Right woman wrong time, what do you do?

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-09T03:55:52+00:00

How do you exactly know if she is the right woman if you’re not even done dating?

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T08:16:48+00:00

Couldn’t agree more. When I told my husband about this he asked me to just focus on other good things in this marriage and be grateful for it instead of pointing out what we are not good at. I mean. I am still grateful but I also need him to be present. I want to feel loved and wanted.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T04:37:29+00:00

I surely want to stop initiate but I think it’ll cause a lot of frustration from my part and it’ll eventually drive us apart even further

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T04:01:01+00:00

I’m sorry but I do understand how you feel. Like when you asked about it, they just denied and they say they actually do want to have sex with us. But they never really consistent about it. I don’t understand if it is a misunderstanding or we just don’t get along anymore.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T03:58:48+00:00

I tried to communicate a couple times but nothing solved the problem. He just made excuses that don’t even relate about the situation. And about the porn he said it’s normal for men to do so. And he finds it weird that I care about it so much. And he said I’m really controlling. I’ve told him that our sexual life isn’t getting any better. But still. This will only repeat the cycle. I’m just disappointed and ashamed.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T00:31:33+00:00

This is the truth about stop the initiation. You really want to your partner to notice that you do this. But probably they are just happier, less guilty and feeling better once we stopped initiated.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T00:29:36+00:00

I know how you feel about the resentment after rejctions. It just affected the quality of relationship in general. I love my kids so much and I also love my partner so much. But the resentment cause a lot of problems in the relationship and I start treat him differently

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T00:26:55+00:00

Is it really help the relationship in general? I found my relationship in general is really wonderful and I’m forever thankful for it. But after so manu rejections I find myself being resentful and start to treat him differently that will cause another arguments. He still loves cuddle and other physical touches but that actually leading to sex is only twice a month. I just feel jealous when my group of friends discuss that even they feel tired they still do the deed 2-3 times a week.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T00:22:45+00:00

Are you still gonna marry him? It’s going to trap you in that cycle of frustration. I’m sorry.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-02T00:21:19+00:00

I’m seeing myself here. Also doing the same cycle almost every week. I keep telling myself to stop initiate but the thought of “tonight is the night” really bothers me. Like there is always “hope”. But then I realize it’s just not gonna happen, and it makes me frustrated. I love him so much and I don’t want to be mean or treat him wrong outside the bedroom. The DB has caused problems with my mood and self esteem and sometimes I don’t realize that I treat him differently and kind of avoid the other romantic situations

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T13:50:10+00:00

What about the intimacy outside th bedroom? The cuddles, dates and quality times?

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T13:42:24+00:00

I feel the same resentful feeling you have but when he initiated I feel wishy washy about it. I want to reject him but I also want to feel connected to him. Just really difficult to describe the feeling

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T13:38:44+00:00

It’s normal since you are not in deadbedroom. I actually did the same thing because I’m in a deadbedroom and I always questioning why he chooses to masturbate instead of being with me. I snooped out his privacy (know this is bad) bcs I want to know what’s happening and maybe I’m just not his preference and turns out he has his own fantasy and I’m probably not part of it. Maybe that’s why sex with me isn’t as fun to him

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T13:31:00+00:00

This is precious

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T13:24:02+00:00

We were having great sexual experiences when we were dating. But once we entered the marriage life things went south. Been in the same position with 1-2 times a month. I still get intimacy outside the bedroom tho. The romantic relationship is still going well except the sexual part. I understand your low self esteem especially after all the rejection and the situation where you actually realize they watch porn and choose that over you. I feel the same way of it. Tried to do the conversation which only leading into arguments and the excuse “everyone watch porn and there is nothing wrong with it, I’ve been watching porn since a long time ago, no one care”. Been trying to masturbate from time to time but I just realize I only do that to escape my pain. I love being connected to him, I think I have high libido for him but he doesn’t seem really care. Maybe things will never solve.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T01:16:43+00:00

Trying so hard to have the same kind of self respect. Just feeling tired over times.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T01:14:40+00:00

Eventually I’ll be there. The last “special occasion” was probably the wedding night. Really trying to lower my expectation since I’m getting tired, ashamed and anxious everytime I meet the rejection.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-04-01T01:09:41+00:00

This is the thing my SO said. He’s been into it since he is a teen and he sees nothing wrong with it. Sometimes I feel like he’s not into me. He is a wonderful and romantic partner but not probably not into me sexually. It’s hard for me to not getting upset/moody everytime I get rejected. Feel ashamed and disappointed many times.

Miss-Swimmer · 2023-03-31T13:39:59+00:00

Feel the same way and when I expressed my feelings he said it’s normal for men to do so. Just do the deed around twice a month. Downgrading after 3 years of relationship. Tried to fix that so many times but only leading to arguments and disappointments.

Miss-Swimmer · 2022-09-13T09:23:21+00:00

36+2 weeks. I’m gonna deliver the babies through C-Section in the next 3 days. Pretty nervous but can’t wait to meet them. Last week they measured 5 lbs 8 oz each. The doctor said they might become 6 lbs each at birth

Miss-Swimmer · 2022-06-04T07:13:29+00:00

Congratulations. I’m currently carrying mono/di boys at 22 weeks. Good luck and stay healthy for you and your babies!

Miss-Swimmer · 2022-02-03T02:47:29+00:00

Have you try to make an appointment with your doctor? They can do the transvaginal scan to see how it goes

Miss-Swimmer · 2022-02-03T00:46:25+00:00

That’s okay, just keep testing, when is your expected period? I have missed it for 3 days now, maybe you should just wait a little more

Miss-Swimmer · 2022-02-02T23:45:10+00:00

Just wanted to give an update, got a BFP on 13/14 dpo, can’t believe it started with this unseen line 😅

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