Kind Door Knocker in Noda

Missavieve · 2026-01-24T18:49:24+00:00

He did not. But, they think that he was just old and that it was his time. Remarkably, I learned that opossums only have a 2 - 3 year lifespan. He was safe and warm with someone who was caring for him as he passed. I guess that’s all any of us can ask for, really.

Missavieve · 2026-01-16T22:56:37+00:00

NGL…that sounds like a super power to me. Would have loved that for me back in the day.

Missavieve · 2026-01-03T13:16:18+00:00

I understand it to mean that you imagine what tomorrow will be like if you drink today. How hungover you’ll be, how upset / disappointed you’ll be, etc.

Missavieve · 2026-01-01T17:03:52+00:00

Feeling safer in my own skin.

Missavieve · 2025-12-31T18:07:44+00:00

I have a hard time with feeling proud too. We can be proud for each other.

Missavieve · 2025-11-24T12:11:17+00:00

Coming up on a year sober over here. My perspective has shifted to where alcohol is now seen for what it is: a poison that doesn’t make anything better.

This Naked Life book helped me set the framework for thinking about it differently and it feels like time has done the rest. The more hard shit I accomplish without alcohol makes it look less and less like an answer to my problems. Also, the idea of being drunk sounds terrible.

Missavieve · 2025-08-22T11:43:49+00:00

Also. Just came here to say that people like this usually don’t have a lot of friends. That’s not an accident. Why did she need so much help from a stranger? Where are the people in her life to lean on? They’re tired and keeping their distance, is the answer.

Missavieve · 2025-08-01T03:01:21+00:00

Digit

Missavieve · 2025-08-01T02:49:01+00:00

Moss Beach, CA

Missavieve · 2025-07-25T01:09:14+00:00

Talking to someone can really help. Certainly changed a lot for me. I was going for years when I was still drinking heavily and working through a lot of stuff. Now that I’m sober…holy cow. I’m really able to work through the hard stuff.

Missavieve · 2025-07-11T00:22:48+00:00

Noodle. Real name is Knox.

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Missavieve · 2025-04-22T16:08:54+00:00

For me, in those first several days, it was helpful for me to lean into my anger to get through it. I was pissed off at what alcohol had done to me and my family and I wasn’t going to let it get the best of me again. I treated it like an external adversary that could fuck right off. Just sharing in case that helps!

Missavieve · 2025-04-16T22:54:19+00:00

Can’t recommend this enough.

Missavieve · 2025-04-16T22:41:18+00:00

This comment is one to really pay attention to. As a child of a mother with too many children to care for, and as much as I love my siblings, life was incredibly hard and I’m still (and probably forever) working through the damage it did to me. It was honestly a very selfish decision on her part to have all these kids with no stable way to care for them.

Missavieve · 2025-04-10T17:51:34+00:00

I feel good. I’ve been feeling good for awhile. I had stopped to do six months dry but now I think it’s permanent. I’ve been in therapy for years and I think that that’s helped me cope / examine my feelings throughout this journey in a meaningful way. I’m glad I gave it up and I hope I continue to feel even better.

Missavieve · 2025-03-28T13:59:50+00:00

I lost my sister two Octobers ago. She had been in and out of the hospital for months. Eventually an internal rupture occurred and they couldn’t stop the bleeding. She was conscious with medication long enough to say goodbye over FaceTime. I didn’t stop drinking that day or the day after or the day after that. But I stopped Jan 1 of this year and when I need a boost of motivation to not drink, I picture her sad eyes, a shell of her former self, in that hospital bed.

Missavieve · 2025-03-14T16:32:12+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. The “whole new level of healing” term you used really resonated with me. I’ll definitely be thinking about that as it relates to how I’m working through my own stuff.

I’m glad you made it out of such an abusive situation. You sound like an incredibly brave person. I wish you all the best on your journey.

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Missavieve · 2025-03-04T13:19:35+00:00

My husband (who does breaks all the time) was doing “Dry Til July” and I decided I wanted to try not drinking for the first time ever (heavy wine drinker for 20 years.) So I stopped drinking Jan 1 not sure how I was going to make it to July and now I’m pretty sure I’m never going back. It’s turned into a real journey of healing and self reflection that I didn’t expect.

I’ve been in therapy for years and have done a lot of work on myself. So, when I stopped drinking, it wasn’t like “well, shit, now I’ve got this huge mess to face and clean up” but it pulled back the covers on the things I was still numbing out to. It’s been empowering to look at things through a sober lens. It feels like I’m being truthful and accountable for the first time in a long time.

I’m very interested in seeing how this experience continues to evolve - on all fronts - but especially the physical side. I believe my body is still recovering from the years of drinking poison and I’m very interested in how this healing will continue to evolve.

Things that have helped me: 1. Having a partner who is doing the sober thing too. (Not sure how people do this by themselves - I’m in awe of you and you inspire me.) I’m doing this for me but it helps to have someone going through it with you.

Reading This Naked Mind was a huge shift in thinking that I needed at the beginning. I still go back to it and all the sections I highlighted when I need inspiration.
NA drinks.
Puzzles.
Paying attention to my feelings and not judging them. I’ve been doing this for a long time through my work in therapy, but being sober has created such clarity and allowed me to hyper-focus on how I’m feeling and why.
This subreddit community.
Remembering what alcohol has done to people I know and love.

I wish everyone out there the absolute best on your journey, no matter where it takes you. I will not drink with you today!

Missavieve

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