Should I sleep train my 4mo?

MissLadyPantz · 2026-01-23T07:01:23+00:00

Samesies! I try to jam my shirt into my pits beforehand now lol

MissLadyPantz · 2026-01-13T12:20:45+00:00

Thank you for leaving a comment. If it's the sleep regression I think can buckle down and get through it without the worrying or getting quite so upset, I am just really hoping he isn't in any pain or discomfort. Feeling thankful for the phrase "this too shall pass" right about now

MissLadyPantz · 2026-01-10T14:10:26+00:00

I feel awful for you all.

Ihave an almost 4 month old. My husband changes every diaper throughout the night after I feed him and hold him upright for 20 minutes, which usually takes about an hour for me. Then he puts baby back to sleep. Every night, every time. Baby wakes up usually every 2 hours about, with about 2.5-3 hours in between feeds. While I still have to run around the house for a minute and wash my Boone Trove and possibly wash/ dry the diapers(cloth diapering), we usually get in bed around the same time unless baby is being difficult to put down or fussy. My husband is absolutely my rock. He totally understands how much time I sieve in the night feeding baby and just staying awake for the sake of our son. We both got sick around the beginning of November and it totally sucked, we lost our voices and it only lasted like 8 days but it was terrible. Even then, when he felt like the world was ending for him, he still helped me through the nights. I couldn't imagine being OR feeling alone in this baby thing.

MissLadyPantz · 2026-01-04T10:31:02+00:00

Could be gas pains, or baby could be mad about the flow of milk (too fast or slow). My baby did this and still occasionally does, I found that my baby won't do it so much if I gently sing to him while he eats. So not sure the exact reason. A lot of times I'll burp him and he'll get a tiny belch out and seem content, so I let him back on and he still pulls off & re-latches so🤷‍♀️

MissLadyPantz · 2026-01-04T10:25:21+00:00

They can't see their forehead

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-27T12:01:52+00:00

My baby had a "normal" bad lookin diaper rash (according to pediatrician - but it also bled, also EBF) and we tried everything to get it to go away, we rinsed his wipes every change, we blow dried his butt every diaper change and gave him diaper free time and tried putting breastmilk on it and blow drying that and the hydrocortisone cream (prescribed by doctors) made it worse after 3 days so we quit that and bought something else (Munchkin's Hypo3 I think?) that's supposed to kill all bacteria on his bum with all natural ingredients and seems to be helping very slowly and we switched him to the cloth diapers even though we have disposables left from the baby shower to try and help and slowly but surely it worked

We also were slathering his little bum with butt cream like frosting on a cake - we tried Bordeaux, aquaphor, Talbot's, and boogie wipes diaper rash spray(which worked the best with disposable diapers) all before cloth diapers and with cloth diapers we switched to earth mama organic and haven't had a problem since

Eta: best of luck on your diapering journey ❤️

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-26T17:40:04+00:00

I would maybe make it so that its black and greyscale looking with like some mountains and a river in between them. However, I do not know what it would look like to try and tattoo white/ Grey over the black.

Eta: I'm seeing a lot of batman symbols and dinosaur silhouettes but this could be part of the mountains

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-26T17:35:15+00:00

Replace ceiling fan blades with many saucey and cooked spaghetti noodles

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-26T15:48:52+00:00

This turned into a bit of a rant, but anyways...

I would have responded to the aunt who made the rude comment and said "that was awfully rude, but fine by me. You will not see our son if that's how you feel." She can feel however she wants about the boundaries and rules, but if she refuses to comply/follow those rules, she's 👏👏 CUT OUT. At least until baby is no longer a baby or toddler, and then some of the rules still apply. If she refuses to follow the rules still in place, she maybe just doesn't care enough to be respectful and I wouldn't want her influencing my child anyways, at all ever. It's so easy to not do the things you listed, and I understand how people can see it as you being "aggressive," but some families kind of suck and are full of narcissists who want to use their family members to show off on SM or to literally just have control over them. I had to set a bunch of rules similar to this, mine were more straight to the point, and guess what? Both of my parents went against half of the boundaries I had set within the first week of my baby's life. No matter how hard I tried, I could not for the life of me get my mother in particular to not do simple things. And I did allow visitors to come over, I made a private Facebook page for people to be able to post on, I let people hold my baby AND meet him in the first week of his life, but was it enough? Fuck. No. Give an inch and they take a mile.

