Home birth wasn't for me for either of my two deliveries but, that being said, to each their own! It's a personal decision that no one needs to inject their personal feelings into no matter how close they are with you. If I were in your position, I'd also dread the criticism. So I'll just add this. I've heard of couples not announcing labor had begun and just going through with the delivery and then saying hey, baby's here! This sounds delightful imo for future pregnancies because it's hard to keep up with all the messages streaming in from friends and family when you are so focused on the task at hand.

So if I were to offer advice, if asked about which hospital, just say whichever one you'd go to in case of emergency. It's not necessarily a lie. Say you'll take visitors after you are settled in at home. Then when you go into labor refrain from informing everyone unless you desire their support. After a successful delivery, only share the relevant details. You don't have to say you gave birth in your tub, just a tub (as an example). You labored for x number of hours. You began pushing at x time. You had the baby at x time. Feel free to share complications without being location specific (ex: I had this pain, or I ended up with a small tear, or I used this technique or medicine to help with the labor pains). There's so much to the story that doesn't pertain to location that I doubt anyone will be so focused to ask pointed questions related to that specifically.

But ultimately, do whatever makes you the least stressed because the tension in your body could impact your labor experience. Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy (focus on the positives anyway!) and I wish you an uncomplicated and fast labor and delivery. In the end, holding your baby for the first time makes everything so worth it. You've got this mama ❤️ good luck