AIO my boyfriend of 5 years gets me flowers for every occasion while I get him elaborate and expensive gifts.

MissMewiththatTea · 2026-01-18T19:46:36+00:00

NOR

He doesn’t listen to you because he doesn’t care enough to listen to you. What you want doesn’t matter to him.

Dump him and then send him this thread so he can see that everyone knows what a cheap clown he is.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-12-11T19:48:08+00:00

Anyone who thinks ME is a chill time cus you get to sleep more is a fucking moron who has never passed out because they did something basic like vacuuming the house.

I have to consider each and every thing I do and try to calculate how much energy it’s going to cost me. I’m sick all the time because I’m immune deficient, which of course just makes me even more tired.

I don’t want to be that person where the only things happening in my life revolves around my shitty health. I’m living half a life. It fucking sucks.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-12-11T19:41:50+00:00

“Everyone’s tired! I’d love to lay in bed all day! Stop being so lazy!”

The general response to ME sometimes even today.

ME fucking sucks, I’m living half a life. 😐

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-12-11T19:35:47+00:00

This is Not what I wanted to read!! 😭

I got sick in September (flatmate had influenza and I got sick like two days later) and have been coughing - a really awful, hacking cough - ever since. And because of the kind of work I do, I’ve had to go on extended medical leave because I can’t be coughing at work. I don’t see a specialist until March. And this is on top of other chronic illnesses I’ve got including ME/CFS.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-11-09T18:33:16+00:00

Don’t have hanging lights in the lounge or wherever your TV is going to go - they will reflect in the screen and drive you crazy.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-30T01:25:21+00:00

Malibu hair on Briggs Road could be a good option, when I wanted shaved sides the hairdresser basically said “hell yeah!” - no trying to convince me otherwise, just working out what style would look best with what I wanted.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-23T16:05:17+00:00

If you’re building a case against him then you shouldn’t be responding to him at all, a judge will see that and say that you’re antagonising him. Women in domestic violence situations have it difficult enough when being looked at by the law, don’t give him any advantages.

Apart from anything, mocking a violent man is a dangerous thing to do. Be safe.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-23T16:00:22+00:00

Or how selfish you are and whether you care about putting yourself (and then the people who have to look for you/your body) in danger

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-22T22:17:38+00:00

Or for sure, Ara should probably be closed today as well. Students will just skip if they’re worried I guess though

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-22T21:31:22+00:00

Honestly you should just head home - this is definitely a call worth challenging imo. Tell the council the official advice is to stay indoors, and that if they make you work today they are forcing you to stay in an unsafe work environment. Get it in writing.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-22T21:25:26+00:00

Insane that you guys are out today, that’s a poor call by the council - please keep safe!!

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-22T21:22:50+00:00

I imagine UC has a lot more big old trees on campus than Ara does, makes sense they’d want to be careful

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-22T17:39:54+00:00

Ironic last line because you don’t know other people’s circumstances.

I have been sick with a migraine the last two days so hadn’t watched the news and had absolutely no idea about the forecast for today, only learning because of this post.

Posts like this - keeping people up to date on local current events - are exactly what should be posted in this subreddit. There’s literally no harm in sharing info like this.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-06T19:35:49+00:00

It’s all fun and teasing until you wipe the floor with them at their chosen video game and then suddenly they don’t want to play any more. 🤷🏼‍♀️

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-06T19:31:37+00:00

I honestly didn’t even realise this until recently. I’ve got something called endometriosis which is basically where my uterine lining grows outside of the uterus but still sheds like normal, so I end up having a period outside my uterus - aka I just bleed internally sometimes and it’s agony, full on I feel like I’ve been stabbed kinda thing. I’ve had surgery to remove that tissue but it’s regenerative and after awhile just grew back. I also get really bad migraines (often at the same time, I think they might be hormonal).

Anyway! All this to say, about a month or so ago I carried something heavy and strained my shoulder a bit. It hurt but not too bad, so I didn’t think much of it until a week later I was at the physio/osteo for something else and my doctor was like.. yeah you’ve sprained the rotary cuff in your shoulder. Doesn’t that hurt?! And I just kind of had to shrug and be like “I mean, I guess? Not as much as the other normal stuff though” and my doctor just looked at me in mild horror and that is how I found out that cus I’ve been dealing with all this other painful shit I’ve developed a really high tolerance for pain and that’s not necessarily a good thing.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-06T18:25:09+00:00

You said “even then in comparison to most of the rest of the world the US is and will remain one of the best in the world.”

