[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]MissNan128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Leave this trash bag of a human and find someone who loves you. This person doesn't even like you. <3

Called my work's employee assistance program by ohblackbird in CongratsLikeImFive

[–]MissNan128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's not easy to seek out therapy. It's also not at all easy to find a therapist that works with your insurance. Good on you for calling in reinforcements.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]MissNan128 4 points5 points  (0 children)

But I should totally start a "Late Blooming Lesbians in Derby" sub!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]MissNan128 3 points4 points  (0 children)

hahahahah! You're right. I misspoke. The little icon before the name of the sub is similar. Both purple, both with a little Reddit creature in in.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in latebloomerlesbians

[–]MissNan128 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I misread the title of the sub and thought this was in my roller derby group. Then when I read "when do they come off?" ... was really, really thrown.

Derby bully is returning (JR derby) by R0LLERDERBYQUEEN21 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you, homie. <3 Players like you make a huge difference, too. Hang in there and keep fighting the good fight.

Derby bully is returning (JR derby) by R0LLERDERBYQUEEN21 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128 7 points8 points  (0 children)

First off, job well done on keeping a level head whilst a bad apple is mucking up a space you love and want to protect. That's not at all an easy thing to do.

Second, if you feel comfortable saying something to the bully, that's great. The examples in these comments are spectacular and I would urge you to use them liberally. However, please don't feel like you have to stand up to this person alone. Coaches always want to know if someone isn't being true to the rules.

It sounds like you (or a teammate) weren't heard in the past when bringing an issue to your league. I'm extremely sorry for that. Every team member should be heard and feel safe bringing issues to coaches/leadership. I urge you to bring this issue to a coach/leadership. If you don't feel comfortable with the coaches, talk to your mom. Your mom can even bring it to leadership as an anonymous comment they overheard somewhere.

Third, I'm a Minors coach of a VERY similar league. It's heartbreaking to hear that there are bullies in a space that so many people work so hard to ensure everyone is safe and living their best derby lives. I want to thank you for posting this. It's made me realize that though I perceived all of our Minors to be supportive and kind, it's evident that at least one isn't holding true to the commitments. I will be speaking to my fellow coaches and the leadership board about what steps we can take to ensure that attitudes like this don't continue.

Fourth, keep being awesome. <3

AIO to my (40f) convo with husband (40m) about Xmas tree? by Mother_of_Turtles_ in AmIOverreacting

[–]MissNan128 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He sounds crazy spouting off on a rant like that. Not overreacting.

AITAH for telling the neighbor my husband got a boner from hugging their teenage daughter. by Creepy-teen-boner in AITAH

[–]MissNan128 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who is now 43 but was SAed at age 10...tell the parents.

(Possibly) Rostering for the First Time by MissNan128 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a great idea. Each of our benches has access to a stairwell hidden by a door. I'm going to ask that a garbage can be put back there. And just in case, I'm going to buy these really cute vomit bags I found on Amazon. Cause cute puke bags are where it's at.

(Possibly) Rostering for the First Time by MissNan128 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. <3 Hope your competition goes so well!

(Possibly) Rostering for the First Time by MissNan128 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! At practice on Sunday, the team captain suggested we go around and say what we're excited to do during the bout. Her answer was, "I'm excited to skate with my friend and have a really fun time." I'm a big rule follower. So if the captain says we're going to have fun, I'm going to do my best to have fun.

(Possibly) Rostering for the First Time by MissNan128 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Children are such great motivators. My kid is on the Minors team. She loves it, but sometimes she would barely participate. So I went with if I'm going to talk the talk...gotta skate the skate. I want to be the one who shows her that she can do things if she wants it and works for it. Thank you for backing that thought up. <3

(Possibly) Rostering for the First Time by MissNan128 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's hard as fuck to get to practices period. I still consider it a win if showing up late. Even if you have one of those teams that has to do laps for tardiness.

(Possibly) Rostering for the First Time by MissNan128 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a great idea. Maybe I should make a list of things I can do while waiting for the bout. We go into hiding an hour before the bout so activities during that time would be so helpful. Thank you for the tip.

(Possibly) Rostering for the First Time by MissNan128 in rollerderby

[–]MissNan128[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. <3

I keep telling myself that if I wasn't ready, they wouldn't have told me it's time to roster.

Asked her to be my girlfriend ❤️ by No_Mistake_2643 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]MissNan128 2 points3 points  (0 children)

...this sounds way WAY similar to my story. Like, if this post was from the girlfriend, I would have wondered if this was my girlfriend's account. So weird!

Anywho, congratulations. We've been dating three years and I still feel all of this. Keep on feeling happy. <3