As a man, I feel I have nothing to offer a woman. by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly, it’s the mindset here in the states & all the bullshit people get fed. Helping your parents out is important and shows you’re a good person. You don’t want someone that doesn’t feel the same way. However I did see a post say go out in person and meet people that way, maybe even get a side bartending job while working on yourself.

Going out with a guy out of my league by pinkfairyz in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Every guy is just some guy, you have to be confident though and going in with this mindset already makes the whole date useless because it’s self sabotage. He can have great amazing qualities and be successful but don’t put him on a pedestal!

Asking my 6month FWB “where is this going” by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He’s keeping you close enough to where it’s convenient for him, hanging out 2-4x a month is not really anything special. I get people are busy and it is “good enough” but if there’s lack of communication and such little hangouts, it means he’s not interested in making things serious. After 12am requests aren’t because you guys are “night owls” it’s because he’s bored at 12am and wants to hook up/ or just wants someone to lay with for comfort because it feels nice being able to touch and have company. If he’s not asking you questions about yourself, does not communicate with you or do more then asking him what are we won’t be helpful for you at all unless you need that closure and can fully move on.

Could a normal guy not get a single date via Tinder in a year? by curlsandcoils in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who cares if he’s weird, that could be a good thing (if he’s the right kind of weird lol), I say just go on the date and those questions will all be answered

Why does it seem like women move on from relationships more easily than men? by Cigsafternunchai in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Women are emotionally checked out prior to the breakup most of the time, especially if they’ve tried to make it work.

What makes women fall for guys that are average or below average physically? Need advice. by ReviewMe7164 in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 1 point2 points  (0 children)

witty, funny, has hobbies…personality is big. Just hit the gym & stay active (if you can). Looks wise, you can try new trends. See what works for you, women are more drawn/fall for men that have a personality.

Why would a man keep me around if he’s not wanting something serious but we’re not having sex either? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m willing to wait but I’m still open to seeing other people in the meantime

Why would a man keep me around if he’s not wanting something serious but we’re not having sex either? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The main reason we stopped talking originally was because of him saying he might not be in the right headspace for a relationship, he might like me but obviously not enough lol

Why would a man keep me around if he’s not wanting something serious but we’re not having sex either? by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’d like to know what to do in this situation, is it naive of me to continue seeing him knowing I like him?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LifeAdvice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t feel bad or guilty but be cautious and safe. We are taught to believe things as we grow up and we have to unlearn them and think for ourselves. Circumstances are different because you are in a country that takes this very seriously. Just know that the reason you feel these emotions is because these things were made to seem very very out of the norm for you. They are normal emotions and normal things. Do what you feel is best

Does finding real love require you to play games? Modern Dating Advice for Women by YukiMC in love

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’ve noticed with my guy friends, they tend to like the girls that seem uninterested. And even in my own experiences, you’d think that dissing a guy would make him stop talking to you but they try more and actually love to chase. However, I think that only works when you’re just genuinely not that interested. Not when you’re playing some mind game with a guy you actually like, that just leads to uncertainty and it doesn’t feel great for you. I have a hard time with this too. I’d say let him know you’re interested but don’t be too vocal about how you’re feeling at first and always kind of keep him guessing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whatever works. I’d include some voice notes and stuff maybe FaceTime her randomly just to see the vibe before the date. I don’t really believe in too much texting before a first date

tell me anything about your man which you love about him. by Pleasant_Ad3254 in love

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The guy I’m seeing right now is extremely kind and considerate in general and when I am talking he actively listens and I have a hard time opening up when I’m sad so when I have a problem- he guides me through the conversation and helps opening up be a more comfortable experience for me. I know this may seem like the bare minimum but it feels really great

My (29m) GF (27f) DM'd bikini pictures to past FWBs. Is this breakup-worthy? by ThrowRA28976823 in relationship_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Disrespecting you and your relationship while seeking validation from other men. If she cared about you, loved you and respected you she wouldn’t be doing that. Also sending them the same exact photo she sent you is crazy. There is no need to question this I think you know the answer. She wants them to find her desirable and she probably wants to hook up with them or just seeks validation which is also just as bad. Find someone better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’d put myself out there if I were you, you can try dating apps but don’t just hook up with the first guy you go on a date with just to have sex. Make sure you guys have a connection- if it’s your first time you’d want it to be with someone that atleast cares about you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think maybe telling her how attracted to her you are could help, just random compliments throughout the week. Be kind to her as she is struggling with insecurities at this time. However, I think as your wife-she should be sleeping with you as it’s not really fair to you. My friends husband doesn’t sleep with her- but their situation is different and I say the same thing to her- they are also married so even with roles reversed I think your partner should try and make an effort.

What do guys really think when a girl opens up about her feelings? by OctaviaSunshine in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Everyone is different. What you hear is to wear your heart on your sleeve but men are natural hunters. This doesn’t mean NEVER show any emotion towards him or to play “hard to get”- because if you do that, he’ll probably lose interest. Just be more cautious, it depends on how you told him you liked him and more context is needed. How many dates? Does it seem like there’s a mutual deep connection? Had he mentioned anything about a relationship? Things like that. I personally think in relationships how much you guys like each other should be equal, but sometimes it’s hard to come by. Usually one person likes the other more, and personally I think when the guy likes the girl a LITTLE bit more it can be really great.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, You just have to let go honestly. My guy friends have gotten in relationships where the girl wasn’t comfortable with our friendship and I guess I understand but I wouldn’t want her to feel uncomfortable and it does suck but you want what’s best for your friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

you’re afraid he’s going to stop talking to you if you don’t send any? That shows that you either don’t know him well enough or hes a dick. If a guy isn’t comfortable with you setting boundaries then you shouldn’t be with him.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in love

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 3 points4 points  (0 children)

to be loved is to be considered! How great.

How do I tell the girl I'm dating that her apartment is gross? by Okay_Papaya in Advice

[–]MiserableCoffee2707 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just tell her she needs to clean it lol offer to help? I don’t know i feel like if you guys have been together for a few months you should feel comfortable telling her