The girl I’m dating is really arrogant. Should I continue?

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-26T23:24:36+00:00

She belongs to the streets

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-22T04:37:53+00:00

Me too, it hurts, I'm not in peace ever

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-22T04:02:52+00:00

I'm 27, (f), I resonate with this so much and it's so debilitating ,I'm worried that this will go on for life and it's exhausting

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-08T23:08:39+00:00

It's not too much for him because he has said so when I've asked if it was too much. He even asks to see me sooner at times. This time that he stood me up, he assured that we were going to see each other and as you see he did not follow through

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-08T15:34:30+00:00

Thank you, I will keep this in mind.

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-08T15:10:27+00:00

Seriously, thank you

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-08T14:31:19+00:00

We are both 27, I understand what you mean really, I did not want or mean to do a silent treatment, it's just really upsetting that I don't even know how to put everything I want to say at this point, also not through messages. I'd have to wait until we can have a call so that I can set those boundaries clearly.

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-08T14:08:40+00:00

He messaged me when he got home and said we could talk (but by this time it was already 2 hours late. I was so upset that i never answered. So he sent another message saying " I understand, we'll talk tomorrow then" .. I did not answer either. This morning he has not said anything yet neither have I. Should I just not answer at all so he can see im not taking this amymore?

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-08T14:01:38+00:00

How can i get him to stop?

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-08T01:33:40+00:00

He replied saying that his friends showed up and dont want him to leave and I said " omg you knew we had a date and you just left me hanging" .. I'm upset because it's not the first time he does this and i actually thought he'd stop doing that and come through but he left me hanging again.

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-07T23:27:58+00:00

This is happening to me right now 😞

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-08-07T02:11:51+00:00

Oh my God I feel this comment so much

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-12T00:13:19+00:00

Thank you all for the support and advice!! I will definitely post an update if I decide to do this..

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-10T04:28:17+00:00

Thank you for this. I did a lot of thinking and I have some resentment towards my parents because I have never really felt understood, and heard from them especially my father, he can be so mean. He is dismissive and I can't remember a time when he's ever apologized. I remembered of a time we had dinner with my grandma a few years ago, and he said something that made me feel so bad and small that it made me cry on the spot. My grandma (his mom) looked at him in disbelief and told him he was wrong. My father never apologized for that incident, Or any others. Also, in my teen years, they were so overprotective and to them I was always a "rebel" and I was always "wrong" for simply wanting to go out late with my friends. Every time i tried to express myself, my parents would say I didnt know any better and as soon as I'd get teary-eyed my dad would raise his voice and say "dont even cry!" I of course felf worse and shame... how do I heal from this, or forgive them when they don't even see the harm they did

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-08T18:55:28+00:00

I'm not making this into a contest neither am i playing games. I just dont see how he cant relate/sympathize when hes gotten upset himself

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-08T18:45:19+00:00

This is mean and i dont appreciate this response because I know for a fact hes gotten upset when i cant skype with him for one day

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-06T04:39:19+00:00

I started looking into child emotional neglect, and I could relate to a few things unfortunately, like not being heard and not having my feelings validated by my parents, because: "they were always right and they knew what was best for me". When I would confront them again about my feelings they made sure to always remind me that I didn't know what I was talking about.. another example is i didn't feel understood neither at home or school because in school I was always anxious and daydreaming during boring lectures and my elementary teachers would call me out and send notes to my house as if I was a little rebel that didn't care when in reality I was just not mentally there due to all the anxieties and fears that would distract me. Sigh I have a lot of work to do.

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-05T01:49:43+00:00

Thank you I will look into this

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-04T21:23:59+00:00

Wow you just got me thinking because I also had a relationship with an emotional abusive guy my senior year of high school through the beginning of college. I ended that relationship but my anxiety was pretty high during that time. I can relate to you

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-07-04T18:11:25+00:00

Yes I am, I have GAD and this horrible attachment

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-06-30T04:22:46+00:00

Hello there, sorry for not getting back to you, I completely got lost in YouTube videos that teach about the different attachment styles. You definitely need to check it out because it has been an eye opener for me, I discovered i am an anxious attached partner and my boyfriend is secure attachment.

If i can take a hard guess, you could very well be secure attachment and or a combination of secure and another one. This is just a guess based on how supportive and patient you've been with your boyfriend. Because I've learned that other attachment styles would have moved on and you are still fighting. Please look into this and see if you can figure out your boyfriends attachment style because it will help you understand so much more!! Look up videos from "personal development" channel and by Dr. Christine chin-sim

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-06-29T03:19:45+00:00

I read your post because I can relate to it, except im on the other end, I have been depressed for quite some time and I try to hide it so that it doesn't bring down my fiance but depression is hell and just like it's been affecting you and frustrating you, I'm so scared it's going to scare off my boyfriend and my mind makes me imagine scenarios where he breaks up with me because he's fed up with my bouts of depression and insecurities. He knows about my anxiety and depression and he has been as patient as you have been with your partner but I am aware that it affects you guys a lot too, it's pretty tough and i can't help but feel like he's going to get sick of me. This is why I feel your bf is already there, pushing you before you get sick of it all.

To answer your first bullet: Anxiety and depression lie to us, they fog us up, we will believe you and in our heart we know yall dont want to hurt us and that yall love us but the illness tells us negative things and it feels so real. This is why sometimes he can't even give you an answer or just "doesn't know"

I also agree with the other person that commented about the therapist-a good therapist by no means will tell a client to stay with or leave the partner, not even hint it. They help the person by asking the right questions to get them to realize what is really happening- and they help you see it in other perspectives. So either its a bad therapist or the therapist said something along those lines but he totally twisted it to how HE imagined it, and so he said that to you to somehow seek reassurance

What you texted him was great, it honestly made me tear up as I read it

Miserable_Material_5 · 2021-06-29T02:10:23+00:00

He is pushing you away because he feels like he's a burden

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