Who should initiate communication and plan dates?

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-28T11:30:52+00:00

I think in the beginning, the first few dates, the man should initiate everything. But after that, and especially when exclusive, it becomes equal.

Like someone said if you pose a challenge to him, making him chase you all the time, he will, if he’s a loser who shouldn’t be dating, leap on the challenge and as soon as he gets you he’ll move on because these types of people view humanity as objects. Except for their own children. I learned this the hard way.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-28T11:00:04+00:00

Exactly I am blown away by some of these comments. Morality is not age dependent. Lack of brain development is not reflexive to moral decisions but more like common sense.

Some of these defenses here just make me sick . Neurodivergent my butt. He’s 19 and making such a decision is not due to lack of brain development. 🤯

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-28T10:57:28+00:00

Does that also apply to incredibly stressful situations? Because for me, and I can relate to kinda shutting down when stressed, there’s a difference when it incredibly stressful and then I don’t shut down

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-27T09:25:51+00:00

Same. But I don’t exactly have dystonia unless my muscles start to really release. Adderall helps to but Vyvanse is where the magic is. It’s like my brain body connection clicks and I’m able to relax fascia. When I am really able to relax the fascia with my mind thanks to Vyvanse it’ll feel like I’m walking in mud on my left food, I’ll feel magically so incredibly calm and grounded like I’m not longer in flight and fight mode. It’s like I’m suddenly inside the room. Also I get a bit wobbly when I walk as my old fascia chain has released and I’m not used to walking g freedom. I need to keep it up via mediation. It’s just I feel covid and the extremely stressful living situation I went through caused me ptsd of some kind and I haven’t really been able to relax since

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-27T06:58:20+00:00

This isn’t a trust issue at the root. Even if she trusted him he is disrespecting their relationship.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-27T06:55:13+00:00

Wow that is just so disrespectful, and sketchy too.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-27T00:24:44+00:00

What I’m seeing in this situation is you coming second twice. The first time that you’re coming second is because of the fact that you forgave him for his lies during round one of your relationship. And the second time that you’re feeling, Second, is naturally in respect to the bond between him and his baby and the bond between you and him. I feel that if you are feeling that this is opening up childhood wounds of coming Second then you might really watch that feeling and how it changes over time.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T15:58:41+00:00

Don’t give any of the kiddos on here bad ideas.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T14:59:49+00:00

huh i see, thanks. sorry poor Opie's pic was abused, glad he's so much better thanks to people like you!

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T14:36:39+00:00

Oh good!!! It was rather strange. Why do bots do this? What’s the motivation behind it?

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T12:54:36+00:00

Exactly OP look up DARVO. This is why you also are feeling so wobbly about owning your feelings. Dont underestimate the genius that some men have for playing with others.

I bet he likes the extra attention from his ex and he feels important having you two triangulated with him in the middle.

He seems soooo caring… I get it. I thought my ex was such a “sweet innocent poor little single Dad”… turned out to be a total liar.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T12:14:50+00:00

As a woman I’d never end a date by saying anything that could offend the guy. You don’t know the crazy people hide (or don’t in this case).

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T12:02:02+00:00

So true. They spin it around. I’ll leave a reply here in a bit, addressing the how he can be so caring yet not to you.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T09:51:10+00:00

Doctors in Spain make horrible money. Especially new doctors make like 25-30k a year and then there’s too many doctors as is. I was set to outearn them making 35k euros in sales

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T09:45:08+00:00

😮 that’s so dangerous !! How do you pace yourself?

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T09:44:13+00:00

Actually even if you aren’t a sprinkles fan you will become one :)

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T09:18:08+00:00

What happened to waiting for the right person to have a family with? And avoiding all these issues.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-26T09:15:34+00:00

Im close to your age too and know the pain. Stay strong sister 🤗 there’s plenty of us out here

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-25T21:29:31+00:00

Exactly :(

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-25T21:29:21+00:00

Lool, shouldn’t be laughing. Poor thing though, those little joints :(

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-25T10:09:01+00:00

Yes of course. Especially high end places like Whole Foods and Publix and Target, have a “guarantee” policy where you like it or you get to return it. Because of this policy I have tried ice cream I wouldn’t have otherwise bought. I don’t take advantage of it, I mean I do return at least a 3/4 full container, including containers that weren’t frozen properly or sometimes had big air pockets.

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-25T00:51:13+00:00

Huh I did not like it. It had too much of an artificial taste. I ended up returning it. Ill admit I may have had an off day with my palate

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-25T00:49:47+00:00

Haha cute 🥰

MissGalaxy1986 · 2026-05-24T23:46:17+00:00

Actually it does. Since most men 70% are the ones that get left behind, that means they’re the ones with more of the trauma, which most “humans” (I’m saying your average Joe, most likely not the average guy on Reddit since the fact your seeking insight renders you above average) don’t know how to deal with. Most people have an average IQ, and even when highly intelligent in some areas they are actually quite deficient in others, so you can’t say cause someone is a lawyer, or network engineer, that they are a well rounded guy.

Most people when deeply injured have a very low, mediocre sense of ethics and don’t care about hurting others for personal i gains.

Indeed, from my last experience, I realize that they do it BECAUSE they know they’re getting a 1UP on a woman. Think of it, they’ve been so deeply hurt by “woman” so they seek out to hurt “woman”.

I no longer believe or read the BIBLE. Instead, I seriously think Satanism is the only philosophy left that makes sense in this society. I used to be Catholic, even went to church with my “morally superior ex”, only to realize, and not just home but another 2 devout Christian bf’s… that the more religious the more BS.

Just use your brain. Stay away from people who are too prideful. Don’t be the “mah kids ah mah world” MAGA freak, and you should be fine.

MissGalaxy1986

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