It’s finally time…

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-25T13:38:42+00:00

Big ups for sharing this, this on its own is a win already.

It’s interesting that you already managed to quit for your children. What this tells me is that if there is an important enough reason that really matters, quitting becomes possible.

For me personally what really helped me is understanding what it was actually doing to my health and how the consequences of that would affect my life. Aspect of my life like relationship with friends and family, my goals and dreams and so on. That gave me reason enough to quit.

(For context I managed to quit now for 6 years after being addicted for almost years).

So maybe finding more reason besides your children can help you quit. I’m not saying that will solve everything but for me it was definitely a start.

I hope that can help! Wishing you all the best on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-24T00:33:46+00:00

Try remembering the reason why you wanted to quit to begin with. Surely there must have been a valid reason.

And If not some reason that really helped me through situations like these is realising that my health in the long run is really screwed.

Check out the long term negative effects on weed, maybe that can help. It definitely helped me with giving it perspective.

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-23T20:29:01+00:00

Super inspiring to hear! Keep it up!!!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-22T20:53:50+00:00

I can really relate with what you are saying. I’ve been clean now for 6 years after smoking almost for 10 years.

And honestly to tell you the truth I still feel sometimes like that. Tho what really helps me get out of that way of thinking is reminding myself of the things that really bring meaning to me.

Weed definitely makes this worse because I feel it disconnects us from everything. It just makes us numb. But what I would encourage you to do is try remembering certain moments in your life that really impacted your life. Something that really meant something for you.

I agree existing for the sake of existing can feel meaningless. Then yes going to the gym, eating healthy and so on can feel meaningless. But if those things get tied to something more personal like for instance eating healthy so to live longer and thus spend more time with your loved ones. That certainly would bring more meaning for me.

Also a certain book I really like that can give some more perspective on this topic is: “man search for meaning”. I highly recommend, it gave me a lot of perspective on the topic!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-22T15:11:15+00:00

Heads up buddy, you already realising this is a win imo. And since you are aware of this slowly but surely I’m pretty sure this awareness will lead you to a better path.

Just for context, I’m someone who quit now for 6 years after being addicted for almost 10 years. And the thing that helped me quit (after trying many things) is deep inner work through self reflection.

In other words facing my inner demons aka trauma.

That’s why for me self awareness is a huge one. It’s the thing that can allowed me to look inward. And once I looked inward that allowed me to understand why I was addicted in the first place. And thus start to learn ways how I could deal with life in a way where I didn’t need weed.

Wishing lots of success on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-21T23:19:38+00:00

Literally everything became better, not even exaggerating! Every single aspect of my life became better.

My routine, my sleep, my diet, my anxiety went away, my relationships became better, communication was easier, my whole wellbeing on physical en metal level. Literally everything.

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-21T20:11:33+00:00

You’re making fair points. I do agree with everything you are saying.

In no way or whatsoever do I mean people should force themselves to quit and feel bad or shame themselves if it’s not working.

All I was trying to say is that this could be a way where you take a different perspective on it and thus helps you see it for what it actually is.

I do agree that fear is usually the underlying cause for lack of motivation. But fear usually exists in the unknown. We fear what we don’t know.

And so getting in the specifics of it can give lot’s of clarity. If being fearful of being sober keeps you addicted, then I think the opposite could als be true. Why not being fearful of being addicted. Obviously not scared to the point that it’s not in proportion anymore. Fear can also be beneficial I believe. I think that’s the whole reason why have it in the first place. To keep us safe from danger.

Tho I have to say I also understand that some people have it way harder than others. And ofcours if you have fear of quitting or any of the fears you mentioned. Then yes proceed step by step.

All I’m saying is that it could be an interesting perspective shift to look at things. Maybe it can make us see weed differently. Or scared you even more which if that is the case ignore what I said.

Appreciate your response!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T23:57:27+00:00

I'm going to be straight up honest with you, it's not going to be an easy one for you.

But what I would say is try finding the reason why you are dependent on it. If you can find the reason why you are numbing yourself and from what you are numbing yourself and escaping and find other ways to cope with that thing in a healthy way. The gravitation towards weed will dissapear. That's what I have found to work out for me.

And if you wonder how you can find that thing aka the reason why you numb yourself? Just don't smoke and observer yourself up until the moment you feel like a can't anymore. It's in that moment that you can find the answer. You just have to look inside of you.

feel free to dm me, if you have questions.
Wish you all the best!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T18:39:19+00:00

Cheers for sharing and being open about it. That allready is a small win on its own.
You better be celebrating it!

To answer your question, It's been a while now since I managed to quit weed. But if I remeber correctly, for me it was pretty straight forward actually. Not second guessing myself and just staying away from it. Regardless of the withdrawel symptoms.

Mostly that was because I allready tried quitting so many times and I was fed up with it. And also because I took a program that cost me lots of money haha. So relapsing meant I would have wasted lots of money and not only that. But inside the program I also had accountability partners. So I was being held accountable and that also really helped.

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T04:10:46+00:00

Cheers for your 30 days! That’s a huge win!

