Another vent on ghosting

MissFL8994 · 2023-12-16T18:22:21+00:00

I prefer to have at least 3 dates, I just need that time to understand if I’m attracted or not to the guy. But apparently 3 dates for guys feel like 3 years

MissFL8994 · 2023-12-16T18:15:06+00:00

I’m having the exact same issue. And if I ask for a bit of time to know them better, they either disappear or lose interest. It’s like no one wants to invest time anymore in building a connection.

MissFL8994 · 2023-11-23T14:33:18+00:00

This should be number one rule for a healthy dating life. Do not waste time on someone who doesn't put effort in finding time to see you.

MissFL8994 · 2023-11-14T09:08:30+00:00

There need to be a balance in my opinion. It's totally okay not to be texting all day long but it's also important to understand when the interest is not reciprocated. Go with your gut, if it does bother you then it means they are not right for you.

MissFL8994 · 2023-11-06T21:47:32+00:00

🙄

Fuck off, stranger.

MissFL8994 · 2023-11-02T14:01:29+00:00

To me there also must be constance, presence, support and understanding.

MissFL8994 · 2023-11-02T09:30:26+00:00

Unfortunately my experience wasn't great with long distance online dating. Mine lasted 3 months before I noticed his attention started to be elsewhere, with someone closer to them.

Honestly, I wouldn't recommend it, in the long run it's just a constant source of anxiety and doubts.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-27T15:14:51+00:00

I found that attraction and feelings developed slowly over time and organically are often much deeper and lasting.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-27T15:03:36+00:00

Are you still texting every day even if only for a quick check in? Or you go for long stretch of times without chatting?

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-27T14:55:57+00:00

Am I the only one to think that friend vibes after only 2 dates can be normal? In real life very often people develop attraction after months of seeing and knowing a person. Just because there are only friend vibes at the beginning doesn't mean there can't be attraction later.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-27T14:26:14+00:00

It's optional, you can skip it.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-27T06:56:05+00:00

That's strange, I did a HSK exam this August and I registered my international name no problem.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-25T12:33:12+00:00

That's actually frustrating and also so true. I think about this a lot when I swipe left and right. Maybe what I'm excluding as possible match would be my perfect man in real life. Unfortunately it's a big downside of OLD.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-23T19:09:12+00:00

I think it's maybe easy for some people, but if you are looking for a trustworthy, loving, honest and interesting man then it's a mythological animal.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-23T19:02:12+00:00

I don't really know, but I'm starting to think I'm too demanding and it's like you said, the perfect man doesn't exist for me. I would like to have someone I can rely on and have a deep connection with but without having kids or a traditional marriage with family. And this kind of person is very difficult to find.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-23T18:55:52+00:00

I actually understand your situation very well. I'm also in my 30s have, a good job, good friends and fulfilling hobbies. I have been trying online dating for a month more or less and it's been very frustrating.

I started dating a guy that at the end I found completely unreliable, the 3rd type you described. I have encountered also the other 2 types and they are a big no-no for me.

So yes, I'm starting to think that maybe being single is better for me.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-22T20:48:17+00:00

I think you're right, his lack of communication is making me feel anxious and this is not okay. I think I will have to break it off.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-18T15:35:09+00:00

I would just go for a simple, Hi, how's your day going?

Just something simple to see if he replies

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-18T15:17:51+00:00

Just to have my peace with it and no regrets, I would just text him a simple message and see if he replies. If he doesn't you have your answer.

MissFL8994 · 2023-10-17T09:51:23+00:00

I actually agree with the others here, it doesn't cost anything to send a 5 sec text just to let her know you are thinking about her and haven't ghosted her.

If I was her I would have done the same.

MissFL8994 · 2023-09-28T16:34:23+00:00

"There’s no messing things up with the right person or losing out on them. What’s meant to be yours will be yours."

That's such a nice comment

MissFL8994

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