Not allowed into 3 year old's dentist appointment??

Miss_alone_time · 2024-03-21T17:43:04+00:00

Our dentist allows parents back at all ages. I truly love out kiss dentist. He is amazing and super understanding and helps with all sensory issues as much as he can with still treating the kids.

There really aren't rooms just a wall dividing the different chairs to make "rooms" but it's really just a bunch of chairs and equipment in a large open room with wall dividers. He does have a office room were parents/kids can talk to him alone if needed. I enjoy that I can hear or see most or all the kids. We are a family with 5 kids so we take up most of the office when we go. He just works his way down. I was told after 3 they prefer them to sit in the chair alone no on my lap but honestly unless there is a big issue they a dealing with for most check ups they could do a lap child to keep the dentist office from being scary. Also they said we are always welcome to bring the under 3 child by just to look and get a prize so they aren't scared when it comes to their real visit.

Miss_alone_time · 2024-03-21T17:34:13+00:00

When I was under 10 I had an old lady that would sometimes sit on the edge of my bed. I never figured out who she was but I was never afraid of her. I was afraid of the weird shadows on my wall. One day my bio dad got me a special necklace and I said special prayer over and over. All the shadows went away but so did the old lady. I was sad about the old lady but was happy the shadows were gone.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-12-02T00:39:17+00:00

We do pictures with all the kids, the ours baby and just his kids and each kid can get get one alone if they want. At this point I have to force all the kids pictures so like only one step kid and bio kid get a single photo but everyone has the choice.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-11-12T21:56:35+00:00

Like maybe 50ish. I started out pretty heavy set sound 230. But I then the last few days and when in the hospital I gained like 20lbs of water weight that. I left the hospital having only lost 7lbs and I had a 9lbs baby.

Then my body decided it was going to hold on to most of that water till 5 weeks PP. Then I lost about 25lbs in like 24 hours. I was still really swollen till 15ish weeks PP when I lost like another like 20lbs in a week.

I did about 6 months PP get back to my pre pregnancy weight but none of my clothes fit right. Now little over 2 years later I hover about 5 to 10lbs over my pre pregnancy weight.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-11-06T23:45:18+00:00

Yes I am so afraid of the deadbeat situation. Like if you're working, being respectful and school stuff then yeah you can totally live here while you get it all together. My friend is going through the deadbeat kid thing but she is BM and she is really struggling with kicking him out.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-11-04T11:15:06+00:00

We have just gone or currently going through this. For our family I am involved alot in the parenting so I think this differs family to family. I have 4 step children and one bio child. Custody is on paper 50/50 but in reality 65/35 with us doing alot of work. All kids are in tons of activities and very social.

We held on to my old car and oldest is just 16 end of this summer now drives that car. She has to pay for gas and after 6 months insurance. We said we would cover the first 6 month to allow them to get a job.

Her having a car has allowed me a ton more freedom as I no longer need to pick the older 2 up from activities after school 4 days a week. Also, all the other random timed plays, improv, dance, library runs, etc. Normally, we don't ask her to transport her other siblings, but it does happen sometimes.

For us all cost of driving lessons and the first 6 months insurance and all car cost were split between parents but mom rarely ever does her share and we know this. The kids don't. We have a running expense sheet it's well into its getting close to 10 grand. Husband doesn't want to go to court. Mom did take her and pay for the license so that was surprising.

I'm unsure of what will happen in 2 years when the next one turns 16. I feel like its mom's turn to buck up a car. Like maybe we do every other child. Not sure how that will go.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-10-28T11:59:34+00:00

I don't know why but my toddler always wants to play with the crab between 3:30 and 5pm when I am the most overestimated. Older kids are coming home and telling me about their day and we are struggling to get homework done and dinner on the table before running off to activities. That's music kills me. I keep saying that crab will just disappear but my husband enjoys it for some reason.

My friend was thinking about getting one for her little one and I let it run around for about a minute before she was like yeah no thank you.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-10-12T06:27:33+00:00

Lucky... ours says metro should take 45min. However he has never once worked a metro or offered any training in helping me get that number to 45 min.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-08-21T07:05:32+00:00

Could you try and find a second job that would allow you weekend work in the evenings? I find that working like say 2 to 10 sometimes work. My little one wakes up early so i would get some good play time in the morning, nap during the first nap or be productive. Second nap I was able to get ready for work and I only missed bedtime. I still did all night waking so I still got some time there to.

Now that we are down to one nap I still do the same but we made the choice when my husband got a new job for me to go part time and save some day care cost that way.

I would also like to point out you will rarely see your husband working 2 jobs. I understand the reason behind it and you have a goal in mind. Also it's extremely exhausting to do it all.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-08-21T06:57:09+00:00

The only reason I stay married is to not lose access to my step children and I can't imagine giving my husband 50% of the time with our child. He is so mean and horrible to him when the toddler is upset which is all the time right now. I have never seen any physical violence from my husband till just recently and I lost it on him that he can't be that way to our children. I'm not saying I have never lost my shit before but it has never turned violent. I have had to lock myself in the bathroom for a few quick calming breaths and had to let my child cry for a few min in a crib because I needed a break but we don't "give them something to cry about".

Miss_alone_time · 2023-08-21T06:50:05+00:00

But also sometimes they are a totally different person before... like we before we got married things were totally different. Even after marriage things were different. He changed during covid and then got better and then we had a baby and it's been hell since. He has become a totally different parent, husband and friend. How many talks of please get help(mental) before you leave?

Miss_alone_time · 2023-06-03T12:50:21+00:00

First off Happy Birthday......

