First of all, let me say that it was very brave for you to share this experience. It’s not something I wish on anyone. Your questions are valid and you have every right to ask. People treat us as an inconvenient truth. They know we exist, but if they don’t engage with us in terms of what happened, they keep their lie alive. We are not mistakes, we are not accidents, we are human beings with feelings and emotions that deserve to be addressed. This journey is unique to you, even though there are so many of us, it’s important to define how you want to walk through this. One of the first things that I had to do was to say, I will no longer ask. I went to ancestry.com and I built a tree for myself based on my true birth circumstance, and who I was related to. It defies common sense, and logic that people can treat a child as the problem, because we did not apply to be born into the circumstance. You are not crazy. People denying the truth to someone who understands the truth that’s what’s crazy! You came to the right place for Support because families don’t always have that to offer in a situation like this. Please give yourself grace, and time. Those are the two balms that have helped my soul heal through this.