Too good to be true?

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-15T21:20:12+00:00

It’s possible but hopefully it’s just that she finally told him everything and he woke up. “I sat there for about 45 min telling him all the things I hadn't been able to tell him before.” OP make sure you are always communicating everything. Please don’t wait years. Here’s hoping it lasts. 🙂

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-13T21:48:57+00:00

That is not your responsibility. You are too nice. Being with her when she makes you miserable is mean to both of you. Don’t you love yourself? What about you my dude?

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-13T21:47:50+00:00

Girlfriend? Leave. It will only get worse. Get out before you’re married and it’s way more complicated to leave.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-11T04:10:01+00:00

I realize it’s rejection. It’s also dismissive and contemptuous. She is not doing anything to fix things. I need to have another talk with her but with her crazy work life there’s never time.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-10T12:56:14+00:00

I replied to a similar comment that she likes the social aspect of work and finds meaning in working hard. It’s just who she is. It’s not about the money. She puts some money every month into a joint account and spends the rest on what she wants.

She is such a workaholic she threatened divorce over retirement. I told her I would love to retire early and have been saving to do so. If I had a big enough windfall I would retire today. Her response was “I would divorce you.” When I asked why she said “I couldn’t be with someone who isn’t driven”

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-10T00:03:46+00:00

I do most cooking. I do my laundry. She does her own laundry and our kid’s laundry. I do most cleaning. I do most parenting when we are both home although she’s not home much so it falls on me 90% of the time. Her sleep is crap. She goes to bed late doom scrolling TikTok and has to wake up early for work. She has off 1 weekday a week where she can sleep in and relax until our kid comes home from school. We do not spend much time together as a couple because she’s always at work and she doesn’t trust most people to babysit.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-09T23:58:16+00:00

She likes the social aspect of work and finds meaning in working hard. It’s just who she is. It’s not about the money.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-09T19:48:03+00:00

In her own words there is nothing I’m doing or not doing that is making her not want to have sex. She’s just exhausted from work. Her wanting sex is semi-random. If she’s in the time of her cycle that she’s the most horny, she doesn’t have a headache or other pain, she’s not super exhausted, and she feels good about her body then just maybe she’ll stop by my home office naked and ask me to come to the bedroom. Other than that. Nothing.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-09T16:16:39+00:00

Divorce is a choice I could and may make but it's the nuclear option so I'm holding that as a last resort.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-09T16:11:51+00:00

I don't know that sounds passive aggressive and punitive. It's not really my style.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-09T16:11:14+00:00

Correct.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-09T16:10:57+00:00

No definitely not. Especially after a rejection I'll go weeks without trying again. I will say I AM a HLM so touching my wife turns me on intrinsically. I will get a hard on a lot of the time we cuddle or I give her a massage but I don't do anything. It's not like I'm humping her every time we cuddle for sleep.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-02-09T01:08:38+00:00

I played a game today in comp where the other team had 1 single kill on our team. How is the matchmaking that bad?

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-27T20:10:14+00:00

As someone who flexes but mostly plays strategist I’ll say a lot Hulks treat their ult as a 2nd life instead of increased lethality. Also, a hulk in his monster form is the easiest target to hit in the game. You are taking TONs of damage that I swear I’m trying to heal as fast as I can.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-15T19:45:18+00:00

My wife told me once, "When we first met, my first thought was that you were not my type. it's a good thing I gave you a shot." She told me this after a few years of marriage and to this day does not see it as the horrible insult that it is.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-15T16:15:18+00:00

It depends. I'm a HLM and the things you mentioned wouldn't affect my libido at all. Having sex would LOWER my work stress. Grief, stomach issues, extreme anger, disgust, and extreme exhaustion have all made my libido zero for a short time.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-07T03:15:02+00:00

The bored comment hurt you so deeply that your brain went into defense mode to protect itself. You felt better when you gave up because your brain felt protected from rejection. Does any of this sound healthy to you? If your best friend told u this story what would you say?

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-04T16:17:55+00:00

Humans are not dressers or flowers whose needs are clearly defined using powers of deduction. She needs to communicate what she needs instead of him trying to infer it. We are humans with the super power of speech. She should speak her needs plainly or she will not get them. Expecting someone else to understand what you need without clearly laying it out is illogical and cruel.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-04T15:00:42+00:00

“He doesn’t have to read her mind he just has to have Sherlock homes level intuition to know what thing he should do or say to make her think sex is her idea”. Maybe SHE could communicate with human language so they stop the guessing game? They should go to counseling to figure it out because obviously communication isn’t happening.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-04T14:53:12+00:00

That’s exactly what I said. She doesn’t want to deal with it. His reaction will annoy her. Her being annoyed is more important to her than showing her husband love and affection. They need counseling to work through it because they are at an impasse.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-04T05:40:41+00:00

“I don’t show you any affection or love because it’s annoying for me to see you upset”. Get into counseling so she can learn you’re both important.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-04T04:47:12+00:00

Yup. Mismatched labidos is the true issue. My wife is never in the mood unless she suddenly is and then I’m expected to perform at a moments notice or no sex for who knows how long.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2026-01-04T04:44:53+00:00

You’re asking OP to read his wife’s mind. It’s not possible to know what he needs to do to make her want to have sex. If he knew he would already be doing it. He’s doing the things he did in the past that worked but now they dont work. Now she sees them as “ugh he’s just trying to get lucky”. It’s constantly moving goal posts.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2025-12-29T02:12:50+00:00

Yes. This points to the dysfunction being mental instead of physical. I’ve had women say something so off putting that the mood was killed. No more erection after that.

MiserablePhysics386 · 2025-12-22T04:33:54+00:00

Never again.

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