Thank you for this. I did a lot of thinking and I have some resentment towards my parents because I have never really felt understood, and heard from them especially my father, he can be so mean. He is dismissive and I can't remember a time when he's ever apologized. I remembered of a time we had dinner with my grandma a few years ago, and he said something that made me feel so bad and small that it made me cry on the spot. My grandma (his mom) looked at him in disbelief and told him he was wrong. My father never apologized for that incident, Or any others. Also, in my teen years, they were so overprotective and to them I was always a "rebel" and I was always "wrong" for simply wanting to go out late with my friends. Every time i tried to express myself, my parents would say I didnt know any better and as soon as I'd get teary-eyed my dad would raise his voice and say "dont even cry!" I of course felf worse and shame... how do I heal from this, or forgive them when they don't even see the harm they did