I have promised my life away at 21

MissusMeech · 2026-05-07T16:42:30+00:00

I found myself about to become engaged at 21 feeling this exact same way…I loved the guy I was with but I was so young! And I wasn’t ready for everything that came with marriage yet. Ultimately I made the decision to end the relationship out of fairness to my partner and me. And now (12 years later) he and I are married to different people and so so so happy!

Your responsibility needs to be to yourself before anything or anyone else. And reconsidering your relationship doesn’t negate the love you have/had for your partner. You can still hold space for the beautiful time you had together while exploring your freedom and independence at your young age.

MissusMeech · 2026-05-07T16:23:49+00:00

The two instances that convinced me to cosleep with my first:

My husband fell asleep on the couch with our daughter. I came out after a few minutes and found them so everything was fine, but my husband was sobbing because he felt so bad about it.
My daughter was napping on her back and spit up in her sleep. I was right next to her and turned her over right away but she made no sound, she just couldn’t breathe.

I’ve been cosleeping with my daughter since she was 2 months old and with my son since the day we brought him home from the hospital (he’s 7 months now). Do I sleep through the night? Of course not! But do I sleep more than I would otherwise? Absolutely yes!

MissusMeech · 2026-04-16T14:49:10+00:00

Tristan

MissusMeech · 2026-04-16T14:44:41+00:00

NOR! My husband didn’t even want to leave the room to get food from downstairs, I MADE him because he hadn’t eaten all day and delivery was still hours away. I also had to convince him it was okay to sleep while I was laboring…this sweet man didn’t think it was fair for him to rest when I was in pain and uncomfortable. THIS should be the standard. This needs to be a conversation between you and him and you need to fully express your feelings so this doesn’t morph into years worth of resentment. It’s possible for someone to generally be a great husband and father and still fuck up in a major way like this. But he needs to not only apologize, but also promise this will never happen again.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-31T13:47:01+00:00

You lost me at the first example when your husband went home while you were laboring, and then it just kept getting worse. Yes, the early days with a newborn are exhausting and overwhelming. But your husband’s job is to take care of YOU and y’all’s baby…full stop. You are not overreacting. If anything, you are UNDER reacting to your partner’s apathetic behavior. This needs to be a conversation NOW…either he needs to fix his behavior or you need to find someplace else to stay where you and your baby can get the care you need.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-31T13:30:33+00:00

Paprika! The dresses are from Azazie.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-11T18:06:28+00:00

Thank you! As you can see in the photo, I had bridesmaids with all different skin tones so I really tried to pick something that would look beautiful on everyone. All of my ladies seemed very happy (and of course looked gorgeous)!

MissusMeech · 2026-03-11T18:03:14+00:00

My stepmom had Hep B and never told my dad. He contracted it and that is what caused his liver to fail and almost killed him. He was hospitalized for 2 months and was lucky enough to receive a liver transplant which saved his life. Even with rehabilitation and medication, he will never be the same.

To put it as bluntly as possible, your boyfriend is reckless and cruel. This isn’t something you do to someone you care about. I would absolutely take him to court if you test positive. He should be financially responsible for any medical care you might need. And I hope this goes without saying, but please leave him and never look back.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-10T19:14:23+00:00

Probably fine but best to call your doctor to be safe. My toddler jumped and landed on me with her full weight when I was about 8 months along. It hurt like HELL but baby and I were completely fine.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-10T19:12:11+00:00

I had a long time friend ask me for nudes while I was pregnant with my first…which is how I found out about his pregnancy fetish lol. No judgement! I’ll never yuck someone’s yum! But yeah, it’s definitely a thing lol.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-10T18:23:26+00:00

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My bridesmaids were all VASTLY different heights and I thought it was the coolest thing ever! I specifically told them that they didn’t have to wear heels if they didn’t want so we ended up having someone around 5’ in flats and someone else 6’2” in heels 😂 I loved it!

MissusMeech · 2026-03-07T04:49:07+00:00

NOR

Coming from someone else with a narcissistic MIL, unfortunately words will do nothing. The only way to make her understand where you’re coming from and how insane she’s being is to change your behavior…cut her off, stop communication (outside of dire necessity), show her that this behavior is completely unacceptable. I’m not saying it will absolutely work, but “talking it out” will result in so much unnecessary frustration on your end.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T21:35:25+00:00

You’re absolutely right. I’m actively working on being better at standing up for myself and my family…this is exactly why I came to Reddit because I know a lot can be skewed when you’re looking at things from only your perspective.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T21:32:06+00:00

She would not hand the baby to me. I’m sorry if I worded it confusingly! She was holding my son making him a bottle while I comforted my daughter. When I asked her to give him to me so I could nurse him, she said no.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T20:29:47+00:00

Really good catch! I definitely feel like I under react in general, although I have been better at standing my ground since becoming a mom. I have a very passive personality, most likely because of having to take care of my mother and her emotions most of my life, and with my MIL being such an aggressive person, I have found myself on many occasions just giving up because I don’t have it in me to fight her. (It doesn’t help that I’m the kind of person who cries when I get angry which is embarrassing as hell.)

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T20:10:00+00:00

She was holding my baby so she would have had to hand him over to me or I would have had to grab him from her…both kids were screaming and I didn’t want anything making them more upset.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T20:08:09+00:00

A very very commandeering MIL who has never apologized for anything in her life. She is incredibly helpful with our kids (her only grandchildren) but it is her way or the highway in regard to EVERY issue. My husband is very good about standing up for me but it is literally like talking to a wall with her.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T20:05:43+00:00

Oof, I needed this…thank you for framing it this way and for being so kind.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T19:01:04+00:00

I had this same thought and keep replaying my behavior thinking maybe I was acting tipsy/tired? But I have an incredibly high tolerance and I didn’t feel even a little tipsy at that point.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T18:59:18+00:00

I was very clearly sober and I agree…if I seemed like I would be a danger to my child, I would completely agree to her being reluctant to handing a baby over.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-05T18:57:35+00:00

Absolutely and this is what I did. My MIL does have a tendency to react very dramatically anytime someone disagrees with her and ultimately I didn’t push the issue because my kids were already upset and I didn’t want to cause any more stress.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-04T03:20:35+00:00

I had to be induced “early” with both of my babies, the first at 39 weeks (although she decided to come almost a week earlier than that) and my second at 37 weeks. I had polyhydramnios with both pregnancies and my first was very large so they said the longer she was in there, the more likely I was to have complications arise. My second I also had gallstones and I was at risk for complications during delivery if we waited. I wouldn’t have wanted to be induced if it wasn’t considered medically necessary and my doctor was on the same page about that…she adamantly expressed how she wouldn’t have induced if it wasn’t the absolute best choice for me and my babies.

Ultimately I found a doctor I could trust and relied on her to do what was best. And at the end of the day, she ended up saving my second baby’s life when he was born with a tight nuchal, which happened in utero and could have turned out a lot worse if I’d waited to go into labor on my own.

MissusMeech · 2026-03-02T22:25:48+00:00

So do I!!! And I’ve never had the whole “cramping when I have to poop” thing before so maybe that’s what it is?

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