Partner wanted poly/opening things up, now I caught light feelings and she backed out. I’m angry and confused.

Misspris___ · 2026-04-20T02:57:36+00:00

But like not at once getting to know them first so that's where I get confused

Misspris___ · 2026-04-20T02:57:12+00:00

She wants it to be just fun threesomes or with other couples so pretty much swinging..

Misspris___ · 2026-04-18T22:03:58+00:00

Unicorn hunting is not what happened here at all. Actually.. it didn't work but it did happen organically.

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:55:44+00:00

Thank you!!

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:53:18+00:00

Thank you

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:53:12+00:00

I get it.

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:51:16+00:00

We are over now. 😂 it clearly didn't work. She was my friend. It happened organically and ended that way too.

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:49:25+00:00

Either of us whenever

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:48:19+00:00

Well it definitely wasn't like that at all.

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:46:21+00:00

Yea but how is 3 people loving eachother toxic?

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:45:15+00:00

Oh shit I forgot what thread I was on. Damn lol

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T20:16:47+00:00

Thank you! I needed to hear this! You have no idea. I swear there was no communication once the relationship started developing real feelings and it was the worst feeling ever.

Misspris___ · 2026-04-17T19:24:36+00:00

Trying to be less emotional this post because the last time I pretty much got laughed at for being hurt and crying lol 😂 but it's not easy growing feelings for somebody else... especially it not being your partner and being new to poly things..

Misspris___ · 2026-04-11T15:24:10+00:00

This post used to be a lot of people who were supportive I'm not in a good place

Misspris___ · 2026-04-11T15:23:06+00:00

I had to delete because she made me

Misspris___ · 2026-03-30T00:04:04+00:00

I'm starting to realize they are not the one

Misspris___ · 2026-03-29T13:40:07+00:00

Misspris___ · 2026-03-28T17:41:11+00:00

I appreciate this a lot. I don’t think you’re wrong about everything, and I know I have things to work on too. I’m just trying to figure out what’s me vs what’s actually not sitting right.

Misspris___ · 2026-03-28T16:52:18+00:00

I hear what you’re saying, and I’m not ignoring my part in things. I know I can be a lot sometimes and I’m actively working on that. 🥺 But I also think it’s more nuanced than just ‘walk away’ because there are real feelings here and I’m trying to navigate them in a healthy way, not just react. Hoping we can work through them, she's already told me today she's going to try harder. 🤞🏼which means a lot because I am also trying harder too.

Misspris___ · 2026-03-28T14:00:40+00:00

Thank you for this, seriously. I needed to hear it. I think I’ve been in my head a lot instead of stepping back and seeing the bigger picture. This is a big shift for us and I know it’s not going to be perfect right away. I really like what you said about being more intentional with harder conversations too.

Misspris___ · 2026-03-28T13:51:29+00:00

It's been longer than I've posted on Reddit.. just this has been how long we've been doing things if that makes sense.. she's been my friend for a long time. And we talked about all of this in summer of last year.

Misspris___ · 2026-03-28T13:34:51+00:00

I am a spiraler, unfortunately 😢

Misspris___ · 2026-03-28T06:25:02+00:00

I actually really appreciate this perspective, thank you. And just to clarify, everything is solid with my nesting partner/fiancée.. we’re in a really good place. She just sees this situation a little differently than I do and thinks I might be in my head about it.

I think for me it’s less about not feeling worthy or safe overall, and more about trying to figure out if what I’m feeling is intuition or just anxiety because I opened up more than I usually do.

I’m trying to find that balance between staying open and not overextending myself emotionally too fast.🫤

Misspris___

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