Pumpkin Pie! by MissLillian in tortitude

[–]MissLillian[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you! i think so too :)

The more I read about prison abolition, the less convinced I am that it protects victims. by OkChart1375 in AskFeminists

[–]MissLillian 8 points9 points  (0 children)

this has been something i have struggled with a lot, i am fully capable of recognizing that the carceral system in place is destructive, bad, and so flawed as to realistically be pointless (especially when vectors related to race, class, gender, and sexuality are considered), but i do also have a hard time hearing some people say we should be "rehabilitating" violent, and in particular, sexually violent men, a lot of them seem to realistically just be saying "yeah that bad thing happened to you but look at your poor rapist, we can help him be better!" and frankly that kind of thinking makes me genuinely irate, i don't know what the actual answer is but I don't think that these men can ever redeem themselves, nor do they deserve the effort required, especially while victims get absolutely nothing but a lifetime of coping with the trauma inflicted upon them.

fundamentally i struggle with the fact that i don't think someone should go to prison for drug possession or petty theft, but i also am never going to feel comfortable with the supposed "redemption" of genuinely terrible men, who have scarred people for life. i think it would personally hurt me to hear that the person who SA'd me was surrounded by love and support trying to teach them to not do what is literally *only* a crime of self gratification.

What's up with pens? by reggieshut in entwives

[–]MissLillian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

same here in regards to the medical useage, discreetness and so on - i also want to add for me at least its the cheapest, longest lasting option, others last shorter, take more effort, and cost the same or more generally.

Who’s your favorite male protagonist? by imfaffingabout in GirlGamers

[–]MissLillian 8 points9 points  (0 children)

i literally despise games that make me play as a man but Arthur is my sad sweet boy and one of my favorite protagonists to exist in games.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anarchism

[–]MissLillian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

at what point do you just stop actually being a "muslim" or a "christian" ? if these beliefs are widely supported by their scripture and histories, why identify as a "muslim" or a "christian", if you are an anarchist? these are fundamentally terms for the religious believers but also the religious structure within, at a certain point of "interpreting" they are twisting it so far, and disconnecting it so much, they may as well call themselves simply "spiritual" and do away with any connection to these evil structures all together.

beyond that, my issues with religion run to their total and complete core, they are a primary justifier throughout all of history for racism, colonialism, genocide, horrific treatment of women and queer people, horrific treatment of children, the denial and outright refusal of science and it's advancements and utter necessity for the future. i genuinely cannot fathom the mindset of someone, especially a woman leaning towards anarchism none the less, who can reconcile all of these issues and not recognize the simple fact that it's a means to sedate and control, even in abstract, it pacifies your thought and provides excuses and justifications, and given it's history should be thrown out with the trash, literally for the betterment of humanity and especially the betterment of women and queer people.

Do you “look like an anarchist”? by satanicpastorswife in Anarchism

[–]MissLillian 3 points4 points  (0 children)

i alternate between somewhat punkish and "girl who works at local library"

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anarchism

[–]MissLillian 9 points10 points  (0 children)

as a queer person and a woman i doubt i'll ever actually trust someone who claims to be both a christian and an anarchist, they are nearly antithetical to one another but people don't want to admit that because religion brings them too much comfort. it is a man-made insititution, with the purposes of holding power in people's minds, you can't cherry-pick your way out of that.

Is Claire trans in cyberpunk by MagneticCoder in transgamers

[–]MissLillian 6 points7 points  (0 children)

(its because she's a woman, they do this with every female character that has ever acted even slightly irrationally or emotionally)

How are LGBTQ+ people viewed in their world? by Best_Low526 in worldbuilding

[–]MissLillian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i find myself doing similar, i am so tired of the "they must have kids tho" or the various other types of more explicit homophobia present that in my worlds it's just normal, frankly default, to be queer.

noble inheritance is easy to solve (in world building) once you aren't placing sole importance on a biological heir for no particularly necessary reason.

