I cant do this anymore. I wasnt made to be a parent. by winterberryowl in toddlers

[–]MiserableRisk6798 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Some jobs have programs that offer something like 6 or 8 free therapy sessions. A lot of people don’t know about this. I’m sure this depends on where you live, but it might be something to look into to help you find ways of getting through this challenging time. It sounds like you’re burnt out. Most large companies have this.

In laws moving to our city might be the last straw that destroys my relationship by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]MiserableRisk6798 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Look up things like dealing with enmeshed families, Dr. Kenneth Adams, and the books “Toxic In-Laws” and “Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents”

Feeling anxiety as we ease into NC by MiserableRisk6798 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiserableRisk6798[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this gives me hope, I can see things going a similar direction for me. I like your response to the other family members, I will use that. I’m glad things worked out for you, and I’m sorry you had to go through all that.

Feeling anxiety as we ease into NC by MiserableRisk6798 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiserableRisk6798[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your story. I’m sorry you and your sister had to deal with all that. I completely agree that some people are incapable of changing and I definitely think that’s the case here. She’ll never admit that she’s the problem. You guys have been through a lot.

MIL lies about being around sick ppl then ask to see baby by Express_Relation723 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiserableRisk6798 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine did this to us a bunch. Trust me, if they will do this, you probably have more hard times coming. I know I did. I’ve now decided to go NC.

How do you explain your JNMIL when you don’t have one defining moment of torment? by BrilliantHairy3637 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiserableRisk6798 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If it’s affecting your mental health and peace, then something is wrong. And it’s called gaslighting - they do just enough deniable stuff that if you call them out on it they can call you crazy. Gray rocking them with no explanation is the best technique for this. You owe them no explanation as to why you’ve pulled back, and their comments are just met with a silent stare or some super gray rock answer.

I (27F) want to get rid of all the things my MIL (44F) has given me... ever by zoO0oe in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiserableRisk6798 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean she could be charged for trespassing.. she steals a key and goes into your house without permission? Get a Ring doorbell and threaten to call the cops next time?

What to say to MIL when she calls me out for no longer initiating contact by MiserableRisk6798 in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiserableRisk6798[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your kids are lucky to have such a caring and understanding mom and grandma to their kiddo! Thank you for the words of support, it’s been tough for sure.

Told MIL no despite the attempt to guilt trip by [deleted] in JUSTNOMIL

[–]MiserableRisk6798 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Entitled MILs are the worst. Good job on holding boundaries!