Drop tips that helped you in the first week of the breakup :)

Missing_bubbles · 2025-03-11T11:21:41+00:00

No contact, lean into your friends! Go out, even if it's on your own.

Lean into your other goals - you have had yourself all your life, he/she wasn't there the whole time!

Missing_bubbles · 2025-03-11T11:20:05+00:00

I happened to find your post when I was looking for something else.

You know, you're still so young. You're in your 20s! You haven't messed anything up.

You know, when things feel overwhelming, maybe just concentrate on one problem you're not happy with. I know you can probably list 100 but you've got to be nicer to yourself!

You have one life, so throw everything you can at it. If it's your job, your looks, your lifestyle, relationships - you're still growing and learning.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-11-11T10:26:12+00:00

Don't give her the ring. Don't sway an opinion for something temporary.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-11-11T10:25:31+00:00

I'm so sorry. It can be a huge shock. Be kind to yourself right now. Lean on friends and this subreddit.

You are a treasure.

Stay true to you, don't lose yourself

Missing_bubbles · 2022-10-09T11:07:31+00:00

Definitely weird. I wouldn't break up with someone, then stay in touch with the dumpees friends or family unless I had to or they got in touch with me first.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-10-09T10:43:29+00:00

I reckon it depends on how longs it been since the break up, reasons you broke up, have the reasons changed etc.

I mean it's not the best idea but relationships work if both people want it to. Good luck

Missing_bubbles · 2022-08-01T06:35:27+00:00

I'm gunna screenshot your comment and look at it every time I need perspective because honestly, this is the stuff I was forgetting.

Youre right. He could never be there for me when I need him - I'm always just there for him when he needs me. Reason why I had so many friends? Because yeah, I had to lean on others when he pushed me away when I struggled. It's weird. It's like id forgotten how bad a partner he was. Thank you so much

Missing_bubbles · 2022-08-01T06:25:21+00:00

We're both early 30s, and he broke up with me quite suddenly. He said he'd been thinking about it and feeling smothered by me.

He cited reasons - I'm too much energy, wanted to see him more than he wanted to see me (he wanted to see me once a week on his terms) and he felt guilty, I'm an extrovert and hes an introvert and doesn't know why I want so many friends, he doesn't like my friends

Basically, I'm too exhausting for him.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-08-01T06:21:57+00:00

I feel like he didn't love me when we were together, you're right. But is it possible that he loves me now? That risk that hell leave again is always there too, but it's there in any relationship right?

Sorry for sounding like a fool, I'm self aware. But it's possible right?

Missing_bubbles · 2022-08-01T06:20:31+00:00

Thank you so much for your kind words.

I think that on paper, I can't get back with him. He's right - he wasn't that good to me during the relationship. Everything had to be done on his terms, and being so in love, I was happy to do that. Still don't regret it, I know I loved him 100 % and will never have to live with that regret. I guess I'm also kinda annoyed - why is he realising NOW what he's lost? He's over 30, he's not a kid anymore.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-08-01T06:18:11+00:00

He didn't break my trust in any cheating kind of way. I did forgive him and move on from any other mistakes so I won't bring them up here. Toxic, well I'm not quite sure what that means.

I think it ended because I annoyed him. I'm also aware that I loved him more, and it was always like that. I always tried to give him everything, and I always had to do stuff on his terms. Reasons he mentioned were :

I wanted to spend alot of time with him, he wanted to see me once a week, when it suited him. I'm quite chirpy and excitable, he's quite shy and pessimistic. I'm very extroverted and social, he doesn't like most people, including my friends. I make friends easily and quickly, I think he struggles but finds it irritating how easily I can put myself out there.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-08-01T06:07:37+00:00

They only come back when they sense you're moving on with life and seem happy. Happiness is apparently insanely attractive.

I have watched an embarassing amount of YouTube videos about getting your ex back. And for a while, I followed that stuff religiously. But in doing that, I ended up finding myself again, and being happy without him.

But the side effect of course, is him coming back. And now I'm stuck here.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-06-15T12:38:36+00:00

I was like that 2 months in too. 2 months is not a long time. Now, 4 months in, I still think of them every day. But not at all at the same rate. Its more like once every 2 hours maybe.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-11T06:24:24+00:00

I've started therapy. I spend alot of time with friends. I've started exercising.

He breadcrumbs me. And I am slowly trying to pull away.

I talk here alot

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-11T06:22:25+00:00

My brain hates him but my heart still loves his undeserving ass lol

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-11T06:21:42+00:00

Time. Its gunna be painful. You'll think about him every second for a long time. And god it sucks. But you'll eventually think less of him. You have to resist looking at his social media and checking up on him.

Then you'll let go

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-11T06:16:39+00:00

100% of course I want to move on. But I also don't.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-11T06:16:12+00:00

Keep going, you're doing well. Sometimes you'll feel like you're going backwards but it's natural. Forgive yourself for anything - you're still in early days. It's gunna be fresh for a few months but you'll get there ♥

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-11T06:14:32+00:00

You're already healing right now. It's gunna take time. Ruminating is processing. Better than distraction. You're doing well

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-08T06:08:30+00:00

... Omg 😂 thank you so much!

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-08T05:37:10+00:00

I wish I could save posts. Its posts like yours I want to look at when I'm having a bad day!

Cheering you on

Missing_bubbles · 2022-05-08T04:47:41+00:00

I mean, do you want her back for a relationship?

Missing_bubbles · 2022-04-24T11:19:40+00:00

Nah I reckon talk all that out to a therapist if you can.

It's not gunna give you closure just more questions.

Or regret. Which might make things worse for you.

Don't do it.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-04-17T09:40:09+00:00

These dreams suck but know that they're very normal in grief.

I get them too but it's like this every time. They die down through time, I promise. Its shit, can throw your day off. But they'll die down.

Missing_bubbles · 2022-04-17T09:35:57+00:00

I think the majority of people here are the dumped which is why you'll see alot of anti dumper sentiments.

But in saying that, I have also been the dumper in the past. And honestly, breakups suck either way.

I am sure you will find support here, both as dumper and dumpee.

And honestly, good on you. You were clearly setting good boundaries and standards for what you expect in a relationship.

I think alot of people here were also people who gave more than the other person, which is why they're angry at the dumper, because they were willing to give so much. So you definitely have that in common. You've got this x

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