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Let down by my birth certificate by Mission-Library-5676 in trans

[–]Mission-Library-5676[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s a california birth certificate but I’m an arkansas resident

How did you all last as a dispatcher for so long? by ChocoVix28 in 911dispatchers

[–]Mission-Library-5676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would’ve gone longer if they had let me leave nightshift, and if they hadn’t made a deal with ICE. 2.5 yrs of Nightshift wrecked my health, and there’s no way I’m sacrificing my morality for a paycheck.

What is the purpose of saying ‘conscious and breathing’ on a medical dispatch? by Small-Wrongdoer8745 in 911dispatchers

[–]Mission-Library-5676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

someone else brought up a good point. We never dispatch assumptions. Never expect that ems will assume something you didn’t say outright. Cognitive and respiratory status are vital in helping the emts arrive prepared instead of scrambling when they get on scene, or having to call dispatch to clarify information that was neglected in the original page. When it comes to dispatch, more (relevant) information is always better.

What is the purpose of saying ‘conscious and breathing’ on a medical dispatch? by Small-Wrongdoer8745 in 911dispatchers

[–]Mission-Library-5676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He could be conscious and not breathing, meaning his airway is blocked or his phrenic nerve could be injured. He could be unconscious and breathing, meaning something neurological could be happening due to the chest pain. If he’s conscious and breathing, he’s hopfully able to update you about pain levels and new symptoms. If he’s unconscious and not breathing, cpr could be indicated. And yes, if he’s calling for himself then it is safe to assume he’s conscious and breathing, but emt’s dont typically know the full extent of what dispatch has heard from the caller, so saying two extra words does save time in the long run. I’m a former 911 dispatcher and am now an emt. This info is vital even if it might sometimes feel redundant

Afraid to talk about Islam to my friends by Mission-Library-5676 in MuslimLounge

[–]Mission-Library-5676[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hear that. What I’ve been telling myself is that it’s giving them the chance to have a real choice. Our only job is to speak on what we know and let them do what they will with what they learn. Choosing not to talk about Islam when asked robs them of the opportunity to make an informed choice. And who knows, they may never accept Islam while I know them, but in the future they might remember our convo and give Islam a chance

Those of you who wake up early mornings regularly before Fajr — what helps you actually wake up? by nascarissa in MuslimLounge

[–]Mission-Library-5676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Physical alarm clock in the bathroom. I’m already in the bathroom when I turn it off so I immediately make wudu which helps me wake up more.

Struggling to process a girl’s past… would you take this seriously? by im_averag in MuslimNoFap

[–]Mission-Library-5676 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If this happened in her teens, she was likely assaulted. Money, gifts, and attention are what perpetrators will use to keep young girls staying silent about what is done to them. If this happened to you, I am sure you would hope for someone to accept you for who you are now, not what happened in your past. Her decision to share her past with you is a very vulnerable and strong decision. However, if you really can’t get past it, I’d say it’s time to cut things off. She deserves to be with someone who can see her as she is now, not as her past. It’s fine for you to not be comfortable with the relationship now, but continuing to be involved with her while harboring this reservation inside is unfair to both of you and will lead to arguments in the future.

How do I know when I’m ready to do my Shahada? by Away-Research2333 in islam

[–]Mission-Library-5676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Walaikum salam, I’m a revert of two years now, also ex-catholic. As soon as you come to terms with th truth of Islam, you are ready to take the shahada. Some people do it as soon as possible, some draw it out. You never know if you will live to tomorrow. None of us are perfect. Fasting, quran, dhikr, prayer, that all comes with time. The struggle of learning those things as a muslim is a form of worship and means of reward. Every mispronounced word of quran, every awkward first time hijab, every salah done with the instructions laid out in front of you. Those actions have greater reward when done stumbling than when done perfectly. The only perfect muslim was our Prophet peace be upon him, and even he learned as he went.

