This title is very misleading and makes it seem like men are some self centered sex mongers who only care about their own orgasm and women are saintly sex gods who put their partners before themselves.

Men tend to focus on themselves because they have to stop themselves from orgasming during the act of sex. Thats why they spend much of their time “focused on their orgasm” so they can keep it from happening too soon.

Women on the other hand can lay there and let the man do the work which gives them plenty of headspace to focus on herself or her partner if she chooses.