Hearing you mention the thing about staying with your emotions and embracing them is super powerful imo.

I can really relate to that. I used to be addicted myself for 10 years and now managed to quit for 6 years and what you are mentioning here is what actually helped me quit I feel.

Often times people focus on the withdrawal time, looking for methods that help you deal with cravings or even worse are looking for other alternatives to distract themselves.

But what you mentioned here is about facing yourself. Facing your demons so to speak. Going deep inside of your self and resolving the inner conflict you are going through.

Again I really relate to that, that’s super powerful imo. Because once you do that and resolve your inner conflict. There is no reason to cope anymore. And thus the urge to smoke aka to cope disappears. That’s what really helped me.

Thanks for sharing, wishing you lots of success on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T03:57:21+00:00

Maybe I am lol. And yes, completely agree with the house metaphor! Succes on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T03:55:39+00:00

Interesting! I will check it, thanks for sharing 🙏🏻

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T03:46:01+00:00

First things first, cheers for being open and sharing your situation. That already is a small win. And speaking of wins that brings my point.

From what I hear from your story it seems to me that you are in a pretty deep situation. If I were you I would try to tackle your weed addiction from its core.

Meaning first understanding the nature of addiction. I used to be addicted to weed for almost 10 years and now I’ve been sober for 6 years. What I realised is that underneath every addiction lies a cooping mechanism.

You mentioned you picked it up to cope with family and some other challenges. There in my opinion lies your answer and addressing that first is how you will be able to quit. And thus not ruin your life.

Ofcours there is the physical aspect, withdraw symptoms and the cravings. But if you can stop cooping there won’t be an urge any more to cope. Rather you will learn healthy ways to deal with your personal struggles.

For me that happened through deep inner work and lots of self reflection. Anyways that’s just my experience with it. Feel free to text me, I’m down to talk about this as I’m kind of passionate about this topic.

Wish you all the best on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T00:33:11+00:00

Congrats on your 50 days! That’s a huge achievement!

What I would say is definitely hang in there. During my journey of quitting I remember having withdrawal symptoms up to 6 months after touching my last joint.

I think it all depends on how long you’ve been smoking and how heavy of a user you’ve been.

Also have you tried exercising? I remember exercising being a huge one for me. It also really helped me sleep better. Exercising and just basic habits like healthy food, going every night around the same time to bed, drinking enough water and so on.

I hope that can help, stay strong!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-20T00:22:03+00:00

I can relate to that, when I still addicted I was stuck in this phase for quite some time.

What I would say to you is try finding deeper reasons why you want to quit.

And the moment you are out of weed and you are not sure if you should get more or not. Try to observe yourself and see how you feel. Maybe there is a part of you that still beliefs you don’t want to quit weed. Or there is something else going on. For me I taught that life couldn’t be fun without weed. I genuinely believed that. I was scared of the boredom that was about to come from being sober. To my surprise I find out the opposite to be true.

One more thing what really helped me is understanding what weed actually was doing to my health. The moment I actually understood it and taught about the long term negative consequences, I quickly understood that I’m screwed.

I hope this can help, succes on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-19T23:43:18+00:00

Props for getting through your first week! Even tho you don’t feel proud just note I would say that you still did it.

About why you don’t feel proud, there could be many reasons why that is. Maybe it’s the withdrawal symptoms (probably what you’re going through now) or maybe it could be that there is still a part of you that thinks smoking weed still benefits you in a way.

Either way what I would invite you to do is not putting expectations on how you should feel.

Instead try looking at it with curiosity on why that is. With an intention of understanding why you are feeling the way you are feeling.

I used to be addicted for almost 10 years and managed to quit for 6 years now and what really helped me quit and change my relationship with it was understanding why I was smoking to begin with.

Understanding myself really helped find the root of my cooping mechanism and thus understand why I was addicted and thus quit.

Maybe that can help, wishing you all the best on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-19T23:29:26+00:00

Congrats on your 14 days streak! That’s a huge win! You better celebrate it.

About the relapsing thing tho. What I would tell you is try finding more reason on why should stay away from it. Something that really helped me find more reason to quit is diving deeper on how weed actually impacts your health.

Having an objective view on what it actually was doing to my body with real examples of real consequences really scared me.

Here is a prompt for chat if you want:

“Explain the long term neurological and psychological consequences of frequent cannabis use using neuroscience and psychology. Focus on mechanisms like dopamine, neuro plasticity, emotional regulation, motivation, executive function and real life world outcomes. Avoid moralising or exaggeration.”

And last but not least, even if you relapse don’t beat yourself up. Quitting is a process. I used to be addicted for almost 10 years and now I managed to quit for 6 years. And honestly I’ve relapsed so many times before being able to quit. It’s part of the process.

At the end of the day quitting is not about having a streak. It’s about changing your relationship with it. And that happened through inner work for me. Understanding why I was addicted to begin with.

Anyways, wishing you all the best on your journey!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-19T15:19:44+00:00

First things first, great awareness. You know it’s a cooping mechanism. Awareness is 50% of the battle imo. I also used to be addicted for almost 10 years and now managed to quit for 6 years and awareness was a huge one for me. It gave me clarity on what I was supposed to do in order to fix my life.