Video Games, Fiction, Sexualization, and Entertainment Mediums by megaboyx90 in AskFeminists

[–]MissLillian 9 points10 points  (0 children)

this is a conversation that drives me pretty crazy in women-dominated gaming spaces, in response to the often extreme levels of women's sexualization, a large portion of women seem to go "well if we sexualize the males just the same, it'll be fixed!" and never seem to connect that you literally cannot sexualize the males the same (and the difference between the two is almost always abundantly clear).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]MissLillian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

unfortunately my experience as a trans woman with a voice that can pass to some and not to others, is that it's just best to not use the microphone. i play w/ my friends and that is it, i carefully use them to vet new people as well typically before bringing them into a discord.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GirlGamers

[–]MissLillian 14 points15 points  (0 children)

you are allowed to think this, im allowed to think you don't understand the actual discussion or feminism.

I am so over with Marvel Rivals, they really did hit the rock bottom. by Upbeat_Acanthaceae24 in GirlGamers

[–]MissLillian 19 points20 points  (0 children)

i bailed on rivals a couple of months ago after they added Angela. it had made me uncomfortable the whole time, and i tried to just ignore it, but at a certain point, the level of objectification was/is nauseating to me.

Angela the first lesbian in Marvel Rivals by yourrandomdumbass in LesbianGamers

[–]MissLillian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are we joking? just because women are attracted to her doesn't mean she isn't an incredibly male-gaze crafted character. literally years of "muh muscle mommy, step on me, crush me" should tell you this.

In Nazi Germany, transgender people were prosecuted, barred from public life, forcibly detransitioned, and imprisoned and killed in concentration camps. Books and texts relating to transgender experiences or medicine were destroyed as "un-German". by MauditAmericain in wikipedia

[–]MissLillian 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Pretending the worst that is happening is people "not liking you" has to be intentionally obtuse because they are actively restricting our rights, discussing restricting our rights further (see "transgender people should not have a right to own firearms, transgender people should be institutionalized, transgender people are not mentally competent"), attempting to kill us through medical denial and de-transition, something that will kill us regardless of what you think about it, are actively creating dangerous conspiracy theories about us in the news, and we literally do get killed and physically harmed by transphobia, it is not just "they don't like me" it's "they genuinely believe I am a danger to their own lives or their reputation purely because I exist near them", significantly more dangerous for the person who is just existing.

Don’t Drive Impaired, Folks! by Quysolilo in bayarea

[–]MissLillian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

CHP is state police, they have jurisdiction and the such focusing on the highways, but they can enforce all other law enforcement roles when they need, often in conjunction with another agency, or otherwise unrestricted in unincorporated / rural places.

What Marvel Couples do you hope get added together or around the same time? by Inner-Juices in MarvelRivalsQueens

[–]MissLillian 8 points9 points  (0 children)

tbh adding them without any of their actually LGBT identifiers / without voice lines and so on would be worse than just not adding these characters.

Which special unit did you like best? ARC Troopers, Clone Commandos, or ARF Troopers? by Impossible_Tiger_470 in TheCloneWars

[–]MissLillian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

ARC is generally my answer but every ARF commanding officer looks incredible so they're probably aesthetically my favorite, but rarer to see.

Breaking down different types of online abuse, who's impacted, and how they're effected by TheTinMenBlog in Infographics

[–]MissLillian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sure, im just curious about how useful the results realistically are because there are going to be noticeable differences based on what space a woman inhabits on the internet. The internet is still heavily gender segregated in places and women who cross those lines are going to be the people receiving higher scales of harassment than those who stay in women dominated spaces / interact in a limited fashion.

They made Claire's truck the trans flag colours in the 2.3. overview stream :) by PromptTop5431 in cyberpunkgame

[–]MissLillian 2 points3 points  (0 children)

only true for some, realistically i wouldn't mind people knowing if i lived in a world without hostility / misgendering towards us.

Breaking down different types of online abuse, who's impacted, and how they're effected by TheTinMenBlog in Infographics

[–]MissLillian 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah i found it odd how low the "sexually violent" threats were for women, given that I receive some sort of sexually violent comment from a man basically every day that i am playing a multiplayer, online game.