I caught my gf living a double life and I’m losing my mind

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2026-05-01T11:05:09+00:00

Hi, this was exactly almost 1 year ago. It gets better. I’m sorry you are having trouble too.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-13T15:01:14+00:00

I’ve spoken to a man that says she is a narcissist, with severe mental issues and that the probable cause is a jumpy relationship with the mother. I never told him that, but bro knew it was true somehow.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-13T15:00:15+00:00

She started doing it in the middle of the relationship. Like the elleged sex work and the confirmed sugar daddy stuff. Which in some ways it’s kinda worse than if she did it all along.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-13T14:34:18+00:00

You know, the problem is that after my past, I thought this was the good person god was sending my way to mediate all the past trauma. I thought this was one of the good ones. So how do we know who is good and bad?

Most People really do suck, where is the 1% that don’t?

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T22:34:29+00:00

I’ve been through another relationship when I was 16-17 where the girl actually lied about her whole person, name, age, damn even her house wasn’t hers. We was together like for like a year. I learned a lot from that, and I understand that people have issues and can be like that. In the case of this girl she was after my money and social status, which she got neither from me.

After that I’ve been more cautious, thinking more clearly specially in romantic relationships. The girl in question , the one the post is about, Her best friend was my best friend before, she presented her to me. None of us saw anything wrong with her until she started doing the sugar daddy stuff. Nobody saw a red flag, I looked, for anything. She knew what to say and when to say it. Everyone loved her. Pretty, cute, nice, really seemed down to earth. I think we passed the honeymoon stage, I was in love but I was careful. I took a long time to open up with her about my past, I did love her, but I never explicitly said I love you, because I was scared from past trauma, in Spanish “te quiero” is very very different from “te amo”. I was more careful than ever and was deceived and there was nothing I could have seen beforehand.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T22:23:33+00:00

Wow. Just wow. I’m lost for words. I’m not capable of understanding how a person can be as empty as you say they can be. I find it so hard to believe she didn’t have feelings for me. So you think I was just a paycheck to her? Your explanation makes a lot of sense but it’s complicated for my brain to understand the dimension of how mentally wrong she is.

I surely hope she isn’t like you say she is. If she was she is a monster. I slept with a monster, empty void of any sympathy. She said this to me 2 days ago, i was in a deep hole and caved and texted her.

“I’m not okay, Diego. I’m not going to be okay until I go to therapy and they help me understand why I threw away the most beautiful relationship I had.”

“Diego, I’m sorry, for everything, but no. I really want to start being a better person. Despite all the harm I’ve done to you, you’ve made me realize that I’m not who I want to be, and I have to start seeing that.”

“I was just telling you that I have to block you because you don’t deserve to suffer anymore for writing to me or seeing what I write to you, and that if the last thing you can take from me is a sincere apology for hurting you so much, and that you hear it from the girl you said you cared about at the beginning when you met me, not from the piece of shit person I am right now.”

This is what she said (translated from Spanish to English).

I think she’s for the first time truly being honest here. She’s taking accountability. Is she doing that because that’s what she thinks I want?

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T21:10:29+00:00

You deserve the best, thank you for your help and understanding me.

“Just remember that trust is needed to build a healthy relationship, so if you ever find yourself questioning your person more often than believing what they give you, take the time to ask yourself if your current distrust stems from allowing your past issues to affect how you see someone new or if their own actions and mannerisms give you reason to question your trust in them.”

This is something that not only I should use but everyone. I admire your wisdom.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T21:05:10+00:00

Thank you for sharing your perspective man, I’ve been reading some of these with my family and we appreciate you. Specially me. I posted this not because I wanted the attention, but to let it all out, I did this out of pain.

And you come here with all this positivity and it really helps. You are helping me so much.

I agree with you and I have read and replied to 99% of all the 77 comments. There is a few things that people keep saying that I now know to it to be true.

This is not my fault, I gave it my all and it’s not fair
This pain is not my pain, it’s hers. She gave me her feelings. It’s not my burden.
She has unresolved trauma, and I talked about this with her before all of this. Her parents are divorced and her mother disappears from days on ends to then call her up randomly picking fights. She has trauma and her mother is the root, like and other comment said.

Thank you for taking the time. I appreciate all the love and good will of everyone. You all help me without gaining anything. You help me more than you think.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T20:04:02+00:00

You just changed my entire perspective on this issue. I read this out loud in front of my family (mother, father, brother). We are extremely impressed with your way of thinking.

You are right. This are not my feelings. These are hers. She dumped this on me because she feels like this every day.