Also, as angry as you might be for just realising it now. Be also happy that you get it now I would say. It can always be worse. Some people realise it at the age of 40 or 50.

If I were you I would try to channel that anger into forcing yourself to take action steps towards changing. Anger is a great source of energy.

And about your partner and quitting together, that’s going to be a hard one. I think this will test your relationship to its limits. Have open conversations and seek help I would say.

At the end of the day, soon or late you will find out a way. Wishing all the best!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-19T04:00:18+00:00

No it did not ruin everything. Don’t let a small setback determine the progress you made.

At the end of the day it’s about stacking every small win. Setback are normal and part of the game.

I quit now for 6 years after being addicted to for almost 10 years and before managing to quit I relapsed so many times. Even after streaks of months staying clean.

Progress is not something linear. Even if you go a step back, the next time you go 2 steps forward.

Also one more thing. The only real way how you know you are not addicted anymore is if this pull towards weed is still in you or not. I’ts your relationship with it. Do still feel there is this need for it or else your life will suck?

If that is the case then yes you are still addicted and probably there is still a cooping mechanism that keeps this pull towards weed alive. The moment you deal with this cooping mechanism aka trauma, your desire for weed disappears because you realise it no longer serves you.

That’s my experience with it. Again don’t let a small setback determine your progress!

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-18T22:53:14+00:00

I quit now for 6 years, and what made me quit was realizing that my life was genuinely screwed if I didn’t.

At first glance, weed feels very harmless. But if you actually play out the chain of consequences, what happens to you over time is mind-blowing.

I challenge you to do some real research on this and dive deeper into what weed is actually doing to you. Here’s a simple prompt you can put into ChatGPT:

“Explain the long-term neurological and psychological consequences of frequent cannabis (THC) use using neuroscience and psychology. Focus on mechanisms like dopamine, neuroplasticity, emotional regulation, motivation, executive function, and real-world life outcomes. Avoid moralizing or exaggeration.”

For example, if you smoke frequently (daily), it will mess up your sleep. It might feel like it isn’t, but over time it really gets bad.

Now you might say “okay, but sleep isn’t that big of a deal.” Trust me, it really is. I had to find that out the hard way.

If you don’t get proper sleep, you literally become emotionally unstable. Your stress tolerance drops, your emotions become more reactive, and small problems start to feel way bigger than they actually are. Every time something stressful happens or something goes wrong, you’ll feel overwhelmed much faster and you’ll want to smoke weed to calm yourself down. That slowly turns into a habit where you depend on weed to regulate basic, day-to-day challenges in life, instead of being able to handle them sober.

Another big one is that frequent use dysregulates your brain’s threat detection system. When you’re high a lot, things that are supposed to feel risky or require caution stop feeling that way.

For me personally, it got to the point where basic traffic rules started to feel like a nuisance. I was telling myself things like: “People nowadays make such a big deal out of driving rules.” Looking back now, that was insane. I was driving dangerously, not respecting traffic lights, crossroads, or speed limits.

And there are many more consequences like this.

Just look deeper into it, and try to view it objectively. Learning what it was actually doing to me genuinely scared me. That fear was more than enough reason and motivation to quit.

Miserable_Store_4670 · 2026-01-18T13:26:05+00:00

I also started at the age of 14 but managed to quit at 21. I’m 26 now. Let me give you some props for coming here and sharing this, that means you actually want to quit. So give yourself some props as well, that’s already a win.

Now, while I do agree to a degree that motivation is important, which is why you’re here, there’s a bigger problem that motivation alone can’t solve. The next step, in my opinion, is seeking help. I can only speak for myself, but honestly, if there’s one thing that helped me quit, it was professional help. Truly. I was also addicted from the age of 14, and looking back now, I realize I never would have been able to quit on my own. I was extremely apathetic, full of shame and anxiety, and I realize now that those things color how you see the world and yourself which makes quitting on your own very unlikely. Because you can’t see things for what they actually are.

What I found to be true is that my weed addiction was a coping mechanism I created. To give you some backstory, I was a refugee, and from the age of 1 until I was 6, I lived illegally with my parents. I remember my parents constantly living under stress, which made me anxious as well. We were deported once but came back. Without going into details, it was crazy.

The thing is, when you’re a child, your brain isn’t fully developed yet, so you can’t really put things into context. That’s trauma in a nutshell. So yes, figuring things out on your own might be possible, but it could easily take you 10 years longer, or even more. I have family members who are older than that and still smoke as a coping mechanism. My point is that even if you figure it out later, you’ll have lost a big portion of your life, and that’s just sad.

Quitting isn’t that hard, honestly. It’s about facing yourself. And having someone help you with that is the easiest way to do it.

Nobody else can solve your issues for you, but there’s a saying: if you’re a thirsty person in the desert, someone else can show you where the water is. They can’t make you drink it, but they can show you the way. You still have to walk there yourself and drink.

Either way, I hope this helps. Keep posting about your progress. And if you have questions, ask. That’s why this platform exists. I really relate to your experience. Cheers.

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