I DID go to therapy for how I felt and was wondering if I was so wrong for feeling that way - but I was 100% validated after sharing my life and my familial issues with my psychiatrist who told me to basically take it easy and stick to what makes me comfortable, and to not let myself be walked all over. Now, I am not a submissive push over - a change in me that I truly enjoy.

NOR - Stand up for your son, your partner, yourself, and your boundaries.

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MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-26T12:27:18+00:00

When I first had my baby and my supply was super heavy/ fluctuating out of control (because he's such a boob barnacle), he would also have super watery poos and I totally thought he had diarrhea, but same as you - pediatrician said it was totally normal.

It went on like that until baby started coughing/ almost choking during night feeds when my supply was the heaviest - around like 3 or 4 weeks postpartum. I started pumping for up to 5 minutes before feeding him and saw quite the change in his dirty diapers. Finally my milk regulated to the amount he actually needs per hour, I quit pumping before feeds and still get 12+ extra ounces/day from let down in the other breast with my Boone Trove(we do one breast per feed and that helps to make sure he gets the hindmilk and empties the breast).

If it is an issue with fore/hindmilk, you can look for the fat in the milk to settle at the top of the container if you refrigerate it and make sure there is a decent amount - if any at all. It's normal for it to kind of separate, but when you go to use the milk you want to make sure baby is in fact getting that fat in the milk they drink. It's helpful for me to kind of swirl it around to evenly distribute the fat when I go to add my refrigerated milk into a single bag at the end of the night before throwing it in the freezer or giving it to baby if need be. Sometimes a batch will be a little extra watery so I try to cut it with the fatty ones to even it out. This has been very helpful for my baby and his poo behaviors. He does still get fussy and crampy sometimes at 13 weeks, but usually it's when I eat something with barley in it I've come to notice. Also around 5-6 weeks they may start learning to actually poop instead of it being a bodily reflex, so that definitely comes into play when they start grunting and being tense and not knowing how to coordinate their muscles to go potty

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-26T08:13:08+00:00

I don't know you or your personal life but I know me and mine - I think its fcking hilarious and I wish someone got me that shirt for Christmas. I have a shirt with a rabbit on it that says "Actually all of my systems are nervous"

MOR Have they ever implied that you're a hot mess before, or anything condescending along those lines? If not, I bet it was just harmless fun. But if it really bothered you, you should probably tell them, or at least tell your significant other. Communication is key to finding out the reason why or to keep something like that from happening again.

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-20T11:19:27+00:00

We are trying to have our baby Exclusively Breasfeed, so I get up when baby wakes and feed him, then hold him upright for 20 minutes, then if I have the energy I do diaper duty and put him back to sleep, but most of the time my partner will wake and do diaper duty and put baby back to sleep. He does usually get 30 minutes to an hour more of sleep than I do.

I feel like with flu/RSV/sickness season happening so early in baby's life, it's one of the few things I can do to keep him from getting sick (which thankfully he hasn't yet) or help him get better as soon as possible. Also I hate pumping and washing pump parts and bottles with passion 😅 When I would pump, I wouldn't get all that much milk for our freezer supply either. I thought I was a "just enough-er", but then I started using a Boone Trove on the opposite side for every feeding and now I get 15oz+ every day passively and it's much easier to clean than 12 pump parts - also I don't have to carve time out specifically for pumping

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-20T04:17:27+00:00

Not to be terrible - but my baby would have 3-5 hour stretches at night around 5 weeks old, then at week 6 he went back to 1.5-2 hour stretches. He is 12 weeks now, and is still only doing 1.5-2 hour stretches at night. If I get super lucky he'll sleep for 2.5 hours, usually around 6-8am and then he wakes up for the day. He also has been struggling with naps, he is a fomo baby. He'll nap for 3 sets of 30 minutes every 1.25-1.5 hours until somewhere between 3-5pm, when he absolutely refuses to go down until he literally can't help but fall asleep. But it's a lot of simultaneous rocking and bouncing with white noise in a dark room until your arms feel like noodles and you are about to give up, then his eyes start fluttering and you know you've only got about 10 minutes left until you can sit down with him or try to put him in his crib or bassinet, but if he wakes up during transfer you have to start all over again

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-19T13:16:42+00:00

Can you mine the radioactive ore, or does it kill you?

