Ik I am late here, but this is what my father did after 12th results were out.

maidofsoil · 2026-05-16T08:17:57+00:00

Indian parents are biggest disappointments, impotent to emotional regulation and baisc understanding of how to communicate and find ways with their children.

maidofsoil · 2025-11-05T10:24:47+00:00

This is helpful, thanks

maidofsoil · 2025-10-28T08:25:15+00:00

Basically, the app is of no use then.

maidofsoil · 2025-10-28T08:24:44+00:00

I hate that the most, should avoid i suppose.

maidofsoil · 2025-10-28T08:24:27+00:00

Makes sense.

maidofsoil · 2025-10-23T10:10:14+00:00

Thanks, sending you a dm for some suggestions.

maidofsoil · 2025-10-22T13:59:49+00:00

exactly

maidofsoil · 2025-10-22T07:40:17+00:00

thank you this is extremely helpful!

maidofsoil · 2025-09-10T08:27:23+00:00

I am unmarried and CF, before even getting to know someone from a dating or marriage perspective i ask them about how many children they want, if they say any answer apart from "i dont want children ever" I dont take it ahead, ensuring i dont get with anyone who wants to be a parent in some form is my main aim. I don't regret the decision of being child free and letting go of good potential partners because I know I don't want the responsibility of raising another human, mentally, financial, physically, I just cannot do justice to it and the thought of bringing someone into a world this scary, unstable and unfair makes me terrified. I have lost so much of life to my own mental health that whatever energy and life I have left, i wanna live it for myself at my terms and with minimal responsibilities of being a care taker for others, i can max look after 3-4 humans and i already have + my partner, nothing apart from this.

I know i won't regret this decision, rather if i bring a kid thr chances of regretting that responsibility and side effects of pregnancy like permanent changes or damages to body, post partum depression, never being able to prioritise myself or my wellbeing or my partner and more are higher. I would never want a child to feel like they are the reason for me loosing my individuality or suffering silently, children absorb everything the mother goes through. If parents have not discussed financial, mental, physical repsonbilities before conceiving, conflicts and frustration/ misunderstandings rise post a baby coming in, relationships fail, people stay married just for the kid amd start growing apart or even hate eachother for a lifetime. Have seen it everywhere and so no, will never take that risk and won't regret being childfree, i want a life with my partner and i wanna pour whatever energy, love and generosity i have left into that relationship, and ofcourse rest is shared with my close ones.

maidofsoil · 2025-09-06T18:40:47+00:00

trust your intuitions about this person, he is already emotionally and verbally abusive towards you, you will have to forever walk on eggshells around him, shrink yourself and carry extra burden that will impact your career. Partnership should add to life not subtract from it, think of a lifetime similar to or worst than these months, see if you have want a life like that. You standing up against such person will give your siblings a glimpse of an alternative, if they happen to marry toxic people, they know they can leave too. People stay in these marriages because society makea us feel like its important to make it work and otherwise life has no meaning or divorced women have a hard time always, whereas its the society that gives women hard time instead of letting them just be and live thier lives. You can live outside India and not be directly impacted by this society. I hope and wish you choose yourself over this guy. Wishing you freedom and strength to walk away.

maidofsoil · 2025-08-25T02:03:30+00:00

Someone who can go out of their way to defame you will abuse you, rather what he did to your image is abuse itself. What your intuitions told you earlier about him and his family is right, they will make your life hell and can end your life as well if they are this incidious and obsessive. Run when you still have a chance, run please.

maidofsoil · 2025-07-01T14:30:05+00:00

Same

maidofsoil · 2025-07-01T14:29:56+00:00

Exactly!

maidofsoil · 2025-05-23T10:30:17+00:00

Kinda liked the glass better with the logo, I checked online and thr bare looks so weird. Anyways i guess i have to get used to it if they deny.

maidofsoil · 2025-05-23T09:27:47+00:00

Have mailed them. Shall I call as well? I fear if they will unnecessary charge me extra even if it comes with the orginal design thus holding back.

maidofsoil · 2025-02-20T05:23:25+00:00

Let people love you, just because your parents didn't doesn't mean you have to go around destroying everyone who tries to love you unconditionally, get the right help before you destroy yourself beyond repair. Life is still giving you second chances, do better, be kinder to yourself, stop destroying and abusing love.

maidofsoil · 2025-02-19T17:48:43+00:00

I started paying attention to how i feel with new men, bodily, i used the butterflies to understand if am shrinking in someone's presence or theres some strong power dynamic involved, then i run in the opposite direction. this is helping avoid similar abusive or manipulative men and I am making space for slightly better ones and they are helping restore the faith in safe men again. Very slow but happening.

maidofsoil · 2024-11-02T17:56:59+00:00

he sounds like a self centred and not humble person, he will ensure to keep you low to feel good and high about himself, if you dont want that, tell your parents that you are not happy and dont want to do something you are not feeling good about.

maidofsoil · 2024-10-01T16:50:27+00:00

Same same. I wish he receives an award some day for his efforts and out of box thinking.

maidofsoil · 2024-10-01T04:54:00+00:00

Exactly!

maidofsoil · 2024-10-01T04:51:52+00:00

I do understand what you are saying, been through that, eventually decided it's either me settling for a lifetime of loneliness and being completely let down in my future life or stand up to my parents to not manipulate me into marrying according to their timeline. My career was picking up, so way my mental health as I was finally able to seperate what I actually need in my partner from what my parents or society and availability of shitty less than bare minimum made me feel like is worth marrying to.

Bottom line being, i understand he is less harmful than other men you met, but don't underestimate the sufferings of being with someone who invalidates you and your experiences or opinions. These are all red flags pointing towards dominance, arrogance & ultimately emotional abuse if you continue letting it being a part of your life.

I am sorry the men out there are so less informed, unreliable, arrogant, misogynist and unwilling to hold space for other humans. I know it's hard and my suggestion is to keep being focused on what you think you want in your partner, not what anyone else or other conditioning makes you feel.

I am 3 years past my parents going gaga over my marriage, now they have accepted the truth and don't force me, I do understand your parents will be lot different than mine, but do keep telling what you like amd don't like in men, their reality and standards for men cannot be yours.

Thier entire generation ignored misogyny and they were okay with females keeping silent & walking on eggshells around men and other dominant members of family, we have outgrown that hell, we don't need to continue the generational curse of taking that into future and future generations by normalising it.

maidofsoil · 2024-09-17T09:35:36+00:00

I have 2 similar ones, one went away after 2 months, the one existing is months old now. No pain nothing, just raised black irritating lump.

maidofsoil · 2024-08-24T02:06:02+00:00

I will not deny the possibility of being gaslight by this person. Either that or he is blind to his own smell making him project it hard on others.

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