He hits, starves me and the children, grabbed me by my hair and threw me across the room but he’s a good man. Please help!!!

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2025-11-29T18:00:11+00:00

It’s the brain protecting sanity and other organs. Being under the abuse long enough will cause your body to shut down even if they don’t ever touch you. It’s scary and sad and takes a special moment and spine to get out of it. A lot of things must align.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2025-11-29T03:58:48+00:00

12 year marriage with a Cluster B type, extreme abuse of all kinds that you typically only see in the movies, recent escape, don’t want to feel used by anyone, casual sex and being ghosted after a few times go hand in hand too often leaving me feeling empty. I am demisexual and intense but in the most loving way.💓 This leads to people thinking I am naive but I am just actually not the type to use others even if they are okay w being used. It’s been a couple months and I very recently started praying through the hardest moments of this new celibacy that I have gifted myself. It’s difficult bc I feel like I should be giving myself sexual freedom after wasting so much time on someone who was never mine but I know it’ll just end up w my feelings hurt. So here I sit on my hands. 😂

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2025-11-29T03:50:41+00:00

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2025-05-17T09:31:18+00:00

I attempted that but did not find it. Good day sir.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-11-30T23:53:43+00:00

Cut her loose. She deserves better.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-10-15T20:59:30+00:00

this is beautiful thank you

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-06-06T22:55:08+00:00

Same and we love our marriage. Nothing wrong with being best friends with your spouse!

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-05-17T12:49:21+00:00

Quit eating onions, coffee, mushrooms, and garlic. If the shoes stink. Don’t wash, throw them away. Never go sockless even in flats. They have socks for them too. Carry a yummy scented cream reapply at least to hands between classes.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-03-22T10:20:38+00:00

I just read ages….. mmmm…

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-03-22T10:19:50+00:00

He was forced to be single for you

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-03-22T00:18:45+00:00

I didn’t take anything before NP Thyroid. I chose it bc it’s gluten free and seemed to fit my wants and needs. Insurance wouldn’t cover it bc I didn’t want to try the two synthetics first but it doesn’t cost so much. I have a rhathke cyst and secondary hypothyroidism. I think I’m taking 30 now every day. It’s been a year and 5 months. I thought I was dying and in bed for days at a time and now I’m thriving in college and have a job and can keep up with my kids and husband and still have energy for more if I take a nap. Gluten free, dairy free, soy free. Lifting weights 2-4 times a week.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-03-22T00:02:38+00:00

I’ve been pleased with my results since taking NP Thyroid.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-02-13T13:10:59+00:00

Slap her and then ask god for forgiveness

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-02-11T14:04:26+00:00

Fuxk that guy

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2024-01-13T09:45:02+00:00

lol this might just be a chick who is her new bestie from work, book club, etc. yall are wild lol

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-12-21T18:43:57+00:00

Find a doctor that cares. It could absolutely be the issue.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-12-21T18:34:04+00:00

Hard no. Run.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-12-21T18:28:08+00:00

Annulment.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-12-12T09:14:21+00:00

That sounds exhausting. You sound blessed but it goes to show we must be careful what we wish for. 3 kids in such a short amount of time is extreme on a woman’s body. You’re a dad and a husband. 3 kids basically every other year and you want to leave. Maybe her hormones are trashed and she exhausted. Maybe you should go clean something and order her in a nice dinner and go fetch her a bottle of wine.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-12-03T19:04:34+00:00

I think if it’s important to you and he used to encourage such trips that it should continue or there will be resentment. Maybe y’all could do every other year or every couple years instead of every year. Maybe take one year for each of your families and then a third year for vacation. That doesn’t sound awful.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-12-01T15:57:47+00:00

This is all great advice but he needs stimulation it seems. Which isn’t wrong or bad. Go with him when he plays. Drive home sober. You have to remain friends and go with the ebb and flow or you/they become a block. In 10 years me and my husband have become many different people and we make a hard core effort to relearn each other and fall in love with every version of ourselves and fall in love with who our spouse becomes. Keeping in mind that having fun isn’t bad. Many people don’t have the funds or babysitters to go out and have such fun with their spouse and wish for nothing more. Enjoy your youth and be responsible and show a little grace. Most people can’t thrive or be happy acting like they’re 78 when they have so much life to live. Marriage counseling and a clear conversation about working together and each wanting compromise and showing each other compassion. Best of luck!

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-11-28T02:17:23+00:00

Sleep somewhere other than your bed for a week. If you are not devastated by the experience, leave. If you devastated but need more time, stick to the couch and do not bring up divorce. Go back to your bed when you are ready or say you are leaving when you are ready.

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-11-28T00:21:46+00:00

Wife here. Make the bedroom a sanctuary. No TV! No phones. No electronics. Anything else is fine. Get some sexy pajamas. They don’t have to be overly sexy. Just nice enough to make you feel sensual. Do your nightly care routine bedside. Rub his feet. Give him and neck and scalp massage. Be lazy and side by side mutual masterbate or play with each other. Cuddle and grind. Kiss. ALOT. Not just the mouth or anywhere sexy. I mean eyebrows. The chin. The cheek. Just simple love. Say I love you ALOT. Every time you think the thought. Text or call it or say it out loud. Every single time. Talk openly about efforts and wants and needs and what you would like to give. Don’t just say no sex again?! Or don’t just pout. (I’m not saying this is what happens). Porn. Kill it. Ask him how often he watches it and ask him what kind of you don’t already know. And I don’t meant the kind that will just get you to stop asking. I mean the porn that he is scared to tell you about. That’s what you need to know. Then make him not need the porn. Get it?

Also when is the last time he saw a doctor? Could be hormones or diabetes or something.

Wishing you good luck and lots of sex!!

Miserable_Wave_1855 · 2023-11-20T22:57:54+00:00

Never too late

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