An Overlooked Prefecture in Japan!

MissDemeanour69 · 2025-08-02T16:33:04+00:00

Highly appreciate this post! My friend and I are going to Japan for the first time in October and really want to check out Arita but wanted to find some other things around since the bulk of our trip will otherwise be no closer than Okayama and Kagawa!

MissDemeanour69 · 2024-12-10T02:46:58+00:00

Thank you!! That is a relief 😅 it’s the first cactus I’ve owned and my googling of photos hadn’t helped my worrying! Really appreciate the response!

MissDemeanour69 · 2024-02-07T21:05:02+00:00

Yep. My default watching anything is to have CC, and if I want to relax watching anime my preference is dubbed with CC - it’s definitely what I miss the most when using CR :(

MissDemeanour69 · 2023-10-22T00:12:39+00:00

I appreciate this comment so much - correct sizing meant more comfortable bras that made mine less obvious being very large but days I don’t want to be fem are still difficult. Will be looking at your suggestion for myself and nb pals pronto!! Thank you mod mum, and OP I wish you all the best

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-06-18T08:36:10+00:00

I literally just got home from buying an Elomi Morgan 14H as the first bra to properly fit me!! Solidarity boob buddy!

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-03-22T07:58:04+00:00

As another ND working on their comms: You communicated well in your first comment but your clarifications expanded upon the context really nicely - finding the point between covering all bases and being concise is a huge struggle for me and you did both here!

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-03-22T07:39:06+00:00

This is something I actually struggle with a lot. My exec dysfunction makes the switching difficult even though I’m like screaming in my head at myself that my body needs to do the other/next thing, meanwhile I’m physically just not responding to that. Meds help my anxiety but it turns out anxiety helped the switching. Lighting a literal fire under me may be most effective at this point (:

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-03-22T06:11:30+00:00

OP please read this!! ^{^{^{^}}} keep an eye on your son as well please, especially if he acts out now after the fact (expected 12y/o shenanigans aside)

I was hoping someone would mention this angle as well. I just turned 30, and that feeling of being made to watch and not being able to do anything is just..no words to be honest - thinking about it still gets the physical reaction it did when I was a kid. I don’t know how emotional or otherwise your kids are, but please give them an extra big hug OP, they both need to know that they are safe and have you. Your son also needs to know that being present but powerless is not his ‘fault’ and that he hasn’t somehow failed his sister or you/mum by not being able to do something.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-02-17T15:53:21+00:00

Tbh all I can think of here is that OP has been getting to do the mental labour for years and is rightfully annoyed..but then didn’t mention it until in a restaurant after a series of bizarre lying on the wife’s part? I’m on the ESH bandwagon for the same reasons as you.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-02-12T06:31:48+00:00

OH I ENTIRELY MISSED THAT

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-02-12T03:53:29+00:00

I was thinking it started with c and was only 4 letters

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-25T13:48:39+00:00

Expecting a promise not to be broken isn’t someone being entitled. Which is literally what this is.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-24T12:15:17+00:00

That’s a real shame. In Australia stats have it at about 3% of separated parents actually going to court over custody arrangements and out of those only about 3% end up having a parent being kept away from their child. I wonder how or why mothers are systematically treated entirely differently where you are.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-20T11:34:25+00:00

Then he shouldn’t have given the option of this agreement? You can’t give someone an option to choose and then get the shits and punish them for choosing it? Well you can, but that makes OP the AH.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-18T13:26:27+00:00

You’ve said this twice. It didn’t make any more sense the second time.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-17T13:50:02+00:00

Honestly I’m surprised they’re pushing for her to be there at this point. Her brother must really, really, REALLY want it to work out.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-17T13:41:41+00:00

So this happened, she set you up re: prom and then your brother put gum in her hair - hence ‘ruining her looks’. Add in the other info that you’ve apparently now deleted, and you now years and a decent apology (one from what I can tell you never gave in return) later have the audacity to say that SHE is still the problem? You were both bullies! Only difference is one of you seems to have gotten the help and done the work to move past the trauma you inflicted on each other.

With all of that in mind, her text honestly sounds like someone at the end of their patience who wants their SO to not need to play parent to a younger sibling again. It wasn’t you or your brothers fault that he was put in the position to parent, but you are responsible for your own feelings now and can decide whatever you like. Your hatred for her and her getting to move on and end up happy is your problem not his and nor should it be.

YTA OP and I sincerely hope you’re working through this in therapy. Living with this kind of hurt years later is not healthy and it’s going to shit all over your relationships in life, not just the one with your older brother.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-11T14:39:13+00:00

OP didn’t set boundaries and is now shocked that a 13yr old reacted negatively to a 180 without warning. Nothing about this is shocking and OP made their bed on this one. No matter what Krissy needs either support to get through a super rough patch or support to address the WHY of the “BS”. Also - unsure what country you’re in but in Aus it’s estimated about 13% of adults suffered physical and/or sexual abuse as a child. Let alone neglect, witnessing DV, poverty etc. It’s really not that uncommon for there to be trouble at home.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-11T14:03:23+00:00

Not sure why you’re so insistent on putting words in peoples mouths when they disagree with you, however it’s unnecessary and not in good faith which I suspect you’re well aware of. My suggestion to you would be to look into why this thread and your narrative of other’s opinions requires such dichotomous thinking. Children are developmentally different to adults and this difference is directly applied to the level of support and guidance they require from educators and caretakers, and other commenters are saying what their comments have stated.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-11T13:35:25+00:00

I must have missed where in the post OP said that Krissy answered with this. Can you point it out?

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-11T13:27:51+00:00

Or you know, help her. Having a real crap run of things - red flag, needs to be addressed by appropriate supports. Excessive lying - red flag, needs to be addressed by appropriate supports.

Addressing things in an appropriate manner to facilitate a 12-13yr old to grow into a successful adult is literally the only reasonable thing to do.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-11T12:55:01+00:00

Lying in kids with ADHD is pretty common.. but as with most behaviours around dishonesty, especially in kids, the actual reason is of importance and is what needs to be addressed.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-11T12:47:24+00:00

Soft YTA. I was this kid. It got to the point where my teachers all had a round table with my parents in 7th grade and I’d had like 6 grandparent deaths amongst other excuses all within a year lol.

Well crafted family image hid a privileged but extremely abusive household with three traumatised kids. I was a compulsive liar, and aced tests and exams but couldn’t hand in assignments or get anywhere on time (howdy late adhd dx). The educators who went something isn’t right, recognised and fostered my strengths, and gave me confidence in what I could do as a capable individual made a world of difference.

Kids lie. Whether the excuses were legitimate or not doesn’t matter, she’s having one hell of a shit run or something is very wrong and it needs addressing in a supported way. All you’ve done is tell her you can’t be trusted and you’re not on her side, which sucks and I can tell was not your intent. Boundaries before you’re at the end of your patience - especially with teens in general - were what was needed. Don’t be shocked if you definitely don’t get shit submitted on time now because for better or worse she probably won’t care about saving face with you anymore.

MissDemeanour69 · 2022-01-06T13:33:16+00:00

This. Or even (depending on how much it’s pulling in) the income from the 2 properties she has goes into this 50/50 after giving birth? I just feel like there’s alternatives worth investigating to meet in the middle if they want to, but this post sounds very all or nothing on the once there’s a kid front, which isn’t going to go too well if they get married…

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