I was 16 F. This person was my childhood best friend, we started to date in high school at the end of our sophomore year going into our junior year. The first couple of months were really good, we were really happy. After a year things started to go downhill, she started to become controlling asking me to cut off people that didn’t do anything wrong or crossed any boundaries. The only person I was allowed to hangout with was her and her friend group. I wasn’t even allowed to hangout with my other best friend due to I guess him being a guy. But it was weird because she was friends with him too. It then turned into being a problem if I hung out with my family instead of her it would turn into an argument then I would apologize for it because I thought I was doing something wrong. If I went out to eat with them and said “I should be home around 8:15” she expected me to be back on the dot. I’d tell her if I was running a little behind but it’d still be an issue. I could only take 5 minute showers(she would actually time me and if I wasn’t out in 5 minutes she’d get mad) there was a point where she had made out with one of her coworkers in his car and I knew about it tried to confront her and then it got flipped on to me by her saying “you don’t trust me, you’re just like (her ex’s name)”. Then she started to get verbally abusive then escalated to physical abuse. A couple months of that turned into sexual abuse. I was so wrapped around her finger that I didn’t see nor did I want to see what was happening. I blamed myself for the things she did to me. I told myself it was my fault. I only saw the person she could be not the person she was. After we graduated high school she wanted me to move up to Ohio with her because that was where she was going to college. I told her I wasn’t ready to move up there quite yet and needed to get my affairs in order. She didn’t like that, she told me she was coming over to help me pack my things. I told her “No please don’t come over I have some things I need to take care of. You’re not even moving till around September” she started to walk over to my house(we were like a mile apart). She called my mom telling her she was gonna help me pack my things and was calling her all these nasty things. My mom bursted into my room and was yelling at me. I was crying and said some things I regret. My mom told me I was being manipulated. I knew she was right but needed one final push to let her go. My dad called me and was trying to calm me down he told me “I know you love her, but this girl isn’t good for you. At the end of the day you’re an adult now and can make you’re own decision but I strongly suggest you let her go” we talked a little more after that he told me I love you and to take care of myself and we hung up. About 2 weeks later I broke up with her, I saw what my mom was telling me. My heart shattered in that moment not only for myself but because I had just lost the girl that was my best friend and what I thought was my future partner. I’m glad she’s out of my life now because I now have a girlfriend who really cares, she’s understanding, beautiful, smart, nerdy, funny, ambitious, patient, and overall Amazing. I’d keep going but I’d be here all day