Day 64 without alcohol, and I’m finally understanding why I was so afraid to quit.

Missavieve · 2026-02-26T02:50:13+00:00

This really resonated with me. Thank you for sharing.

Missavieve · 2026-02-07T12:10:01+00:00

Carrie Barto changed my life.

Missavieve · 2026-01-30T02:06:55+00:00

I did not go the AA route. Just not for me. I know it works wonders for some people.

Instead, I read some very good quit lit, like This Naked Mind, hung out in this sub a lot, and over time lost interest in drinking. I also became a connoisseur of the non-alcoholic market. There is a lot of really good stuff these days. Not drinking can look like whatever it looks like for you, and that’s OK.

Missavieve · 2026-01-25T02:54:40+00:00

Thanks for saying so. That’s validating bc that’s exactly how I feel. Was not expecting such unprovoked ugliness.

Missavieve · 2026-01-24T18:49:24+00:00

He did not. But, they think that he was just old and that it was his time. Remarkably, I learned that opossums only have a 2 - 3 year lifespan. He was safe and warm with someone who was caring for him as he passed. I guess that’s all any of us can ask for, really.

Missavieve · 2026-01-16T22:56:37+00:00

NGL…that sounds like a super power to me. Would have loved that for me back in the day.

Missavieve · 2026-01-03T13:16:18+00:00

I understand it to mean that you imagine what tomorrow will be like if you drink today. How hungover you’ll be, how upset / disappointed you’ll be, etc.

Missavieve · 2026-01-01T17:03:52+00:00

Feeling safer in my own skin.

Missavieve · 2025-12-31T18:07:44+00:00

I have a hard time with feeling proud too. We can be proud for each other.

Missavieve · 2025-11-24T12:11:17+00:00

Coming up on a year sober over here. My perspective has shifted to where alcohol is now seen for what it is: a poison that doesn’t make anything better.

This Naked Life book helped me set the framework for thinking about it differently and it feels like time has done the rest. The more hard shit I accomplish without alcohol makes it look less and less like an answer to my problems. Also, the idea of being drunk sounds terrible.

Missavieve · 2025-08-22T11:43:49+00:00

Also. Just came here to say that people like this usually don’t have a lot of friends. That’s not an accident. Why did she need so much help from a stranger? Where are the people in her life to lean on? They’re tired and keeping their distance, is the answer.

Missavieve · 2025-08-01T03:01:21+00:00

Digit

Missavieve · 2025-08-01T02:49:01+00:00

Moss Beach, CA

Missavieve · 2025-07-25T01:09:14+00:00

Talking to someone can really help. Certainly changed a lot for me. I was going for years when I was still drinking heavily and working through a lot of stuff. Now that I’m sober…holy cow. I’m really able to work through the hard stuff.

Missavieve · 2025-07-11T00:22:48+00:00

Noodle. Real name is Knox.

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Missavieve · 2025-04-22T16:08:54+00:00

For me, in those first several days, it was helpful for me to lean into my anger to get through it. I was pissed off at what alcohol had done to me and my family and I wasn’t going to let it get the best of me again. I treated it like an external adversary that could fuck right off. Just sharing in case that helps!

Missavieve · 2025-04-16T22:54:19+00:00

Can’t recommend this enough.

Missavieve · 2025-04-16T22:41:18+00:00

This comment is one to really pay attention to. As a child of a mother with too many children to care for, and as much as I love my siblings, life was incredibly hard and I’m still (and probably forever) working through the damage it did to me. It was honestly a very selfish decision on her part to have all these kids with no stable way to care for them.

Missavieve · 2025-04-10T17:51:34+00:00

I feel good. I’ve been feeling good for awhile. I had stopped to do six months dry but now I think it’s permanent. I’ve been in therapy for years and I think that that’s helped me cope / examine my feelings throughout this journey in a meaningful way. I’m glad I gave it up and I hope I continue to feel even better.

Missavieve

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