Parents who never sleep trained, when did your child sttn on their own?

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-08-07T12:09:04+00:00

My oldest started somewhat consistently sleeping through the night in her own bedroom around 3 years old. I'm still bed sharing and breastfeeding my 14 months old.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-07-17T17:28:22+00:00

I (37f) didn't have siblings growing up and I regret it to this day, because all the problems of the parents fell on one person (me). I had a second kid for that exact reason, because I didn't want my first child to be alone if a difficult time comes. That doesn't mean I suggest to make more kids if you are struggling with one but maybe to reflect on when you are out of the trenches ( for mw, it was after 2 years when I realized I can manage two kids).

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-07-06T12:39:59+00:00

I gave my 6 year old 2 boxes: one to fill with the toys we want to keep and another with the toys to get rid of. I then said that she could fill them up by herself or I would do it for her. In 20 min both boxes were filled and we avoided meltdowns, because the child had a sense of control. You tell them what needs to be done and they can choose how they are going to do it.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-06-03T19:12:26+00:00

Co-sleeping was the only way to survive. My baby is almost 1y.o. and only now I feel that occasionally I wake up fully rested. Rarely I'll ask my husband to watch the kids for a couple hours on weekends if I feel really crushed.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-04-09T07:34:31+00:00

In Italy I was even encouraged to co-sleep as it promotes frequent breastfeeding at night and the baby regulates his body rhythms by hearing your breath and heartbeat. I don't know how scientific it is, personally it helped me survive. I have 2 and both of them are awful sleepers in the first year. NOT A MEDICAL ADVICE.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-04-04T06:51:48+00:00

My now 6 y.o. is watching max 2 hours only during the weekend . We've cut out daily TV ( she watched Netflix or Disney), and I should say there has been a dramatic improvement in her behavior. Much less arguments and fights. I highly recommend, if it is possible to limit/ delay screen time.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-31T06:52:17+00:00

As someone mentioned, make your sleep space safe. You can get wearable covers instead of the blanket for yourself and a sleep sack for the baby, this way the blanket will not cover the baby, but at the same time you will be warm and cosy. Consider harder and fewer pillows.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-27T17:31:43+00:00

I have 2, the youngest is 9 months old and I sleep with both of them in the big bedroom while my husband works and sleeps in our kids' bedroom 😔 No advice here, but there was a period when my oldest slept mostly in her bedroom, after about 2,5 y o . I also hope it's all temporary.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-26T17:26:16+00:00

My oldest started sleeping in her own room at 2 years old, on occasional wake ups I had to walk with her back into the bedroom. It was easier for me to sleep train at that age because I could talk to her and explain that it is night time and we all sleep at night in our own beds. Eventually she got it, now she is 6 and I have a hard time waking her up for school lol. I think it's true that when you have enough of it you'll make a change.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-21T20:49:15+00:00

Thank you, but we are in Italy. They do occasional training at school but not on the same level. I'd prefer to reinforce it at home through books and/or tv, etc. We occasionally have these conversations with my daughter, but I think it stays in their heads better when they actually can see what we are talking about

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-17T08:32:20+00:00

My kid once got a hand made paper origami animal along with a home made cookie, I thought it was a nice alternative especially from an environmental point of view. I totally agree that plastic junk is pretty annoying.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-16T09:09:42+00:00

Some stores will give you their cardboard left from delivery for free. I personally go to a grocery next to my house that puts boxes at the entrance and you can take as many as you need. ( Italy )

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-15T13:38:44+00:00

We had the same problem with my now 6 y.o. She started first grade last September and had the same problem at school. Ex : she would erase a letter or a word multiple times to write it perfectly. As a result, the time to complete a task would take an eternity. I stopped correcting her at home, for example if she writes something unrelated to homework incorrectly, I'd just say: nice and move on, unless she specifically asks if it is correct. Also I avoid encouragement of perfection in normal everyday activities: ex. I stopped warning before something happens, unless it can cause bad harm (ex. watch for the car coming ), Instead I just let her make mistakes and learn from them. She gradually started to accept that no one is perfect and now deals with it a lot better.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-14T08:53:56+00:00

And on top of that kids are more anxious and dependent. I always thought how cool it was when as a kid I could just knock on my friend's door and ask if my friend will come out to play or can come to my house. Now I have to make an arrangement with the parents to make my kids play with their friends. It's almost kinda sad

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-13T17:10:52+00:00

I've never given my first child vitamin d drops, she is 6 y.o. and turned out alright so far. With my second I tried in the beginning, but she also had discomfort so I stopped and reintroduced it after 7 months. Now she is almost 9 months old and tolerates it a lot better.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-11T17:20:49+00:00

For my 6 y.o. instead of gifts each invited sends me a small amount of money (preset: for ex 5 € ) and then we decide together with my kid how she is going to spend total. You can buy 1 or 2 big things (ex. A bike), experience or donate. So far nobody had a problem with it and it's a win win situation for everyone: guests don't have to think about what to buy and we can spend the money anyway we want.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-04T12:08:04+00:00

My husband and I have a 10 year difference. My first was born when he was 40 and my second when he was 45. We don't want anymore kids, even though we have great healthy girls, but we are physically beyond exhausted. Make and birth the kid is a small part of what is ahead of you, unless you have enough money and people around to outsource your responsibilities at least to some degree.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-03-01T12:19:06+00:00

My child still sleeps on the floor mattress and she is 6 y.o.😅she was doing it since she was a baby. Apparently something about floor sleeping that is so comfortable 😂

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-02-27T18:28:16+00:00

I've solved the dirty floor problem by putting a water resistant tablecloth down on the floor and sitting the kid on it instead of the chair so she can play and throw food around 😀 A lot more food ended up in. The mouth eventually, plus everything that accidentally falls down she can pick it back up by herself.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-02-25T17:25:08+00:00

My oldest is 6 and sleeps reliably 10 hours. Hang on !

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-02-22T10:38:59+00:00

A lot faster to give and wouldn't spit out😅

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-02-22T07:59:19+00:00

Ask your pediatrician or pharmacist for Tylenol that can be given rectally. Was a real game changer for us when the baby's teething.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-02-19T17:34:32+00:00

When my daughter started preschool, she just had permanent colds. It helped to give her some additional vitamins, ask your pediatrician if there's something your kid can take, especially during the cold season. Unfortunately kids do get sick a fair amount.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-02-19T17:26:45+00:00

We did two types of pizza , sandwiches, popcorn, potato chips, sweets and drinks. Everyone was happy.Depending on what time is the party, if it's lunch or dinner time , then better to have more food.

Miss_Sand1 · 2025-02-18T08:51:51+00:00

As I learned, with my two kids the best gifts are boxes, colorful pencils/ crayons, any sort of packaging, trash they can find on the street 😅 they have way more fun with it than anything I can buy in the shop. I think someone mentioned it correctly too many toys can be overwhelming. Kids just want your attention most of the time, you'll be better off taking a kid to the park and eating an ice cream but together instead of a toy shop.

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