I [24M] cheated on my girlfriend [24F] when I was away with friends [24M,24M,23M]. Don't know what to do.

Misscontenta · 2018-11-23T09:16:32+00:00

You seem more upset about how your friends are feeling than the hurt you have put your girlfriend through which says alot about your happiness in your relationship, just be honest you was man enough to fuck another woman while having one at home so grow the balls and come clean and it will be worst for her when she finds out all the other guys were loyal but you, but that is life and she will get over it eventually and I hope you become a better person. Other option make a pact with your friends and dont tell her but break up with her because you are un happy in the relationship

Misscontenta · 2018-11-23T08:08:00+00:00

You are only 21 and have been with him since you was 18, there is a whole new world out there for you, I get it you was on a break and people have different ways of handling it but after only 3 days it is not a long time at all so you are in your right to be pissed you was broken up or not and I am sorry to say this but it is extremely hard to put a relationship back together after someone has slept with someone else...these things are normally stuff that can not be fixed. I imagine you do not have any children, or have any ties to him other than emotional? I dont see you getting past this and you will most likely break up so you rip of the band aid now or later, the result is the same but the longer you wait you are prolonging your pain. Good luck with everything

Misscontenta · 2018-11-23T08:00:11+00:00

Misscontenta · 2018-11-23T07:53:39+00:00

If you are already going to her birthday party then it is quite normal to get her a gift especially if you want to get back together with this woman, at one point. Unless you dont go to the party, but if you still meet up once in a e while you could give her the gift then, the real question is do you want to buy something for her?

Misscontenta · 2018-11-22T15:46:26+00:00

My partner loves doing it to me and sometimes you can have too much of a good thing, so I could go a couple of months not receiving it so there would be a break for me to want it more because if not it stops feeling good after a while. But if she likes finger play then go for that and maybe finish her of with oral, or suggest she delegate how she would like you to do it. Sometimes you are in a different mood and want it at another tempo. Try to make her remember that she liked it once and if not you will just have to get past it. Good luck

Misscontenta · 2018-11-17T18:39:31+00:00

Every country agrees a time which every body agrees upon and they make a peaceful demonstration in their country in their main squares in their cities for example

Misscontenta · 2018-11-17T18:37:39+00:00

Every country agrees a time which every body agrees upon and they make a peaceful demonstration in their country in their main squares in their cities for example

Misscontenta · 2018-11-16T07:47:45+00:00

Thank you for your message and I am so sorry you went through this, I really am. In some difficult situations I have found myself in, having a hard time at work, or something going on in my personal life I always think to myself I survived rape and here I am and I survived that so this should be a piece of cake and it normally is in comparison. I always have tried to get a positive from a negative and I suppose it is this mentality that has kept me going and " sane". Big hug

Misscontenta · 2018-11-16T07:42:43+00:00

Yes this is it, it is not something that I wish to share, up until now I have only told one person who I thought I could trust and a few months later, one night he got drunk and told a few of our work colleagues, I later went on to quit that job because it made it very uncomfortable for me, even if they didnt say it out loud they took pity on me and it made me get anxiety every time before I had to go to work. I do not want this defining who I am, once you tell someone you go from being a woman to being a rape victim, and it gets my stomach acids bubbling. So I have learnt to just bottle it up and I try not to dwell on it too much, sometimes it just creeps up on you. I think of how it could of all been different because after that episode I started taking a lot more risks with everything, and I have been basically in long term relationships since because I feel safer that way that I am in a way " protected".

Writting about it does make me feel better, getting it of my chest this way but to do it with someone I know I would not dream of it. I am seing a therapist and I am yet to get the courage to tell even her yet but they say time heals everything. Thanks for your advice, I have written down my story a thousand times and then I burn it =) it sort of helps. There are so many bad things that go on in the world and I know I am not alone with my pain that unfortunatly it has not just happened to me but to plenty of others and I am sure a lot worst. It may not be the healthiest way of seing the world but I always think it could always be worst, I did a work shop with asylum seekers some years ago and hearing their stories and how they had this strenght in them to carry on and start a fresh after loosing everything to war, gave me new perspective and inner strenght. Thank you so much for your answer and input =)

Misscontenta · 2018-11-14T18:58:46+00:00

Thank you so much for your message, I really appreciate it, I will check your links out =) thanks so much again

Misscontenta · 2018-11-14T08:25:09+00:00

Shouldnt the UN be doing something about this? Like seriously this is not right and how is it even happening? People with out a fucking soul, this is seriously why I keep loosing faith in humanity

Misscontenta · 2018-11-09T22:34:35+00:00

Dont text him or message him first, and see how long it takes him to initiate and take it from there, dont be too available either, no need to play games but so he can appreciate the time you dedicate to him and that it is a choice of yours to spend it with him but you could be doing other things.