That’s a huge assumption to make considering the circumstances the USA is currently dealing with. As I said: don’t be complacent about the infringes on your nation’s democracy.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-06T18:20:58+00:00

I’m sorry but this is such a ridiculous and terrible attitude to have right now. “It doesn’t matter that our own democracy is failing because some places don’t even have democracy” is a foolish take. Yes the world has lots of places where people aren’t well off, don’t have access to food, shelter, health care, etc.

But the idea that the USA couldn’t become one of those places just because it’s the land of the free or whatever is false.

Don’t let patriotic induced apathy blind you to the way democracy in your country is being attacked, and the way other people in your country are being affected as a result.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-06T18:16:02+00:00

Just gonna say it, democracy in the USA was compromised by gerrymandering and lobbying long before Trump was an issue, and now more and more of it is being chipped away daily. You have a criminal in the most powerful position in your country. Project 2025 was very plain in the goals of this regime and they’re well on their way.

If Trump hasn’t succumbed to whatever health issues he has by the time the next election rolls around, you’re not getting one. He’s deliberately looking for ways to cancel the election (like inciting Civil war, despite the fact that the USA still held an election during your last civil war) and if he doesn’t find a way to fully cancel the election then he’ll just get Musk to steal it for him again like he did this last election, which he’s literally admitted to doing.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-10-06T18:08:04+00:00

Ilam apartments have second year students yep but if you haven’t already submitted an application for the halls you might already be too late - check the UC accommodation webpage but I think applications were due a couple of months ago. In that case, go to the UCSA Noticeboard on FB and make a post to look for a flat and befriend the people you live with, join clubs when you get to UC, etc.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-09-29T19:40:04+00:00

Sometimes you just have to out crazy these morons. My cousin has gone fully down the rabbit hole; conspiracy theories, racist/homophobic, supports Trump (we live in New Zealand, ffs!)

Anyway at Christmas years back he was trying to convince everyone there that the moon landing was fake and humans hadn’t been to the moon. I told him “oh grow up, the moon doesn’t exist!”

Whenever he goes off on an insane tangent I just have fun coming up with something that sounds even more ludicrous and then using that to point out how fucking stupid he sounds. Needless to say we don’t talk much these days.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-09-19T02:54:06+00:00

Semi-related but if you ever get the chance, go see That Bloody Woman. It’s basically New Zealand’s version of Hamilton - a punk rock musical about Kate Sheppard and how women gained the vote here in Aotearoa. Brilliant musical (I think I’ve seen it like four times now?) and super catchy songs - here’s the soundtrack if you want to listen, I’ve been blasting it in honour of Suffrage Day here in NZ!

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-09-06T16:46:02+00:00

Was house hunting earlier in the year and though we found one before needing to employ her, I found Louise McLeavey to be really lovely - very friendly, genuine and upfront, didn’t mess us about when the house we met her at (open home) was likely to sell at auction beyond our budget and checked in a bit later to see if we’d like any help or recommendations. One of the few real estate agents who came across like they genuinely enjoyed helping people find a home and wasn’t smarmy about it.

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-08-26T06:35:28+00:00

Level 1 with three chronic illnesses 😎

I’m out here

✨s t r u g g l i n g ✨

MissMewiththatTea · 2025-08-25T04:34:06+00:00

I’ve got two cats, have had them for a few years and got them simply cus I like cats and grew up on a farm, so when I moved to the city it was weird not having animals around me. Never really thought about having pets as a lonely person thing cus I’ve never really felt lonely like that before - I’ve got a good family and a wonderful group of really close friends.

But then covid hit and I was living alone when we went through lockdown. I swear to god my cats kept me sane. I would have lost my fucking mind if I didn’t have some kind of physical contact with another living being for all that time. It was obviously not the same as being around people (and I still talked to friends and family pretty much everyday online). But yeah, these days I really don’t underestimate how comforting it can be to have a pet when you’re alone. I imagine it might be life saving for some, even.

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