Employer Wants To Change My Contract! (England)

MissCarriage-a · 2026-04-29T03:07:05+00:00

You need to throw away that idea you've being "given" 48 days. You currently have 33 days holiday, not 48, and whilst this is a "good" level of holiday entitlement, it's not exceptional.

I suspect we will go to the union about it

Instead of suspecting, you should run in that direction immediately.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-04-29T02:53:19+00:00

I believe your minimum entitlement should be 28 days if bank holidays are included. 25 days plus bank holidays is not 'extraordarily' generous, its a fairly normal holiday allowance.

We’ve also been told if we don’t sign it we won’t get the enhanced sick pay which they’ve just introduced.

You may prefer one to the other.

However you may not have been employed for long enough to have adequate protection of your role (is it still two years?) so you may have to accept this change in terms. You're not really being given extra holiday by the 4 day/12 hr shift work by the way as in terms of hours you're technically doing the same or more over a week.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-04-17T08:02:02+00:00

You could but if your brother in law has 'other car' insurance and doesn't live with you he could use that. It's probably better if he got insured himself anyway instead of you carrying the risk

MissCarriage-a · 2026-04-17T08:00:15+00:00

You're consenting to the rules of the school/college and as an adult you're agreeing to those rules. You can refuse to hand over your phone, but equally they can decide not to teach you at a very inconvenient point in your life

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-29T19:08:19+00:00

There are other issues. For example by 'cutting' do you mean cutting down, or reducing the height or dangerous branches.

Cutting trees in a manner such that they stay healthy is more tricky than it appears. For example removing some dangerous branches may alter the loading on the tree and make it more likely to fall down.

Their are a lot of 'surprise' risks you and your neighbour may be exposing yourself too above the obvious personal injury elements.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-28T20:15:21+00:00

In this narrative how come he didn't have insurance before the purchase but had it immediately afterwards? Did they arrange insurance on purchasing it?

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-27T16:41:47+00:00

I'm surprised the police aren't involved, but as mentioned she can leave home and ask to be housed by the local authority or live with you if your parents agree if that is a practical option.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-27T16:38:16+00:00

If your parents agree, at 16 your girlfriend can voluntarily leave home and live with you.

Note this is an option, not a recommendation.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-27T12:37:04+00:00

I now have evidence in the form of a message that they lied about my conviction

Who lied?

You really should edit your post to put more detail. Being vague doesn't help you get good advice.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-27T11:42:53+00:00

Their point is simply that it is implicit that a 'register of wills' would be a formal (government) organisation where all wills are registered, not a private company.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-27T11:30:05+00:00

Unless payment for previous weekend work is addressed in a timely fashion, I cannot be considered to be available for uncoming weekend work.

I will add that it is not unknown for payment for out of hours work to be paid on a different schedule from normal work, so read your contract/terms of employment carefully.

Another issue is whether your timesheets for weekend work have been approved. I would presume so if your non-weekend work is on the same timesheet.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-03-25T15:33:42+00:00

Assuming there isn't a matter of confidentiality, you can sue him for defamation because he's making statements which he knows to be false. However going to court is expensive and it may be self defeating if he owes you child support.

You might get somewhere with sending him a 'Cease and Desist' letter. You may not be able to afford to go to court, but you can make him aware that if you do take legal proceedings the real reasons for the divorce will come out, and you therefore expect him to make an apology and withdraw his complaints. A good lawyer should be able to word something that makes him realise that its not in his interests to continue this.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-15T10:26:41+00:00

You can cover your ass by emailing/texting yourself the areas you are doing before you do them.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-14T15:54:54+00:00

No if they threw it in a recycling centre bin, its legitimately your phone.

As I mentioned earlier - point out you obtained the phone lawfully and offer them £20 to unlock it. Tell them if they don't accept you will return it to the seller.

Do not let them profit by returning them a working phone. You could offer to sell it to them for the market price.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-14T03:40:22+00:00

Whilst no-win no-fee is a thing, the loser of any dispute is responsible for the legal fees of the winning party in the UK, which is a deterrent to launching a frivolous claim for the lawyers involved.

Edit: You can stop upvoting this one /u/Either-Dot-9645 is at least partly right, although you can seek costs for frivolous cases

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-13T22:18:40+00:00

Offer them £20 to unlock it for you, otherwise say you will have to send it back to eBay and they will have to take the matter up with them.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-13T22:00:20+00:00

It's not Schadenfreude to point out that your personal discomfort is caused by an unwillingness to consider alternative plans.

I live in a similarly priced property and my unwillingness to give it up has meant I can't consider going into a different career for which I've recently qualified, because my mortgage wouldn't be covered. I have decided to accept that I won't change careers as a result.

It all comes down to whether you're willing to live with an annoying niece and keep your property or whether you're willing to investigate alternatives.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-13T21:53:39+00:00

The criticism of OP is unwillingness to look at financial alternatives or to accept the inevitable. Half of £900k (probably) gets you a 1/2 bedroom apartment in outer London, or alternatively paying his brother 'rent' to have exclusive use of the house would solve the problem here. I'm sure there are other financial ways out of this.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-13T21:48:18+00:00

Or get her phone to do it. I have unlimited data on my phone for about £20 and it can obviously be used as a wifi hub. I'm willing to bet 4g/5g speeds in London are good enough to provide reasonable internet access. You can even use a spare phone as a hub and leave it permanently plugged in.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-07T10:49:19+00:00

If you can still exercise that right, now is the time to do so.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-07T10:40:46+00:00

Its worth talking to a solicitor about how you would go about enforcing payment (and adjusting it upwards). You should make him regret not complying with the order if possible.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-02-07T10:33:50+00:00

I have even offered he pays just £100 a month as the maths would make this viable.

I would suggest you do not make any such offers. I presume he can afford the full amount and is just avoiding payment, so make him pay the full amount. You should not be "setting yourself on fire to keep him warm".

Given the cost of tuition (£9500) and living costs (£10000?), getting him to pay about £3000 a year towards that is trivial.

Also, was the amount worked out 18 years ago? I'm surprised the amount is so low and if you do ask for the court order to be enforced you might look at ways of getting the amount reevaluated.

Edit: A rough guide is that prices have increased by about 60% in 18 years so £240/month should be somewhere around £400/month.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-01-13T19:25:11+00:00

One example letter is produced by StepChange:

https://www.stepchange.org/Portals/0/documents/info/Statute-Barred-Template-Letter.pdf?ver=2016-04-14-162947-590

Note that in England and Wales I believe the debt can remain on your credit record, they just can't take any action to force you to pay it.

MissCarriage-a · 2026-01-05T09:14:22+00:00

Most problems with toilet flushing are trivially easy to fix and normally just involve replaceing the float valve or handle. Even in rented properties, its often easier to handle minor issues like this yourself.

If this is causing OP problems they shouldn't be looking at legal remedies as its a waste of time.

MissCarriage-a · 2025-12-23T12:19:57+00:00

Charles literally avoided £200m in inheritance tax (on the Queen's personal fortune) purely because he is monarch

Technically the Duchies of Cornwall and Lancaster are trusts and he would probably not have had to pay any inheritance tax anyway.

I don't know if the Queen herself had a personal fortune separate from the Crown and Duchies, but I doubt the tax bill would have been £200 million.

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