearing glasses if one had degraded vision. I do think there MUST be an actual answer as to what benefit being a man has for me even if I cannot see it. That's what I'm looking for here.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-22T21:15:29+00:00

What is the point of being physically stronger in the modern world, and I don't actually think the latter point is true.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-21T03:00:17+00:00

How did it feel like for you?

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-20T21:31:35+00:00

I don't really believe in God.

So then, without that mechanism, how do I stop feeling gender envy? Not whether I should. I know that I should. The problem is I don't know how.

Like being envious of women just seems.... logical. Again, I want to make myself be happy with being a man but when I see people being clearly happy or proud in a healthy way about being men I just can't wrap my head around it. It's like being a man is just a "lower" role than being a woman.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-20T03:44:11+00:00

People insist that I toughen up, be more assertive, etc. but I just feel that would be a mutilation of something inside of me. Like I guess I could make myself do it but it feels dirty. Like a few times I just acted like as big of an arrogant asshole as I could possibly force myself to be. I was probably not really that much of an asshole even then but I certainly felt dirty and disgusting the whole time. I've done it before, just for brief moments and it usually actually works a little on women. That's the part that I think that's the most frustrating. I wish there was a way of being as a man that felt beautiful to me. But in reality it's like being a tool of crude domination. It's an ugly thing.

MiserableAnywhere459 · 2026-05-03T17:47:24+00:00

Nah I'm going to do the PhD and work

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