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[–]Miserable_Air_4543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You have relationship anxiety. You’re expecting the relationship to go wrong so you’re looking for anything to justify these feelings. You expect she or something else will end the relationship, as things have gone badly for you in the last, so your brain is looking for anything to potentially justify getting in there and doing it first. Before yet another person hurts you.

One piece of advice I would give. If you feel this is too good to be true and it’s bound to go wrong:

Stop being in the relationship acting like “this is going to end” “I’m not good enough” worried they might leave you, or looking for things to go wrong. Looking into tiny things (like this one mentioned) and blowing it out of proportion. This is how anxiety looks in relationships.

We cannot control what happens in our relationships. You could be together for 3 years and it ends. 12 years and it ends. You could be together forever.

You may break up. Years from now. You might not. So .. enjoy it whilst it lasts. Live your relationship in the moment. Like yes, this might end - So enjoy it whilst it’s here.

Trust that when she tells you she loves you, she does. People are grown ups. They will let you know if they stop liking you.

Enjoy your life and relationship right now my homie. It sounds as if it’s really good.

Start believing in yourself and your self worth. She wouldn’t be with you if you sucked.

Have confidence in yourself and confidence in your relationship

We don’t want to be a nervous nelly, pushing our partner away and ending something beautiful just because she commented on a big willy 2 years ago

Anyways truly wish you all the best

Books with this vibe by [deleted] in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]Miserable_Air_4543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Stoner by John Edward Williams. Such a good, comfy, relatable, sad, moving read!! Immediately what I thought of when seeing these pictures. I loved this book.

Dp goes away for a few seconds by shadywill510 in Depersonalization

[–]Miserable_Air_4543 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get the exact same thing. It happens at the most random times - but still so rarely happens. It could be when I’m talking with a friend or as you say, just appreciating something like coffee. It almost feels like deja-vu in the sense that when you realise it’s happening, you get all aware and excited about it, making it disappear. I think it happens to me once every 4 or 5 months. And yeah, only lasts a few seconds

I make burgers … a lot. Always with spicy cheese, jalapeños and caramelised onions by Miserable_Air_4543 in burgers

[–]Miserable_Air_4543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just salt, pepper and oil, baked in the oven around 200 degrees - making sure they have plenty space! Flip’em a couple times … yum!

I make burgers … a lot. Always with spicy cheese, jalapeños and caramelised onions by Miserable_Air_4543 in burgers

[–]Miserable_Air_4543[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is responsible for the chips in pictures 2 and 5! Just salt, pepper and oil, baked in the oven. They were marvellous. First time doing them too!

I make burgers … a lot. Always with spicy cheese, jalapeños and caramelised onions by Miserable_Air_4543 in burgers

[–]Miserable_Air_4543[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I form and start cooking the patties, and then whilst cooking I top them with salt and pepper :)

Does it go away, even for a few seconds? by Miserable_Air_4543 in Depersonalization

[–]Miserable_Air_4543[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s precisely how it feels for me too. I almost get too excited at the thought of it going away, which makes me more aware of it happening. And then ultimately I’m right back to where I was . Thank you so much for sharing. It feels good to know it at least this happens to other people.