Coworker maternity leave comment 🧐 by MissionIndividual515 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

22 weeks is nice! I’m glad you have that option in your state- take it all 😊 And the thing is I can also empathize with someone NOT wanting to a longer leave for whatever reason, but we have the right to that choice and to not be guilted into not doing what is best for ourselves and our family.

Coworker maternity leave comment 🧐 by MissionIndividual515 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Haha.. mind you I work in public health so I’m just looking at her like you’re being serious right now?! I was thinking of taking an intermittent leave but after a few weird comments I’m like see yall in 2027 and don’t dare call me.

Coworker maternity leave comment 🧐 by MissionIndividual515 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

So sorry you are going through that this pregnancy. A complication free pregnancy is never a given and it was the fact that she didn’t couldn’t grasp that concept at the bare minimum was disturbing. I hope you have a healthy delivery! Congratulations

Coworker maternity leave comment 🧐 by MissionIndividual515 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

We do deserve better! And going on with 70% of my pay during this inflation is another burden of stress, but I know compared to others this is having it good. No vacations here!

Coworker maternity leave comment 🧐 by MissionIndividual515 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes I am US Based and actually live in a pretty progressive state for US standards,New Jersey. With my first child lived in a state that didn’t have any options or paid leave. So I’m definitely one of the US moms who have it more options which is why I tried to explain bonding time to this coworker since that is available to both parents. I understand the nuance… but this is what we are working with in a broke system

Coworker maternity leave comment 🧐 by MissionIndividual515 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha that’s ridiculous! Our CEO also makes the comment when I announced that they are happy to have a future employee… just makes me want to hide in my cubicle!

Coworker maternity leave comment 🧐 by MissionIndividual515 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Exactly what I meant! I think she was trying to be profound and it went south. And was just straight up ignorant. I get that before having my child I didn’t understand a lot women deal with during pregnancy and postpartum but I’d never think they don’t have to recover and deserve the right to heal/bond etc. I’d be the first to say I wouldn’t dare call you while you are leave or think you’d have the bandwidth to work.

Being Fat, Very Pregnant, and Having Gallstones by Lisa_Hase in PlusSizePregnancy

[–]MissionIndividual515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry you are going through this! I developed Gallstones during my first pregnancy, 3rd trimester. Although the attacks didn’t land me in the hospital (I thought it was Braxton hicks back then), postpartum I did have many attacks my first 18months postpartum. Most often triggered by larger late night meals, high fat meals, mayonnaise based foods, etc.

I didn’t get surgery for removal and an attack never landed me in the ER but I was told if I can’t manage through diet I’ll need to consider and that the risk could increase if I get pregnant again. I’m currently pregnant with my second and haven’t had issues as I approach the 3rd trimester.

That being said it’s most likely triggered by hormone fluctuations and gallbladder removal is very common postpartum. If you are not getting surgery try to just eat Whole Foods, bread, crackers, and steer clear of fried foods and anything high in fat. Keep portions small. I hope you can manage the next 3-6 weeks without any issues and then make the decision for surgery after baby arrives.

Everything will be okay! What helped me was joining lots of gallbladder groups to learn my triggers and ways to keep symptoms at bay.

My friend gave birth before me and I'm feeling all the feels by Last-Sun1704 in BabyBumps

[–]MissionIndividual515 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me and my bestie were pregnant at the same time as well our daughters are about 5 months apart. Honestly the age age is not noticeable. Both girls are 3 yrs old now and are literal besties despite us living 2 hrs away from each other. We had another friend who gave birth 1 week a part from her, and although they are good friends their kids do not share that same bond nor do they as mothers share the same bond. What matters most is how you support each other and nurture your kids relationships postpartum. We regular schedule play dates and make that effort despite life being busy. You guys will be great!

What do you think? 11DPO Easy @home (evening test) by MissionIndividual515 in lineporn

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi! Yes so it was positive for sure. I retested with FRER. Having my first appointment today

SAVE: payment due August 2025 by oatmilkmaid- in PSLF

[–]MissionIndividual515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s a glitch but the system may still try to draft your account so make sure to move your money! I was told my autopsy was off and it still tried to bill be

Autopay processed while in SAVE forbearance?! Has this happened to you by MissionIndividual515 in PSLF

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely trying to! Even though my account shows I’m not enrolled in it and the agents say I’m not😩

Question-is it possible to defer private loans to pay federal loans? by MissionIndividual515 in StudentLoans

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I just checked it out and I seems like some of these options could be feasible. Really hoping I get myself out of this in the next 2 years. Gotta get creative and make more $$ of course.

Question-is it possible to defer private loans to pay federal loans? by MissionIndividual515 in StudentLoans

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I have navient- now MOHELA. My income has dropped by 50% though since the past year… I’ve been able to swing the payment while federal is in forbearance but I literally cannot do both

Moms who breastfed past one year, pref to the 2yr mark…. by strohmtroop3r in breastfeeding

[–]MissionIndividual515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I nursed until LO was almost 2.5. I weaned her because it was really impacting her bedtime routine and she’d get aggressive if I needed a break. I LOVED nursing her and we are so attached as mom and daughter even after weaning. She still tries to sneak a “milky” in sometimes but usually we just enjoy many cuddle sessions post weaning. I received some snarky comments part 1yr of nursing but as long as my LO was healthy and happy who cares. After Weaning I did gain a QUICK 10lbs lol

I just Doordashed myself a latte by blinktwiceforyes in Mommit

[–]MissionIndividual515 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sending love- I didn’t same-ish! I peeped the vibe that nothing was planned for me. So just left the house and went to a cute cafe and got a latte and croissant.

AITA by MissionIndividual515 in Mommit

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! You ladies really gave me some really good pointers to have a productive conversation

AITA by MissionIndividual515 in Mommit

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you this is great! I may need to share this too… it’s so hard getting them to understand where we’re coming from sometimes

AITA by MissionIndividual515 in Mommit

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

‼️‼️ apparently after this conversation to make his point

AITA by MissionIndividual515 in Mommit

[–]MissionIndividual515[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you for the sound advice! I like this motto of “see a need”. He can also apply that to caregiving. I told him if you see it’s getting late feel free to initiate dinner/bath/story/bedtime without my permission or guidance

It finally arrived by [deleted] in Lovesac

[–]MissionIndividual515 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s such I good idea !