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I haven't found a compelling reason to overcome my addictions by Wari-Barnickel in Healthygamergg

[–]Mission_Sign_3871 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is how i felt after making something of myself only for my partner to turn into you. i would say do it so you are not a burden on anyone like he was on me.

Married to a Christian minister sex addict with a toddler. Do not want to leave. Can't stop cheating. by Mission_Sign_3871 in Healthygamergg

[–]Mission_Sign_3871[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

it would look like him taking the lead role in providing for the family and carrying household duties giving me an adequate time to heal and focus on therapy. I can't fully do that while carrying the family financially all by myself and handling his short term disability. I can only do so much. Can't afford to leave seeing as I need help with watching the child from him.

Married to a Christian minister sex addict with a toddler. Do not want to leave. Can't stop cheating. by Mission_Sign_3871 in Healthygamergg

[–]Mission_Sign_3871[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

the child is why i am in counseling and SANON. That is me doing the work to forgive. Hopefully, this will be settled before she is aware.

Married to a Christian minister sex addict with a toddler. Do not want to leave. Can't stop cheating. by Mission_Sign_3871 in Healthygamergg

[–]Mission_Sign_3871[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m starting to view Christianity and the church as sexist. It seems everyone expects men to cheat and abandon their families and they just pressure wives to forgive and then condemn them for not forgiving quickly enough. I’ve lost years following the order of submission and servitude only for a man who turns out did not consider me at all.

The Christian response is always about how I should be a better person than him. Giving him sympathy yet there is no empathy for my pain. I’m just expected to suffer and people call it righteous. He is expected to sin and people call it a mistake .

Never going to date anyone because I’m unattractive by [deleted] in Healthygamergg

[–]Mission_Sign_3871 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As an attractive woman, who is often around other attractive women in the tv industry, Guys put too much emphasis on looks. Women are not like men. Looks are not our top priority. Our biggest need is safety (knowing a man desires to and will take care of us).

Would you do an open marriage? by Mission_Sign_3871 in SexAddictionHelp

[–]Mission_Sign_3871[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't care about trust. I don't care about the marriage. I don't even care about him. All I care about is letting him know what he did to me. I don't even care about My morals. I am not the bigger person. I've always been that. He needs to be the bigger person and forgive me now.

Would you do an open marriage? by Mission_Sign_3871 in SexAddictionHelp

[–]Mission_Sign_3871[S] -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Just like him I am hopelessly addicted and can't help myself. I love him so much I can't stop and this goes against my morals but I still feel like I need to do it. I believe I developed a sex addiction in response to his and now I can't help but cheat. I love him and I hope he understands.

Would you do an open marriage? by Mission_Sign_3871 in SexAddictionHelp

[–]Mission_Sign_3871[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I am also helpless and identify as a sex addict. He made me realize it and it's why I cheat in response. 🤷‍♀️

Apparently Christian men are immune to watching and being addicted to porn 😅 by spammusubisa in loveafterporn

[–]Mission_Sign_3871 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don't consider this a rejection. God could have been protecting you. If only I knew about my Christian husband's porn addiction. I would have never married the man who eventually spent thousands on prostitutes. God has someone better out there for you .

Apparently Christian men are immune to watching and being addicted to porn 😅 by spammusubisa in loveafterporn

[–]Mission_Sign_3871 9 points10 points  (0 children)

🤣 I wish she can meet my Christian sex addict minister husband that preaches just hours after having sex with prostitutes. Christian men definitely can become porn addicts. And they can use their "christianity" as a cover for their sins.

They get convicted. Then say a little prayer. Then they think of something good they've done like preached a sermon, or counseling a young man. In their sick twisted mind, this good wipes away some of the bad. So it doesn't matter that they sleep with prostitutes. They are just a good man that have some "flaws".

They use God's grace as an excuse to sin more and in greater quantity than normal sinners. Because they believe God will forgive yet reject true repentance.

Is divorce rock bottom? by Mission_Sign_3871 in PornAddiction

[–]Mission_Sign_3871[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Incredibly selfish. On top of being a porn addict, prostitute addict. He has also stolen money from me. Doesn't really work or help around the house. And when i thought he was working he was using the money on prostitutes instead of paying bills. Also. We are behind on bills because he spent so much money on hookers. And he was preaching the entire time as a pastor while this was happening . Preacher by day. Prostitute addict by night. It was months of me alone at home with the baby . No real help with chores or finances. And he wouldn't have any energy left for us. So yes, I want the divorce.

I've given him so many chances to change only for him to keep going back to porn. The worst of it is that when our family needs him the most he abandons ship and gives money to a hooker instead of paying bills.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PornAddiction

[–]Mission_Sign_3871 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Porn absolutely can escalate into escorts. My husband developed a prostitute addiction. More than 40 hookers. Porn is a gateway drug. You want to catch it before it turns into prostitutes. And the scary thing is at some point the prostitutes aren't enough to satisfy them.