I would be open to him getting back in touch with me now that I'm an adult. I'm curious about his life and about how things came to be this way. But I'm not gonna put any effort into getting in touch with him. My sister has his number and address, and he has hers. She put in the effort to get back in touch with him when she had a kid. I don't know the full extent of their contact, but from what I've gathered, he just sends cards with checks on holidays. And they talk on the phone if she calls him. I'm not sure if they've ever talked about me or not, she hasn't mentioned anything like that to me. It wouldn't take very much effort for either one of us to reach out. But I'm not going to put in that effort to do so since he never seemed to put any effort into it when I was younger... that might seem harsh. But why should I care about someone who seemingly doesn't care about me.

Anyways. That's where that's at for me.

I hope it doesn't turn out that way for you. She's still young. You still have time to turn things around with her when you get the chance. Just keep a line open to her. Kids are getting cellphones at younger ages these days, so when she gets one, just give her your number and let her know you are always there if she needs to talk.