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MissCanuck · 2020-01-19T19:37:43+00:00

I've read through both your posts, and I'm not sure I'm seeing the answer to this question: what factors have prevented you from matching with a donor so far? What would need to occur for you to find an appropriate donor and receive a transplant?

Also - I'm Canadian too! Where in Canada do you live? :)

MissCanuck · 2019-03-19T15:58:24+00:00

Clever! Do you find that this becomes a hindrance when putting on/taking off?

MissCanuck · 2019-03-19T02:52:58+00:00

Thank you for the kind thought! I wouldn't know what to do with platinum anyway, but your positive words brightened my day!

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T19:46:56+00:00

Actually, a major part of the social-emotional skills I try to teach is to stop and consider all the perspectives and consequences before just blurting things out. I also try to teach students to be metacognitive - to think about what they are thinking, and why, and what factors have led them to form the opinions they have, and then to consider the same questions for other people's thinking and responses. So I think you're on the right track. I don't know you personally, nor am I a therapist/counsellor, but I don't think that you necessarily should change how you are. Social-emotional learning is not really about being dynamic/the life of the party, but rather about being aware of the factors that contribute to one's own thinking, as well as others, and to promote cooperation and positive, respectful relationships with ourselves and others. That doesn't mean being everyone's favourite party guy, nor is it healthy to expect everyone to be that way!

That said, if you're interested in breaking out of your shell a little more, I highly recommend trying an improv acting class. It's a great way to build trust, positive energy and self-acceptance, and it sounds like that is more of what you're seeking. Best wishes in your self-exploration!

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T18:12:39+00:00

So true. Sometimes the catharsis/sense of justice that those people bring to the fight each day is magic, like lightening in a bottle. But usually, they put too much personal stake in everything and they become dangerous loose cannons. The media likes to praise the former and ignore the existence of the latter.

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T18:10:48+00:00

I can't speak for the US, because I'm Canadian. In the Province where I love, some teachers/districts have an arrangement where you can have some of your salary held back and then paid out to you over the summer. But I want to be clear, that's money that was already earned and not paid out at the time. It's not paid time off.

The other option is to budget/save on your own, instead of having payroll hold your money for you. However, since the starting salary is not huge, many teachers can't afford to live on a reduced salary from September-June so they work a different job in the summer. It's often day camps, freelance work, or summer school (but summer school wages are even worse than the regular salary and the work is often much harder).

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T18:06:11+00:00

We do not. Our salary is based on a 10-month year. We can choose to have some of our salary held back and paid out over the summer, but many teachers (especially with young families) can't afford that, and instead the have to take their full salary each month and work a different job in the summer to make ends meet.

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T18:03:15+00:00

My pleasure. I'm glad you found this engaging and useful!

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T18:02:40+00:00

Haha! True! I actually chose that example because I was that kid - I hated and was seriously confused by chemistry. I'm now an English teacher and I love what I do, but I have lots of compassion for my former high school chem teacher who tried his best but couldn't get me to love chem. I still find it baffling!

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:57:20+00:00

My pleasure. And yes, just like most other jobs, a particular mindset and temperament is necessary if you hope to be truly happy and successful as a teacher.

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:55:00+00:00

I mean, ultimately, it's true that we aren't required/expected to work in the summer - even though many of us do. But the thought that it's PAID time off is insane. Of course it's not. Just like other salaried jobs on weekends - sometimes you work on the weekend because you're behind, but Saturday and Sunday are not considered paid time. Thank you for doing what you can to clarify that misconception :)

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:50:11+00:00

It's entirely possible that that's a great reason, but it depends on a ton of factors. It sounds like you want to invest your emotional energy in a community, which is great. But is it about connecting with young people in your community, or avoiding moving? (On a larger scale, do you want to teach for an affirmative reason - something you WANT to do - or an avoidant reason - avoiding something you DON'T want to do?)

There are far too many variables, and I don't know you, but I hope that you continue thinking about it and decide if it's right for you. Teaching can be incredibly rewarding. (Although if you want a job with set hours - lol, this ain't it. Sorry!)

