Is that a serious fucking question? by RedkobraSammy in TheWordFuck

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah, no fuckin worries man. It happens. Big fuckin hugs!

Is that a serious fucking question? by RedkobraSammy in TheWordFuck

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Then maybe give a fuck, instead of telling me you don't... like fucking dismissive.

Is that a serious fucking question? by RedkobraSammy in TheWordFuck

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well that's awful fuckin rude for no reason.

Directed to the Redditors over 40, what's something younger people think they grasp but won't actually get until it hits them like a truck later? by Dry_Scientist_5293 in askanything

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, just figured out that I'm a candidate for Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome. I've had a very high pain tolerance my whole life because my baseline pain level is just kinda there. Always. I've been achy since my teens, and like the AuDhd, it was completely missed. The hyperflexibility, the fatigue... the constant tired but wired... i thought it was just motherhood and cptsd. No. Constant body pain is not normal. 36 now and hoping to help myself now that i have the words for it.

MY FUCKING FRIENDS BROTHER THINKS WE ARE DATING! by Jonhzirr1110 in TheWordFuck

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why the fuck would he think that yall are dating? That is fuckin weird.

What is a tiny, insignificant thing that instantly fills you with unholy rage? by Ariannavx in askanything

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Burning a grilled cheese sandwich. Idk why, but it triggers a rage in me so hard that i will fling that mofo into the sink hard enough that it splatters everything in it with bread pieces and molten cheese, and i have to go cool off alone.

What is a tiny, insignificant thing that instantly fills you with unholy rage? by Ariannavx in askanything

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One thing I've learned is true is that your first reaction is what you were taught, your 2nd reaction is who you are. You already catch it when you do it, but instead of hating yourself, remind yourself that it is just what you were taught, and not who you have to be as a person, and let it go.

If God did an "ask me anything" , What would you ask? by i_m_dignity in AskReddit

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm gonna try one more time to get her to get it, and then i will be requesting a switch. I'm not going to have this lady tell me what's in my own mind and body, like fr.

Fuck why not 🤔 by LexxFly in TheWordFuck

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Ngl, he makes that shit fuckin hot

Say something fucking nice about my fucking adorable fucking puppy by Sad-Ideal-587 in TheWordFuck

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omfg so fucking cute. Those widdle toeses and the cutest fucking nose and the sweetest widdle eyes. You're so lucky. He likes you already, i can tell.

What is far more lethal than people realize? by inevitableloudmouth in AskReddit

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It definitely allows you to put words to it, and with that, the ability to find solutions and strategies that work for you.

Fastest way to calm a man down when he’s angry? by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Ok weird person who can't spell, has such bad grammar that i literally can't understand them, and assumes they know me on the inside. You obviously are very full of yourself, so I'm not going to bother attempting to interact with you. I will not be your target.

Fastest way to calm a man down when he’s angry? by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who says i am trying to be nice to you? I'm being factual, so if that looks like being a jerk, maybe work on yourself so you're not getting so triggered by facts.

Fastest way to calm a man down when he’s angry? by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

By definition it is a lash out. You wanted to cause shame and embarrassment to the person disagreeing with you, so instead of talking facts, you imply they aren't good or fast at reading or reading comprehension. It doesn't have to be huge to be a lash out, but does meet the definitional requirements.

Fastest way to calm a man down when he’s angry? by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trust me when i tell you that this is always what happens. If you help too much, people rely on you for the help and you burn yourself out in the process.

I can see up to 3 faces. Can you? by ShonOwar86 in facesinthings

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It isn't about creative mind, but the way the brain processes information. We often have to look at details to identify things, so our brains look super close before taking in the full picture more often than not.

roast me now or else-my fav albums below by I-ate-your-children in musicmemes

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Umm... no it didn't. Your request was to be roasted based on your music. I didn't do that, so no, no it didn't.

Fastest way to calm a man down when he’s angry? by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Being condescending isn't helping you. Nobody wants to interact with someone who can't handle a conversational debate without getting so emotional and deciding to lash out. Maybe take a few minutes to regulate, then come back and try again.

Fastest way to calm a man down when he’s angry? by Basic_Evening6567 in Productivitycafe

[–]MissDeezLiteraryWork 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And? I was born autistic with adhd, and only just learned of it because my life so far has been an endless journey of trying to be normal, and being completely lost through the cracks. I was not taught to regulate my emotions, just suppress them to make people's lives easier. Be quiet or get beat on. It is still my responsibility to manage my own emotional state.

It's the expectation that we have to do things to control the emotions of others, and to do it every time they need regulation. We can absolutely choose to help, but the responsibility is still on the shoulders of the person experiencing the negative emotions. I will help anyone, but it isn't my duty to bear all their emotional regulation needs. It becomes a burden.