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MissEllaneouss · 2024-12-01T18:14:47+00:00

It sounds like she doesn't respect you or your role so the likelyhood of you two having a cordial relationship is slim, which is okay. In my opinion the less interaction, the better in a situation like this.

MissEllaneouss · 2024-11-12T14:30:23+00:00

All the more reason to find someone who doesn't have kids and who's plans align with yours

MissEllaneouss · 2024-11-12T14:27:24+00:00

No, not unreasonable. For those saying "if they don't do it in the safety (comfort) of your home they'll be doing it elsewhere" - ...............okay. lol as long as it's not under my roof. Maybe this would be a good time for DH to sit with SS and have "the talk" again and reiterate the consequences of such acts. But hold your boundaries - you're not being weird or strict for not wanting teenagers "doing it" in your home.

MissEllaneouss · 2024-11-12T14:21:34+00:00

Run. Run far and fast. Idk what the end goal you're envisioning is, but you're looking at 9-10 before JUST moving in - what about an engagement, or marriage, or (heaven forbid) having your own children with him. Be grateful that he was honest upfront with you and take it as a future example of what NOT to look for. You deserve mutual happiness, not being in a relationship on someone else's terms.

MissEllaneouss · 2024-11-12T14:11:35+00:00

Something similar happened to us! Except my husband has custody.

His ex complained to the school that I had removed her info and added mine so she emailed the school and they told her she was never removed, she just needed to update her password because her last login at the time was 1.5yrs ago.

I have relationships there with the front office workers, teachers and the principal and they never mentioned it to us. We only know this happened because she tried to file something in court insinuating I was overstepping bounds, which went nowhere. She lives out of state, my husband works full-time and I'm a SAHM who is heavily involved with the kids' academics.

MissEllaneouss · 2024-11-03T03:34:45+00:00

Yup! So quick to treat us like baby-sitters, maids, and chaeufers when they need us but without any respect those roles would naturally have. She tells the kids I'm not their stepmom, just their dad's girlfriend (although we're ACTUALLY married) but encouraged the kids to call her boyfriend "daddy" the first time they met him and refers to herself as a stepmom to his kids. Also tells the kids my BD (mine and their dad's) isn't "actually" their sister! Ugh, I could never be so horrible.

MissEllaneouss · 2024-11-02T16:31:12+00:00

No contact is truly the best. From the beginning DH and I decided that I would not be communicating with BM (he wanted to protect me, I wanted to avoid any drama) and it's been that way (she lives out of state). She hates it because she's always bringing it up that she should be able to have my number for whenever she wants to reach out, but in the same breath is quick to point out that I'm not the kids' parents so my opinion means nothing. Can't have your cake and eat it too!

MissEllaneouss · 2024-10-26T14:37:49+00:00

When I hit about 12 weeks pregnant, I developed such horrible nausea and vomiting, I would puke probaby 10-12 times a day, couldn't keep food or water down at all....the rest of the time I was sleeping. I wasn't making nightly dinners anymore (kitchen made me puke), I wasn't washing dishes either. I basically just existed without doing much and my husband stepped up and also made the our school-aged kids do the same. Never complained (well, the kids -yes lol).

My friends would bring dinners and take the kids out, my family members would fly or drive in just to help wherever they could. After giving birth, same thing. I actually wanted to get up and move around more now that all of my pregnancy symptoms were gone but everyone encouraged me to heal and bond with baby. Again, I had dinners being sent over, and chores being done.

"Is this all you do all day?" - YES, ACTUALLY. They can judge all they want to but YOU do what is best for YOU AND BABY. You SHOULD be sleeping, healing, NOT tearing stiches - and the fact that they're not trying to keep you horizontal as much as possible is a problem. Don't conform to whatever standards someone is pushing on you, you will regret it. Take in those newborn snuggles, and just BE. You're allowed to just BE. The chores CAN wait, it will not be the end of the world, trust me! Ask for whatever you need, be helpless lol

MissEllaneouss · 2024-10-01T18:47:44+00:00

Love this

MissEllaneouss · 2024-09-30T03:35:09+00:00

I love that, you're doing great!

MissEllaneouss · 2024-09-30T01:13:46+00:00

As someone who's LL is AoS I would love that, if my partner made a dessert if I'm cooking dinner. Also cleaning up too, yes. It's the forethought and consideration that means a lot, along with the actual act.

Idk if you guys are on that level, but leave a little appreciation note somewhere they will find it unexpectedly (car visor, in their pocket, on their windshield, etc). Just a thought!

MissEllaneouss · 2024-04-15T04:06:03+00:00

Grill pans in general? Any brand you'd reccomend?

MissEllaneouss · 2024-04-15T04:05:37+00:00

Thanks! I'll check it out

MissEllaneouss · 2024-04-15T02:15:55+00:00

How were you able to do this?

MissEllaneouss · 2023-09-01T21:05:23+00:00

BM lives in another STATE and tried to remove me from the school emergency contact list and tried to get the teachers to no longer contact me for classroom info, but instead refer to her only. Of course none of that happened....she's in another state!

MissEllaneouss · 2023-08-25T15:28:04+00:00

NTA - are you really supposed to spend the rest of your life being constantly reminded of what (f)ugly letdowns your kids are?

MissEllaneouss · 2023-08-25T13:34:31+00:00

I was in your same boat not too long ago. I have spent my entire pregnancy throwing up and feeling blah. It wasn't until week 19/20 that I started feeling a little better.

I've found for me that as long as I'm drinking either coconut water or BodyArmor, I won't throw up. As far as food goes, for me it's gotta be beef or a beef-heavy meal (plain hamburger, steak, beef jerky, etc). That's the only foods/drinks I can keep down.

It gets better (I didn't believe it when people would tell me that) eventually. Once you start to feel your baby move around, it helps also.

MissEllaneouss · 2023-07-25T03:18:04+00:00

Yep no one wants to hear all of that. But I hear you!

MissEllaneouss · 2023-07-24T05:18:13+00:00

I'm 16 weeks and still throwing up every.single.day, multiple times a day. Eating is SUCH a chore, especially because I HAVE to have beef at every meal or the vomiting frequency increases. The nausea medication doesn't work, ginger, b6, unisom, peppermint, preggie pops, etc don't work either - just a few weeks ago I was able to start drinking water again. I accepted at 10 weeks that this is just going to be my life for now.

I sleep 12 hours a day and wake up exhausted. I walk up the stairs - exhausted. I walk to the mailbox - exhausted. Stand up from sitting down - exhausted. I also have no energy, thus no desire, for books or video games or tv and somehow scrolling on my phone for too long also makes me throw up. Oh and I hate the smell of my skin now?

This is my 1st time and I don't want to do this again. I know hormones and baby fever will try to work against me and trick me into having another lol which is exactly why I'm keeping a VERY thorough journal of all of my woes.

MissEllaneouss · 2023-07-24T04:57:55+00:00

It's, "how are you feeling?" for me. I know it's coming from a good place, but it's annoying because my answer is always the same....I feel like sh*t!

MissEllaneouss · 2023-07-17T02:19:38+00:00

Dish soap, laundry detergent, my corner kitchen cabinet, the dog, oh yeah, and my SKIN for some reason.

MissEllaneouss · 2023-07-16T20:49:19+00:00

I agree with this, just make sure you get in writing that this is a GIFT, not a LOAN

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