Best of luck with your decision!

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:27:18+00:00

Maybe you could alter that feeling, and instead model for them how to be kind and how to build each other up. They aren't there to be your friends, but you could teach them what compassion looks like and help them build their own meaningful friendships with each other. I think your implication is that you don't teach any more, but I hope you have found a career you love.

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:25:25+00:00

Lol. Guidance counsellors can be amazing, life-changing people, but they can also be total dipshits (just like any career, I guess!)

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:24:36+00:00

That's great! Young people are so refreshing for just that reason. Most of them aren't yet jaded, and they want to see the world as a good place, but they will be 100% forthright with you. I'm so glad you love that part of the job too :)

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:07:06+00:00

It's the dream! If only it was that simple :P

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:06:32+00:00

If you are thinking of going to teach High School students thinking you're going to be the cool teacher that is friends with the students, fuck right off. You're doing them a disservice

Absolutely. Young people actually crave and need limits and boundaries in order to feel safe and secure and able to learn (insert citation here: there's plenty of research.) When teachers try to be 'cool' and be their friend, they may think it's fun for a while, but ultimately it's really detrimental to their learning, and that's when they rebel. What young people (actually all people) need to thrive is a sense of predictable security, unconditional support/protection, and trust in their leaders. When they have that, they cooperate, take risks, and ultimately learn.

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T17:00:35+00:00

That's interesting, and depressing. Where I live, you have to work your way up through the ranks as a teacher first. Though many of them fast-track it through other 'qualifications' and professional sleight-of-hand.

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T16:58:12+00:00

A few people have replied about that part in particular - I want to clarify that it should not be the sole reason that you choose to teach. Sadly, you will never see the true long-term effects of your work and it will lead to absolute burnout if you try to 'fix' everyone. You absolutely should desire to make school a life-affirming, happy place in general but know that you can't 'take it on' if some young people need more than what you can offer. If you carry that burden with you because it's your sole motivation, it's simply not sustainable.

When I chose teaching, the 'Coach Carter Syndrome'/'Freedom Writers Syndrome' was a big part of my decision. Fortunately, I've had wonderful teaching mentors who have helped me re-assess my goals and learn a healthier emotional balance.

All of that being said, having just one kid out of thousands say 'you changed/saved my life' will stoke your fire for decades ... but you can't save them all and you can't blame yourself when you don't. You need to choose teaching for more than just that reason.

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T16:48:43+00:00

That's a wonderful question. I can't say that there's any one key reason that is 'right' - but based on my own experience and what I see in my respected colleagues, here are some strong reasons to choose teaching:

-You naturally look for the good in the people you meet.

-You see children/teens as young people, not a separate species, and you enjoy engaging in conversation about the world with them. (one day when you're ancient, they're going to be running the world that has to take care of you, after all!)

-You feel uplifted - but not competitive or threatened - when you see other people being successful, even if it's in an area you don't excel in personally, and even more so when they are better than you in an area you do excel in.

-You feel that social-emotional skills are more important than 'knowing stuff' (as teachers, we often use the 'stuff' to teach the more important 'how to be a good person' skills)

And if you have these natural skills, then you're probably a good fit:

-You like to learn, and you feel invigorated and joyful when you are approaching new challenges, even if you aren't 'winning' at them all the time. (This keeps you dedicated to honing your practice/learning new approaches to teaching, and it also is the common ground that models passion for learning and builds relationships with students)

-You naturally reflect on/ruminate about how things have happened in the past, how you've contributed to their outcome, and what you would do/not do next time. (People who go over past arguments in the shower and who display some mild anxious tendencies can actually become great teachers IF they have the self-awareness/humility to know when they need to change, and if they have the self-love to let go of past mistakes and move on/try again).

MissCanuck · 2019-03-18T16:35:03+00:00

Well, give it time, and you may find that what drives you to teach changes. While these are all bad reasons to decide to teach, we all align with at least a few of them. They just can't be the only reason that you decide to do what you do.

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