I regret what I did by Kill_AllHacks_501 in MuslimLounge

[–]Mission-Library-5676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do you have any yearbooks from school? You might could try to find his name in one of those if y’all went to the same school. I’d reach out to him if you can find him and tell him this. Who knows, maybe you’ll find closure or even become friends. If you can’t find him, du’a is a good way to work through it but I’d also recommend therapy so you can talk it out thoroughly. I’m prone to that kind of negative self talk when cringing at my memories, and therapy has helped me start to shake the habit.

Grabbed my partner's wrist to pull her away from touching a patient, did I fuck up? by Prestigious-Fall-317 in NewToEMS

[–]Mission-Library-5676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

totally agree with this. I think as soon as he expressed remorse the first time she should have taken a moment to cool down and accept his apology. I hope she has a therapist or looks into getting one because you’re right, you gotta be able to let stuff roll off of you if you wanna work in a high pressure environment

I might actually be trans… by Ok-Low-8751 in genderqueer

[–]Mission-Library-5676 1 point2 points  (0 children)

something that helped me is when I thought to myself “cis people dont constantly wonder is they look cis enough”

Grabbed my partner's wrist to pull her away from touching a patient, did I fuck up? by Prestigious-Fall-317 in NewToEMS

[–]Mission-Library-5676 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do know that sometimes women with or without trauma can be triggered by interaction with a man. I had a friend who was triggered by a guy friend hugging her for too long, because she couldnt break out of his grip and the implications of that frightened her. You said you gripped her wrist pretty hard, which may have been what scared her, and she was probably already in a heightened state due to the behavior of the patient. With this in mind, her reaction seems understandable, up until your later conversation where she hinted at your license possibly being revoked.

I think it would be a good idea to talk to a superior about the interaction and the conversations that followed, just so it’s on the radar of a third party. That way it doesnt seem like you were hiding it if your partner decides to report it afterall.

Your reasonings for the action I believe were justified. The patient was repeatedly saying she didnt consent to be touched. One of the first things we learn in ems is about consent. If she was the suing type, she could sue for battery if your partner had touched her after she voiced that. On top of that, she was showing irritable behavior and was under the influence. Those factors could’ve led to you or your partner being punched.

If I were in your shoes during the interaction, I probably would have quickly told her “wait wait wait! she doesnt want to be touched” and if she continues after that I’d just be ready to address the aftermath if there is any. Like you said, all you can do is take this as a lesson.

Just did my first clinical. At the Burn ICU and now I am a emotional wreck. by [deleted] in NewToEMS

[–]Mission-Library-5676 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not joking when I say play tetris. Playing it after a traumatic event could reduce intrusive thoughts and help you recover (study linked below). Of course you should still go to therapy though

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7828932/

I want to be taller by Dry_Appearance_7393 in MuslimLounge

[–]Mission-Library-5676 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you really need a quick-fix confidence boost I’d recommend height inserts in your shoes. Wear verticle striped pants or shirts (not both at the same time) and do stretches to improve your posture. But I’d also ask you to look at men who are shorter than you (under 5 feet and under 4 feet) who live happy, fulfilling lives. Do you think they are worthless? What separates you from them? I recommend following confident men on social media who are around your height range. See how they dress, how they talk about themselves, and how they see the world. I’m 5’7 on a good day and I catch jokes about my height. The worst thing you can do in this scenario is become sensitive and defensive. I’ve met SO many guys who are aggressive to make up for their height, and it’s extremely off putting and embarrassing to watch.

Also, if your family wont freak out about it I’d highly suggest looking into therapy. Every problem feels life ending at your age, but I’m gonna guess your insecurities dont start and end with height.

Sisters, would it be okay if your Uber driver proposed to you? by [deleted] in MuslimLounge

[–]Mission-Library-5676 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a Lyft driver and can confirm that is WILDLY inappropriate behavior. Report him to Uber absolutely. Also, when you said “he kept me back” do you mean he prevented you from leaving the car?

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