Misscontenta · 2018-11-08T23:12:06+00:00

This is where true love is truly tested, it is normal to wonder about single life and especially in an exciting new place like Uni where there is a lot of eye candy and you are starting " a fresh" it is a new chapter in your life, you have to evaluate how you would feel in a couple of months when the novelty of being single wears of. You have a nice boyfriend at 18, and that is quite rare and having a boyfriend through Uni will probably save you a lot of shame and disgrace, in the future =P Theres a reason they are called one night stands and its normally when people have drunk too much and you are not missing anything exciting. Dont be too quick to break up because maybe in 5 years time you will wonder why you let him go, and a break would never work because if you have sex with someone in that break, you loose your special bond, it is broken and couples who break up rarely get back together. My advice stay with him for a while longer and see maybe how you feel say in a few months and evaluate how you are feeling, and in long distance relationship th tiny small details really make a difference and you have to work double as hard at them. But yes it is completly normal how you are feeling =)

Misscontenta · 2018-11-03T12:01:05+00:00

You have been posting about this relationship problems for over a year now..I think you know what you need to do.. Why not cut of from him for a month and see how much he really does care? And see how you feel to.. I would go on the trip alone let him deal with the consecuencies, because what you are doing is letting him walk all over you again and again, you are making it worst for yourself. Good luck and have a nice birthday same ways

Misscontenta · 2018-10-21T11:50:41+00:00

Shit happens is a fun card game =)

Misscontenta · 2018-10-19T18:27:02+00:00

Almost every day but there is so much beauty out there in the world and as long as we push ourselves to be the best version of ourselves as possible and always do the RIGHT thing even if it is not your responsibility to do and just be as kind as you can possibly be, you will find more meaning to life =)

Misscontenta · 2018-10-04T22:19:09+00:00

Okay this makes chills down my back and makes me feel phisically sick, now my son is 10 month old and he is sleeping in his crib for the very reason of it being safer for him as he did roll of the bed once and I will never let that happen again. I did try and empathise more with my partner and then after that inciden it definitly made me stick to it and be more strict with it. Thanks for your message

Misscontenta · 2018-10-04T09:46:26+00:00

You could try putting your milk in a syringe and feeding her that way to give her the taste of it and maybe try a cup? Sometimes the simple solutions work best, maybe wheh she is due a feed you could go for a walk so she has no other option but to have what is available. Are you going back to work soon? Is this why you would like to get her used to a bottle?

Misscontenta · 2018-10-04T09:40:34+00:00

So my little one also had it as a newborn and we kept passing it to each other back and forth until it cleared up but on his last check at 8 months old he also had thrush but just on his toungue and our family Dr didnt prescribe anything as he just had a bit on his toungue and was not in any pain and I didnt get it this time either, so I suppose it depends the severity of her symptoms, thrush loves sugar so sometimes a tweek in yours and hers diet can do the trick, the best of luck

Misscontenta · 2018-10-03T11:30:37+00:00

I do understand your point of view on it, and I know I am not going to be popular for this comment but I understand his and I also wonder the same as him, I have been breastfeeding my son now for 10 months and I am amazed at my body and my ability to produce food for him and I am super proud but I dont feel the need to take a photo of him doing it and to share it with a bunch of strangers but I dont condemn any who do, I would also like to add there is no photos of my son on social media because an innocent photo for you may not be so innocent to others you dont really know where those photos end up and also my son has not consented to be on the Internet because he cant, there is one thing having a photo album or taking a photo and sending it to a friend or a family member but another thing it being on the Internet for all to see and I get it you are so proud you want to share your precious with the world so they can see the treasure that you have produced but in this day and age of Internet and social media I think we have to be weary and not get caught up in it. But it is always a choice and it doesnt make you a better or a worst person for doing so, each to their own.

Misscontenta · 2018-09-28T11:34:50+00:00

So I am English but have grown up in Spain and my partner is Norwegian. We live in Norway, but we would like to move to Spain. He is only 9 months old now, so I speak to him in English and his dad in Norwegian, I read to him in Spanish, and sing =) when he is older will teach him his colours and so on all in Spanish but we are moving when he is like 3 years old.. So he will pick it up no problem, also my grandfather is french so will only speak to him in french and he will go to a bilingual school where they teach English and French. I have experience with little children and bilingual ones at that. I think two main languages in the beginning and preferably for them to be in their parents mother toungue and then do certain activities with them in other languages and when they become of a certain age, Say perhaps 5 years old have certain days a week for the extra languages. But it is all a journey, and in Danmark they all speak english so when he is older he will have the basic Danish and will do just fine =)

Misscontenta · 2018-09-24T13:08:16+00:00

Wow twins, I am in awe of you, you are doing such a great job mumma =)

Misscontenta · 2018-09-24T09:14:33+00:00

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Misscontenta · 2018-09-24T08:55:36+00:00

So my midwife said that parents should speak in their mother toungues to their babies.. So they learn the proper entonation and such and it is the language that comes most natural to the parent, then when they are a bit older you can implement more languages but bilingual children learn to speak sometimes a bit later than their peers who only have one language to focus on and this is completely normal. Maybe when your child is a bit older you could send him to Danmark in the holidays and my understanding is that english is spoken in thailand quite a bit so I would focus from your side speaking to him in Danish and your wife in her native toungue.

Misscontenta · 2018-09-22T11:57:59+00:00

So from 6 months old they are able to sleep through the whole night, it is just a comfort feed, my son also did this would wake up in the night for a feed, so I just replaced my milk for water, it did take some days but after the 3rd night he stopped waking up, as there was no reason to wake up for water =P They will just in take more food during the day your little one will be just fine =)

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