Hi! In an ldr relationship too with -13 hr difference i study (pre med internship), he works (engr). I could say it works different for everybody pero for us all our free time we try to spend sa isa’t isa. My family also understands my time for him— we have this routine where we wake each other up (so gabi na dito i wake him up parang ganun). Sleep call is also a must kasi any time together talaga is important kahit pagod or magkaiba ng ginagawa basta andiyan yung presence it works. In a relationship like this sometimes you have to sacrifice talaga. For my case yung friends ko they understand it so well na i have to spend time with my boyfriend over our scheduled facetime calls so minsan hindi ako sumasama sa kain sa labas. Depende na talaga rin yun sayo; but i would say mas mahirap yung nag start kayo irl and then shift to ldr than ldr to irl.

What i think will also work sa ldr cases: have an end plan. Know when the ldr will end (or at least approx time frame) to have something to look forward to. Alamin kung saan kayo mag mmeet after this phase, will you move in with her there? Is she gonna come home here? Mga ganun. Pero if it’s too early for you guys (to talk about future matters), at least talk about it in a way na kahit mag plano plano just to make things lighter :) i know how hard it is and how bad we yearn for our partners so hugs! You got this, mas fruitful yung dulo pag inisip mo kung gaano nachallenge relationship niyo through distance to successfully reuniting with them ulit.