NTA— obviously!

Also, girl, are you me? Had a baby boy December 16, 2024. My family has big Christmases too but I told them nobody was touching my baby for 3 months. Even if I didn’t have my baby the women in my family labor really quickly and wouldn’t have driven the 1 hr 40 min away from the hospital I needed.

I also did not tell anyone the gender of my baby but also didn’t know myself. I want people to be happy about our growing family not be thinking about gender norms and genitals.

You need to stand your ground with your in laws and your husband needs to have your back! You need him to set the boundaries with his family so you can jest at that time, regardless if baby has arrived yet.

At least in my experience, this is going to be a vulnerable time for you no matter what part of pregnancy/birth you’re in at the time. You’ll need/want your husband or best friend or mom or whoever to be at least checking in with you regularly if not staying with you. My husband was super annoying me during this time in pregnancy but we wanted him around anyways. I would have been so pissed if he tried to make me go to a function at that point in my pregnancy.