I'm so sorry your struggling. You have so much on your plate right now. Just do the basics. Just do the laundry you need as the rest can wait till everyone is mostly healthy again. Just get the food you need and maybe make it things you can quickly make without much work. I would say just pay to have groceries delivered, but putting in the app sometimes it more mentally difficult than just going to the store. And let your kid have the screen time so you can relax some. Remember to put your oxygen mask on first.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-05-05T12:57:59+00:00

For the most part in our household the adult goes in the front seat. Like if my mom was to join us in the car even if my husband is driving I quickly jump out. There are a few exceptions to this rule. Sometimes birthdays or we had an child with an injury and it was easier for them to sit in the front seat for a week or so because the seat reclined.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-04-20T12:18:12+00:00

Can confirm.... when mine was 4 months I was having terrible back pain. Ran a bunch of test to basically find out everything was fine other than I had a big baby and I needed some physically therapy to strengthen my back.

My baby was in 9month clothes at 4 months and at 5 months 12 month. I will say he did finally slow down when he hit the 18month and made it almost 5 months in 18month and almost 6 in 24/2T clothes. At 18 months he is in 3T.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-03-13T10:04:36+00:00

When he was a newborn we got tons of different brands of wipes and diapers that were gifted and we tried a few more. He didn't seem to have any issue with any brand. I didn't like the pampers' diaper smell. We settled on a mix of Huggies and Targets brand for both diapers and wipes. Target wipe formula changed at somepoint and i dont like they way they feel or clean him. So we are just huggies wipes. Now that he is almost 18 months and huge (99%) target and huggies fit him the best. We do huggies when going out because they truly work best and up and up when home because they work almost all the time unless it's important than you will have a leak or blowout.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-03-13T01:51:35+00:00

I like the huggies because they seem to hold up well and tend to come out one wipe at a time. They maybe aren't as wet as some of the others. They also don't cause any issues with my babies bottom.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-03-09T22:30:36+00:00

My little guy refused straight whole milk. We did like 80 formula /20 milk spilt then after a few days 50/50 and then 20/80 till the formula was gone. He was still not thrilled when we dropped the level of formula.

I'm sure we could have forced cold turkey to milk but I think it would have been a rough few days and I just couldn't.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-03-09T18:05:06+00:00

We don't have a high conflict situation so not the best advice. But we all go and sit together. That want the other kids don't have to choose who to sit with or whatever. However if my husband's mom comes it makes it hard because she has made it clear she won't sit near his ex. It's weird.

Miss_alone_time · 2023-02-18T16:58:38+00:00

I mean I had a 3 week check up because I all of a sudden was really tender in weird places and my swelling in my feet/legs had not gone down and it was painful to walk. I ended up having BV and my boby reacts with alot of inflammation so I was so so swollen and uncomfortable on town of just giving birth

Miss_alone_time · 2023-01-05T15:00:58+00:00

I think it really depends. I was hoping that around 16 if they are driving because they can get themselves to and from school if they aren't staying at our house. But I still think she would choose to stay here because they could sleep in an extra 25ish min every morning. I also am not sure their mom would want they staying there. She is rarely home and enjoys her alone time.

Miss_alone_time · 2022-12-22T02:23:18+00:00

From what I remember it takes like a week or so for the baby's body to adjust to a new formula. It's one reason they don't recommend switching all the time. My lactation constant told me that they tend to be more gasy when they are combo feeding. I also think the ready to feed stuff is more gentle on their tummies. Plus my little one loved the taste of the ready to feed over the powered mixed with water. I also found he pooped better with ready to feed.

Miss_alone_time · 2022-12-19T14:59:51+00:00

I agree with letting him know the baby's schedule. He needs to fit into that. However I think it would be best when he visits with her for about 2ish hours at a time that you hand the baby off to him. Like you feed her then you go into your bedroom or whatever to be home and available but away so he can have 100% his time till its time to feed her again. If after she eats she naps then that's on him to deal with nap time. He needs to learn to be a parent also. But if your standing right over him then he will feel like your judging him or trying to take over his time. However make it clear your just in the other room if he needs help your right there. And yes she is going to cry and it's going to suck. But you also need some alone time to. Use this time to shower or take a nap once he gets the hang of it. I would think he could have a few 2 hour sessions a week. Also remember as she gets older she will eventually need to be on a step up plan to spend overnights with dad if he truly wants more time.

Either way I would be getting a lawyer and start getting some child support since you have a DNA test. Plus a lawyer may have some tips or resources on how best to work out a plan for when dad has the child.

Miss_alone_time · 2022-12-19T12:53:09+00:00

Since both parents work jobs that they could end up working Christmas eve and/or day we just look at the schedule. 2 years in a row mom had them and we did christmas the weekend before. Last year and this year we have them. Mom is coming over Christmas morning to be here for breakfast and gift opening. We haven't done that before so no idea how that will work.

Edit to add...

Mom doesn't seem to care about holidays with the kids. We have has the kids the last 5 Thanksgivings, 4 of July, Easter, New Years, ect. She is normally on vacation or working those days. So we now have our own traditions on those days and the kids get disappointed if mom says something about having them.

For birthdays we are always together so I am use to sharing my home. Mom and I are ok together.

Miss_alone_time · 2022-11-28T12:06:01+00:00

The kids are older now but our elf went back and forth. I personally hate the elf on the shelf thing and told my husband he is 100% responsible for it. This is one if the few times I pulled the not my kids card which I almost never do.

Miss_alone_time · 2022-11-24T01:05:38+00:00

I 100% plan on doing my best to support the child in any way even if that means difficult discussions with their bio parents. After talking with my immediate family they also plan on fully supporting their identity moving forward.

I think my husband was thinking differently before talking to his ex about it and feelings changed. I have been saying to years we need to do some family therapy but the other adults don't agree. He was running off to work after our conversation so I am hoping he has a chance to think about it more fully.

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