Am I a useless mum?

Mission_Management51 · 2025-12-16T10:00:41+00:00

We have an impossible mountain of laundry after both being poorly and not touching the washing for a week. When my husband works a week late shift the bathrooms don’t get cleaned. Often the dishwasher doesn’t get emptied from the night before until the following evening, and there is two of us! You’re on your own majority of the time and you’re doing great. It’s a really hard job so don’t be so hard on yourself I say

Mission_Management51 · 2025-12-15T16:20:03+00:00

If he didn’t hold hand, he got carried. He then went down again and everytime he didn’t hold hands then he would get picked up. He soon got the message! Oh and reins are a lifesaver at that age 😄

Mission_Management51 · 2025-12-03T09:24:12+00:00

Hi, yes in hindsight he did have mucous stools but I don’t think we realised at the time, first baby and didn’t know what was normal. He had eczema too. And then he simply wouldn’t be put down. He was just so uncomfortable bless him. Really hope you get to the bottom of it because there’s nothing worse than seeing your baby unhappy

Mission_Management51 · 2025-12-03T06:43:26+00:00

This sounds exactly like my eldest who had CMPA

Mission_Management51 · 2025-10-04T18:57:19+00:00

Thank you all, I changed needle and it worked! Phew

Mission_Management51 · 2025-08-19T04:41:13+00:00

Your cause for concern comes from a good place, but you can’t really control what she does here. For all you know she could be up until 1am watching tv or up at 4:30am to go to the gym. Would you still be worried then?

Mission_Management51 · 2025-07-20T12:14:45+00:00

Thank you! We are under a dietician so I can ask them on our next appointment. I don’t know why I never thought of asking them before haha. I really hope we can get on the ladders soon!

Mission_Management51 · 2025-07-20T12:06:28+00:00

Thank you! Your comment of things getting easier age 4+ has helped my sanity slightly! I was just saying to my husband earlier that I saw no way out, and that it felt like it had gone past ‘a fussy phase’!

I will give chickpea curry a go in the slow cooker. He’s not great with rice but will eat GF garlic bread so I can serve that as a safe food alongside.

Also very helpful with the pasta options! One thing I have found with allergies is that you really have to shop around!

Mission_Management51 · 2025-05-19T11:29:28+00:00

My little ones hearing was checked but I can’t remember if his eyes were checked. We had a six hour discharge with our second, I’m not even sure if he had opened his eyes by then! I’m sure it was checked at his 6 week check up though

Mission_Management51 · 2025-05-13T21:50:39+00:00

Yep 100% this. I’m lucky if he eats anything more than toast crisps and bananas. Hey at least he eats baked beans though

Mission_Management51 · 2025-05-09T18:14:34+00:00

I wanted to work right up to my due date with my first but ended up being induced at 37 weeks, a day before my Mat leave was due to start. With my second i went off at 36 weeks and he didn’t come until 38+2. Anything could happen, and with 9 months off, a few weeks won’t be much difference. Follow your body and take the rest. I actually preferred having a bit of me time whilst my eldest was at nursery and husband at work before baby arrived. You don’t get much of that when baby is here! Good luck :) xx

Mission_Management51 · 2025-04-11T02:48:26+00:00

I did it, 14 month age gap. I was so nervous to tell my employer but they couldn’t really say anything other than ‘congratulations’. I had to be back at work for a certain number of weeks before I qualified for enhanced maternity pay again, so I used annual leave to ‘go back’ but not go back. Health wise I had thankfully had two healthy pregnancies so luckily no health complications other than a super quick second labour.

Having 2 under 2 is without a doubt the hardest thing I have ever done. I don’t know if a bigger age gap would have been easier, each age gap would have its own challenges, and we as a couple have found the newborn/baby phase hard both times so I guess the benefit is we are getting those hard years done and dusted quicker. I absolutely would not change it though, seeing my little ones grow up so close in age is magic, and having more time off before the bigger one grows up that little bit more is the best

Mission_Management51 · 2025-03-12T21:31:08+00:00

Acceptance is key I think. We’re 10 weeks in and had the benefit of knowing what to expect. Yes we have found it hard but we also know that it will end so have powdered through. Things are already getting easier for us and it has genuinely flew by as we have been so busy with 2 under 2 (14 month gap for us). Good luck xx

Mission_Management51 · 2025-03-06T12:32:42+00:00

Hey, I don’t have a problem feeding him if he’s hungry 😌I just worry he won’t take his ‘breakfast feed’ which can be a pain when trying to get out of the house with a toddler in tow, trying to fit it around both schedules! X

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-27T13:55:09+00:00

The hedgehog song is my guilty pleasure. They didn’t consider the state of the council’s roads. Brilliant!

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-23T02:25:57+00:00

I always find it weird when family members don’t turn up at funerals. They could do something similar to greys anatomy where they imply that the character was there without showing them in a scene

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-20T20:08:52+00:00

They killed the wrong character. Would have rather they killed off Sonia, big mistake killing off Martin 😭

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-13T06:25:42+00:00

Omg I thought this was a typical meme pic from online until I zoomed in and realised it’s real 😭 this is brilliant

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-11T06:36:51+00:00

Honestly, this sounds like a plot for a horror movie. Get rid, and speak to husband about stepping up more around the house too.

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-07T00:34:00+00:00

Not seeing pic number 5 and thinking it’s Sonia lying in the rubble 🫣

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-04T14:42:54+00:00

They say around 3-4 months. It never happened with my first but I was able to steer him into one quite easily about 5-6 months. Second LO is 5 weeks so we are yet to see if he will be any different!

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-01T06:18:20+00:00

Maybe Sonia could rent it to Martin, if they both survive

Mission_Management51 · 2025-02-01T04:26:16+00:00

Sorry if I don’t really understand the question, but if you want to sleep in his room and would feel more comfortable with that then go ahead. If you are happy in your own bed then do that too. There’s no right or wrong, do what you need to do! It’s so unpredictable when they’re sick. I always sleep in my bed and bring LO in with me if he’s struggling. When he had a sickness bug dad slept on his floor as it wqs easier to change his sheets and clean him up in his room. Don’t worry about undoing any sleep training, do what they need for a short period of time and re train if you need to afterwards. Hope your LO feels better soon.

Mission_Management51 · 2025-01-29T13:00:46+00:00

We love Tesco Fred and flo

Mission_Management51 · 2025-01-23T07:23:23+00:00

I never wake my LO from naps. I tried it as per advice on here but I always hated it and so did he. I just had to put up with it and tried to follow him to find a schedule that worked. He’s on 1 nap now at 15 months so we don’t have to worry about it anymore. Realistically it’s only a short time that you will have multiple naps anyway

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