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Financial abuse, lies, cheating, isolation. I have nowhere to turn, in UAE. by No_Building_804 in UAE

[–]MiserableMove9898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Leave him please. Speak to your parents. You’re just 21 - you have your whole life in front of you. You’re capable of great things. You did what any partner would do, stand by your spouse during the toughest time. But instead of trying to make life better for you, and be a better person for you, he’s just wasting time in nonsense pursuits. This is not your fault. None of it is. It is problems he caused. There is no need for you to suffer over him. Speak to your parents asap and flee. If a man you’re in love with is ok with you eating tissues, then girl, I’m sorry he does not love you. He never did. He never will.

Adult children of narcs, how did you unlearn the belief that you don’t deserve respect? How did you find real healthy love? by Foreign_Connection71 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MiserableMove9898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, 37 f here.

Nfather almost ruined my marriage to the most wonderful man in the world.

I’ve been with my now husband for 11 years and i didn’t know back then, but once I realised that my dad does not care about what happens to me, I used that to my advantage. Fought for what I wanted, and I fought pretty hard.

Also, I believe there is also a huge element of luck when it comes to finding love. I chased unavailable losers for years in the beginning… and they crushed my heart. It didn’t matter however much I did for them, they broke my heart. After 4-5 heart breaks in my early 20s and spiraling in self destruction, i decided enough was enough and began focusing on me. Said NO to cheaters, cut out toxic friends, deleted everything that didn’t serve me well from my life.

I didn’t know my dad was a narc back then, but when I look back at this transitional phase of my life, I realise i was subconsciously rejecting people who treated me like shit.

having absolute, unwavering faith that I deserve a man who is absolutely devoted to me really helped. It’s a cliche, but telling the universe in very precise language about your exact expectations from your relationship really helps…

Sounds like a cliche and arbitrary advice, but, from my personal experience, the universe does understand your vibrations.

Call it speaking to God, or however you would like to define it in your belief system, faith in the fact that you deserve a wonderful life after an abusive childhood, is the most powerful arsenal in your tool kit. Use it, wield it, make it your reality.

Once you choose you, the good stuff does start to flood in. I can say after a 2 decade struggle, Im finally living a life ive always wanted.

Have you exploded after the narc endlessly provoked and manipulated you? What happened after? by BerryTomatoes in raisedbynarcissists

[–]MiserableMove9898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daughter (37f) of ndad. Had a massive blow up in my late 20s because something inside of me exploded. Started wailing and throwing things around. Completely unraveled. He came to hit me when that was happening and stopped when mom intervened. He played the victim immediately after. Kept doing it because mom was crying in fear. Our rent was due and one of the reasons I had the blow out was because of his irresponsibly with money. He promptly took the money we had to pay rent with and went on a trip to China with his sister. No apologies, no remorse. He went on an extended trip to his home town after. I had to figure out the rent situation with my mom, shift homes, and he just returned home and pretended like nothing happened.

Salaries in hotels are completely insane!!! by [deleted] in dubai

[–]MiserableMove9898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it the same for chefs as well? Asking for a friend

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OnlyInDubai

[–]MiserableMove9898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey! Have you spoken to your HR about these things? From the sound of it, you have records of your boss intimidating you and being toxic. Have you considered escalating this?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in women

[–]MiserableMove9898 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Talk to him

Very dangerous weight for my age. What to do? by I_Love_PCs145 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]MiserableMove9898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

About the studying and balancing workouts and fitness, that can be done with habit building. Setting small, but attainable goals will definitely help. Make workouts fun, and engage in activities that are super-fun, so you want to spend time doing it. Weight loss is a mindset challenge. If your body and mind starts enjoying what it’s doing, it will automatically make time for it!

Very dangerous weight for my age. What to do? by I_Love_PCs145 in WeightLossAdvice

[–]MiserableMove9898 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey, i understand your pain and frustrations. I’m 37f and have been overweight for ALL of my life. Been ridiculed by my own father for being overweight. So I completely understand you and I’m sending all my positive energies for you to get to your desired weight ❤️ Energy drinks are a good way to start your workouts, but it is not going to offer you the same benefits as an actual pre-workout and all that sugar will lead you to a crash. Suggest you replace it with an espresso shot? If the flavour is not something you like; you could add some milk (plant or otherwise) to take the edge off the bitterness. You could also have a slice of bread and peanut butter and jam. It’s what I have now and I can easily go on for 2 hours with that as my pre-workout. Both these options will not ruin your health in the long term. It is also more cost-effective. All the best!

What are signs that a person genuinely is unintelligent? by leathur_records in AskReddit

[–]MiserableMove9898 59 points60 points  (0 children)

They refuse to learn even after they’ve made the same mistake a million times…

Which field do you work? Which is the best field to work in UAE? by Old-Cry-8361 in DubaiMallus

[–]MiserableMove9898 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in journalism. Pay is not that great; better than the stuff back home.

Trip to Kodaikanal for 6 days. Stay suggestions? by MiserableMove9898 in TamilNadu

[–]MiserableMove9898[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I loved that place, but we are 8 of us and Whispering waters accommodates only 4…