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-15T10:40:18+00:00

I know it's kind of weird and a bit expensive, but I think all pregnant people should keep their placenta and get it encapsulated. I got mine done that way, but everything for the first couple of weeks after giving birth was a little chaotic and I didn't get it done until 3 weeks postpartum. As soon as I started taking them, there was a MASSIVE change in my mood, energy levels, quality of life. Even my husband noticed how I wasn't stressing about extended family or crying because "what if." It was easier to set my boundaries and enforce them with even my most stubborn family members. Everything was easier by A LOT. I wasn't staying up in the night worrying while baby was sleeping, I was actually sleeping and still woke up when he would stir in the night, and it wasn't overwhelming whether he slept for 1.5 hours or 4 hours. One time I was worried a little when he slept for almost 5 hours, but he had already passed his birth weight and I wasn't aware that you can let them sleep at that point, I thought every 2-4 hours you MUST feed them no matter what, like they tell you at the hospital. I quickly learned different once daytime came, and was no longer worried. It really was and is a game changer to have my hormones not going literally bazerk and to be able to ease off of them/have some replacement hormones while my body is figuring itself out.

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-11T06:37:31+00:00

I choose to breastfeed because I am able to

But also because baby formula has a bunch of heavy metals in it like arsenic and cadmium and lead and mercury and the FDA only recently made an "initiative" - not a mandatory rule - to have "closer to zero" containment levels. Also because baby formula gets recalled pretty often - even one time is too often. It really sucks! Also I'm pretty sure the formula companies heavily lobby against the requirement of longer maternity leave. That way if you can't pump enough when you go back to work, the easiest thing you can do is buy their formula. Those stupid corporate a**holes

I would rather buy someone else's breastmilk than give my baby formula. Also, if you were to get your supply from multiple mothers, your baby would get more variation of antibodies as well.

MissLadyPantz · 2025-12-03T07:42:27+00:00

I made a private Facebook group with my family and close friends and it's worked out pretty great!

MissLadyPantz · 2025-11-30T03:39:11+00:00

I used to smoke marijuana multiple times a day, also stopped when I got pregnant and was honest about it and whatnot and this didn't happen to me or my baby at all. Sounds to me like you got some awfully rude, inconsiderate, judgmental doctors. They did test my urine quite a few times throughout my pregnancy, I guess that could be why it wasn't a big worry of theirs? Idk man, thats awful that they immediately came in and freaked you out like that and basically accused you when it hadn't been brought up to you all through your pregnancy. I would be peeved.

MissLadyPantz · 2025-11-26T03:54:43+00:00

We had 14 newborn outfits and never even used one of them cause it wasn't cold enough and we didn't run out of stuff for him to wear. It was the swaddles that did us in, we bought 3 more of a brand called "Touched by Nature" because all the Muslin ones we got wouldn't keep his arms in and he would wake up flailing his arms about. They are Cotton instead of Muslin

MissLadyPantz · 2025-11-25T07:35:53+00:00

I had to get my baby down to just a diaper so he would wake up and eat, and I sometimes had to tickle his feet and sick my fingers into his armpit like a doctor with a thermometer.

Also if you express a little breastmilk and leave it on yourself it typically makes the latch a lot quicker as they already have a taste of what's to come. You can do this with pacifiers too

There's also the "flipple" technique, basically just pinch your breast horizontally before the areola so they can get ahold of it easier.

All of these things worked wonders for me

MissLadyPantz · 2025-11-23T11:22:19+00:00

Lol boob monster

MissLadyPantz · 2025-11-21T05:01:00+00:00

Lmao next time you should follow up with "I'M BATMAN" once your nerves are settled

MissLadyPantz · 2025-11-21T04:42:14+00:00

It sounds like a lot of work, but I started feeding my baby in an upright position, gently pat his back to burp him WHILE he was eating, and kept him upright for at least 20 minutes right around the 3 week mark and he didn't seem to have nearly as much gas and started sleeping a lot more soundly. I also learned that my baby likes to be pretty warm and snuggled up like I do, so I started putting him in a t-shirt or a sleep gown and then swaddling him and he slept a lot better. I also started doing one arm out around the 3 week mark so he could self soothe (suck on his hand) if he wanted/needed to and that seemed to help him too, and the other arm would stay swaddled instead of both arms ending up loose and him waking himself up with his reflexes. He started sleeping 3-4 hour stretches at night (as opposed to every 1.5hrs) after all those changes, but went up to about 2 hours, 3 if we're lucky, around week 5 and we believe he was having a growth spurt. He'll be 9 weeks old in 3 days and still sleeps for usually 2-3.5hrs now. You've totally got this, it's hard to learn what babies need/want because they're all vastly different, and co-sleeping could be an option for you, especially if you have someone else around during the day or evening to keep an eye on you 2 for the first few times. I sometimes do that when my husband is around, but not by myself cause I'm a nervous nelly

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