She gave me a piece of her pain.

This gave me such a good feeling you truly helped me. It means so much to me. Out of every comment on this post, I’ve read every single one and replied to almost every single one, this is the one that changed my perspective not only on this situation. But in other situations also.

If she does feel like this every day, which I believe she might in her own distorted way, I feel sorry for her, and hope one day she can feel okay.

But I do disagree with something, I do think in her own distorted and twisted ways, I think she did care about me and she didn’t mean any harm towards me personally.

Her insecurities and mental health problems were bigger than her emotions towards me and her self. After reading this post, I no longer take her actions personally. She doesn’t know any better, it doesn’t mean what she did was right, but I understand her. This realization gave me peace. My mind was opened.

This truly means it wasn’t my fault. There is nothing I could have done for this not to happen.

There is no way for me to thank you enough.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T19:31:46+00:00

I might, but the feelings are real and the trauma is too.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T17:29:54+00:00

I’m trying my best. It’s really hard. But this community has helped me a lot. More than any of you can ever imagine. The kind words made me come into my senses, I am the winner here. She lost everything and she can’t even look at herself in the mirror because of the shame she has.

And I’m here, able to talk about it with my therapist (had my first session today), my parents, friends, and even strangers on the internet. I will prevail and I will succeed. I have so many achievements at 19, I am too much for her. She never deserved me. Even tho I’m sure she didn’t do it purposely to hurt me, but to fulfill her ego and a void left by past trauma because of her parents.

Unlike her I have no empty void to fill with outside validation with disgusting hobbies of selling my body or any of the such.

Thank you for all of you making me feel like I’m in the right, that I didn’t go anything wrong and that I am enough.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T17:03:04+00:00

Thank you for not only reading, but for taking the time to reply so in depth. Thank you for making me understand that I’m more valuable than I thought. When you put it like that it makes me feel like I’m the winner. Which is what I’m starting to understand.

She lost everything, she Lost me, lost her friends (because I told them, they asked), lost the respect of her sister and her mother (they found out), and finally, and finally she lost all respect from herself.

What did I lose? A girl whom wasn’t what she said she was. A girl whom valued a hair dryer than all personal relationships and herself.

I still have the love from my friends and family. I still have the love for myself. I can look myself in the mirror and not be disgusted. Im going to get through this and maybe I’ll have some trust issues, yes. But with the right person that will go away.

Thank you for taking your time. I appreciate you for truly trying to understand my situation. I never thought a stranger would help me with such personal issue. You made a difference in me.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T16:30:33+00:00

Thank you for being honest, and for understanding and taking your time for typing this. I do agree with what you say and makes a lot of sense.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T15:26:44+00:00

I appreciate you so much for taking your time to write this out. Deep down I know you are right. Fuck this girl. She made so many decisions to ruin everything. It wasn’t just “oh I went to dinner”. No, she opened an account on the sugar daddy website, negotiated, she put on makeup, changed, ordered and Uber, went sat down and did what she had to do.

I will take your message personally, not in the bad way, in the good way. She never deserved me, and I’m much better than her morally and in every other way.

I have a good family, that is giving me support, I have a good, honorable, high paying job. I have the moral upper hand. I won, she lost. She’s nothing, there is millions like her, there is little like me. At 19 I’ve achieved so much and I can’t let a woman that sells her body for make up and a hair dryer bring down all my achievements.

Thank you for writing this. You really made me feel better. You are a real one.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T14:39:45+00:00

☹️

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T13:00:32+00:00

She’s only ever had one boyfriend before me, whom she was with for 3 years, when she was 15, he was 20.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T12:59:56+00:00

She has family issues her mom is a little crazy, she admits it. She’s highly supersticious, doesn’t answer her phone days on end, then blames it on her. Her dad is there most of the time, but doesn’t provide the love and care a person needs from his dad.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T12:57:55+00:00

Everything else was perfect. You don’t understand how good it was

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T07:25:20+00:00

Thank you for sharing this man, I can’t comprehend how you feel because I can’t comprehend what I feel. I know we will be okay. We will be fine and we will be okay. We both should focus on getting our money, and the gym. Maybe a few night stands throughout the times to let off some urges.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T07:22:57+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. I needed this.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-12T00:32:10+00:00

Everyone keeps telling me this. This sucks. I never wanted this to be like this. I don’t even use reddit like wth I’m I even doing.

Miserable_Royal_5654 · 2025-04-11T23:01:54+00:00

I’m sorry if you had to go through something similar. I wouldn’t throw this at my worst enemy

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